My friend lost her virginity at the age of 11!!! I just found out!!!!!! No worries shes 15 now. Her 13 yr old cousin slept wit her!!! Now she won't talk to me because he told me that! WHAT SHOULD I TELL HER????????
2007-05-16 11:53:35 · 14 answers · asked by NeeNee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie,basicly the first thing is that you should not judge her.She didnt want anyone to know,and he was wrong for speaking up and telling you.Dont further the rumors as she is your friend.You are her friend,and all you can do is be there for her.Reassure her that it wont go any further,and dont judge her based on her experiences.Odds are,shes embarassed enough about this.Just make sure she knows you are there for her reguardless,and that you are her friend and you wont speak about it any more,but if she needs to talk or discuss it then you are there.Other than that,it really isnt your place to say anything.Let her have her time,eventually shell come around.Until then make her aware you are there for her,and let it go at that.Give her the space she needs.Good luck hun and have a good day!!
2007-05-16 11:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't freak tou about it. It was her decision not hers. If you freak out she's going to think badly about yourself and you don't want to do that to her because she's your friend. It is really wrong/ nasty she did it with her cousin, but as a freind you need to move on and accept it. It's in the past and she can't change what she's done. Just Chillll lol
2007-05-16 18:58:12 · answer #2 · answered by Juls 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG was she raped or did she do it with her own free will. Tell her how you feel about it and ask her if she is ok if it was rape. I mean she is prob embarassed if it wasnt and just tell her that her secret is safe, that is what friends are for, But if she was raped you should deffinently try and comfort her and be there for her
2007-05-16 18:56:53 · answer #3 · answered by Sexylova49 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMFG!! is right. I think that you should tell her that you arent going to udge her for what happened and let it go. But that is really sick and I am from the south....lol. Dont let it ruin yalls freindship.
2007-05-16 19:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by daisydownsouth 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if this was, what,,, four years ago.. I would leave it alone, calm down, and let her feel like when she is ready if she wants to talk to you about it she can, and make sure she can see that you will not freak out, and you will listen. she was to young to say much about it... if i were you let her know you are hear for her,, if she decides to talk about it..
2007-05-16 19:05:53 · answer #5 · answered by horselover 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't tell her anything. She doesn't want to talk to you right now, why would you force her to do something she doesn't want too. You will hurt her and make her embarrased. Do you hate her?
Leave her be, when and if she is ready she will talk to you.
2007-05-16 18:57:24 · answer #6 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh, first off is that legal? And secondly, don't freak out on her like you are doing now just be calm and normal and if she says she doesn't want to talk about it then don't pressure her
2007-05-16 18:56:34 · answer #7 · answered by Noname 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
omfg 11 and omg just say its no big deal and you wont tel l anyone
2007-05-16 18:56:46 · answer #8 · answered by i love you <3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you aren't judging her and that u dont see her any diff than u did before!
2007-05-16 19:43:55 · answer #9 · answered by Triple X 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you don't think any less of her.
2007-05-16 18:56:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋