so two nights agoi call this girl im somewhat seeing. she answers all happy and extatic and says" hey jason, what are you doing?" now this is her ex-boyfirend. i just blew it off until the next day when i tore her apart. i told i can't trust her and she needs to come clean. so i call her later that night and wanna =talk with her and she siad she didn't apprecitate theat. tehn she goes on and tells me her caller id was acting up on cell phone. and she was waiting for a call from him. whihc i'm totally confused by becaus eshe claims he hit her and treated her like crap. now she won't talk to me. Should i have yelled at her? my buddies think so but i need outside help.
2007-05-16 11:44:25 · 19 answers · asked by Anghellic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't bother to yell....its time to move on................
2007-05-24 11:47:45 · answer #1 · answered by Marie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never yell before asking. Always give her a chance to say the truth. How do you know her caller ID wasn't going wrong. Or are you just worried that she likes her ex, this Jason guy more than you? Women take longer to get over relationships, regardless if they admit it or not. It may also be confusing as to why she is excited to hear from him if he did in fact treat her badly. Well sometimes when you like someone, and miss them, you don't care weather they treated you bad or not, but then when you are with them, you suddenly care again.
What's done is done, try to ask her forgiveness and try to explain that you like her and it made you a little sick that she was so excited to see, er rather hear from a guy that treated her badly than she is to see you.
Maybe this will help, I hope so, and good luck.
2007-05-16 11:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, your buddies are also guys. this could cause a problem lol. guys handle the situations way out of hand. no you shouldnt have yelled at her, its ok to feel upset a little bit but just talk to her and be understanding. yelling is not the answer esp. if she was in an abusive relationship before. you need to apoligize for yelling and not being understanding and then just talk gently to her about it and tell her why you were upset. if you show your feelings, it will make her look highly on you...trust me. good luck :)
2007-05-16 11:51:18 · answer #3 · answered by kay114 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you shoulda yelled at her, especially cuz her old bf used to abuse her so it looks much much worse in her eyes than yours. It does sound kinda fishy tho and if she's even TALKING to the guy that's HIT her, it's definitely not a good sign. from the sounds of it, i don't think you're ready for a girl with that much emotional baggage and SHE needs some therapy before she can commit to another relationship. And she obviously has not let go of feelings for her ex regardless of her admitting it or not, because anyone would want the person who ABUSED them to suffer horribly if they were REALLY over it. good luck dude!
2007-05-16 11:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by Real Talk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOur are not in the wrong, i am sorry if a guy hits me and its over...its over for good...plus she should not be talking to you and him its wrong....you might of should have told her on the phone when she did it...and the excuse she gave you with the caller id was a lie so dont buy it ...I personally would have went psycho on a situation like that...I dont think your wrong. If i where you I would leave her alone, she sounds like she likes to be treated like crap. HOPE THIS HELPS
2007-05-16 11:51:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to give her a little bit of slack it sounds as though this girl is having some trouble right now and im pretty sure that the last thing she needs is you too be yelling at her... Give her a break... take her on a nice romantic date and have a talk with her... she will be fine eventually
good luck
2007-05-16 11:51:52 · answer #6 · answered by *~*Volleyball player*~* 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's sounds like she did it on accident. I can kinda understand why you're upset, but I don't think that that's a legit reason to blow her off... it's not really that serious... compared to some of the other things people do to their gf or bf.
2007-05-24 11:50:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! She is obviously keeping something from you...namely her ex. The bigger question was why was she expecting a call. You deserve someone who is honest and she obviously has issues if she even speaks to someone who hit her. Her loss move on!!
2007-05-16 14:25:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk with her and find out the truth,If supposably he beats on her tell her you want proof or turn him in! If he threatened her,then she needs to take matters in her own hands and deal with that situation herself,and put him in his place,and NOT take that abuse!Good luck
2007-05-16 11:51:49 · answer #9 · answered by bambi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** that ***** *** hoe! SHE was in the wrong and you can't allow her to turn this all on you. That's what she wants. She just want you to come back begging for her, when it was her being a slut that started all of this in the firt place. Dump her, if she wanna get beat on, then let her. Don't try to save a hoe, it's just a waste of time!
2007-05-16 11:49:47 · answer #10 · answered by Pinky Dinky Doo 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She was not worth it and was obviously lying to you. You did NOT go wrong anywhere! Leave her out of your life and find a girl who honest, trustworthy, reliable and that love you back. Trust me on this!
2007-05-24 11:01:21 · answer #11 · answered by Reba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋