Ok . . well my boyfriend of a yr and a half. broke up with me bcuz i lied about somthing. . . i dnt blame him but over the past 5 months ive proved to him that was a one and only thing. well he took me back but 2 weeks later told me he couldnt be with me bcuz he still cant trust me. it seems like one minute we're great the next he pushes me away. it hurts. . and it seems like the more i wait for him the more it hurts me. . . everyone tells me to move on. but i cant. everytime i try he acts like he wants me back. not to mention he's my first love. . it was love at first sight for me and he was my first everything. . . we've been through more than you can imagen but yet it seems like we cant work through this. . . i want to move on. . . . i just . . . cant. . . . what do i do and if i have to move on how do i do it ?
2007-05-16 10:47:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What did you lie about? Well... Do what I did with my guy... I stalked him til he gave in and realized that he'll be even more miserable without me than with me. I lie about things all the time but he's afraid of me so... We're getting married soon :) I made him propose... Get yourself a tazor gun! It works ;)
2007-05-16 10:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by Kaylee M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh sweetie. i was in almost the exact same positiion. it seems like you will never get over them and they were the best thingever. Ever since my break up (3 months ago) i have been very sad and just went to the theory that what is meant to be will happen. I know that is proably not what you want to hear. But i can't tell you that he was wrong and you will live happily with him. Give it time. Time hurts now, but time will reward you with so much more in the future. You can' tlet go now cause you are still in shock and you still really like him or even love him, but time will make all this pain slowly fade. I dont' know how long it will be because it is different for everyone but just hang in there. If you ever need to chat with someone, email me at mind_bender_cat@hotmail.com.i'll talk with you if you need to chat about it :) i found it helped if you shared what you were thinking with friends and let it all out until you just don' t need to a nymore. The best of luck and i'm sorry it ended but there is always something great coming up next for you i'm sure of it :)
2007-05-16 17:53:41 · answer #2 · answered by Stephie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel! Tell him everything! Tell him that in life people make mistakes but they learn from them, and that you have learned from your mistake! Tell him that you love him and it hurts you when he acts like this. Then tell him either he wants to be with you or not and if he says no then move and and don't look back! When he is around at first it will hurt but if you look at him that much and if you don't talk to him at first you will get through this! Some people want to be friends with their ex's but 80% of the time it will never work. You need not to care about how he feels and try to put your self first. If you do not talk to him for a while it gets easier and easier! Go out with your friends....Try to meet new people but most importantly have fun...
2007-05-16 17:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by Misty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I'm going through the same thing. and no matter who long u wait he'll still wont trust I hope you guy get back together, but from personal experience it wont work out.. Sometimes they don't no what they want, and will only want it when they can't have it.. I know its hard but just try to move it's hard I know but their are other guys out their that will appreciated you.. I know his your first love but if his hurting you over and over again than he really doesn't care that much...I wish you the best and it might be hard but just try 2 move on and find someone new that will love you..
2007-05-16 17:57:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok hunnie. First off, I think it's pretty sad that someone would break up with a person after one lie you've told. Everyone makes mistakes, and how sure are you of his fidelity? I think if it was that easy for him to let you go, you deserve better. I know it's hard to move on, but taking it one day at a time helps a lot. Forget about him for a while; maybe date a little, or just hang out with your friends. You'll forget him.
2007-05-16 17:52:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time will take care of it for you. After a while you will start thinking of him less and less until you have no feeling left for him. Well you might always have a little, but a lot less. You will move on find someone else and that will be it. Easier said then done I know. It's a slow and painful process. Keep your mind busy to distract yourself from thinking of him. That will help. Try taking up a hobby or something.
GOOD LUCK!!! :)
2007-05-16 17:55:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL, i have been through the same thing and yea, love hurts hurts like hell! but u shouldn't have lied. if u cant move on tell him how u feel confront him tell him ur sorry HONESTLY sorry and that u'll never do it again. and if he still doesn't believe u, try to date someone else. how exactly do u move on? by dating other people getting to kno them...... it helps.Sometimes they don't no what they want, and will only want it when they can't have it.. I know its hard but just try to move it's hard I know but their are other guys out their that will appreciated you.. I know his your first love but if his hurting you over and over again than he really doesn't care that much...I wish you the best and it might be hard but just try 2 move on and find someone new that will love you..
ALOT. dont freak, okay? even if he is ur 1st love dont worry, in time u'll move on and love some-one new, it may sound hard but its not. it may take a while but it'll happen dont sweat over it.
2007-05-16 17:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by bay_bear2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I lost my true love (I thought at the time) I remembered a saying my mom use to say......
Love is like a butterfly set it free and if one day it comes back then it is yours but if it never comes back then it wasn't meant to be yours.
Kind of weird I know but it is true. It is very hard but why not be friends for awhile and build up your trust and friendship again and then see where it goes from there. If you care for him as much as you say you do then just see where it goes. Also I hope he isn't coming back for *special things*. That means he is just using you and taking advantage of you. Believe me though it is hard but one day you will sit back and think about this time with a smile.
2007-05-16 17:55:23 · answer #8 · answered by mommyofone1998 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard time for you, trying to move past your first love..
But you have to, for your sanity, you just have to...
You made mistakes, learn from them, know what not to do next time...
I know this is hard to believe, but time heals all, eventually...
Soon you will be out laughing with friends again and wondering why you were so broke up over this...
And in time, you'll fall in love again and it will be so different this time...But take your time, get over this and enjoy your youth, God, it passes so quickly...
2007-05-16 17:55:25 · answer #9 · answered by Innisfil g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only have yourself to blame for this! If you loved him so much, then why did you lie? You need to accept the fact that you didn't love him as much as you thought you did or you wouldn't have done anything to ruin it! You'll get over him as soon as you start going out with someone else!
2007-05-16 17:51:52 · answer #10 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋