We broke up on bad terms, I left him for another guy. I didn't have the guts to tell him, so my then new BF called him and told him to stop calling, as I was now seing him. I was embarrassed, and did not get to call him as my cell phone was stolen right the next day. I know he still continued calling, but did not leave messages, but I never was able to talk to him myself. I feel really bad, and I have been thinking about him lately. Should I send him at least an email, and try to explain myself? I don't know what to do, we only dated for like 6 months. Althou we only dated for a few months, things got intense, things were going really good between us. As of today, I still don't know what came over me, and why made such stupid decisions. I don't want him back, I just want him to know that I know I made a mistake, and that I should not have hurt him like that, and that I am sorry. Should I call him?
2007-05-16 10:39:08 · 12 answers · asked by gatubela 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I did not ask my new boyfriend to call him for me. He took it up on himself to do it, then he told me about it after the fact.
2007-05-16 11:22:09 · update #1
This may not be the answer you are looking for... But, if I were him (you're ex) I would have moved on by now.... leaving you to deal with the pain and the need for closure that you are desperately seeking. (He made his attempt to reach out to you...and he's probably over all of that). I know this sucks... but, it's something you are just going to have to get over... You could try to call him... But, who's to say he wants to talk to you anymore? You broke his heart first... You two should both accept that and move on....
If you do decide to call him, ask yourself one thing? Are there any ulterior motives involved (or is it just surface value...you want closure)? If it's anything ulterior, you shouldn't even go there... rest assured it won't turn out the way you would like.
Advice, leave well enough alone, the need for closure is the price you're going to have to pay... Closure is never guaranteed.... and it's also never guaranteed to make you feel better.... leave well enough alone.
(Additionally, you two dated...I'm sure you've had other opportunities and ways by which you could have contacted him or run into him sooner... after 6 months...ya gotta let it go.)
2007-05-16 10:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that would be a good thing to do* Call him and explain exactly what you just said on here. If he won't take your call then definately email him explaining it all.
My ex b/friend cheated on me, never told me he was getting involved with someone..I found out..and emailed him as he wouldn't take my calls as he didn't know what to say (after 6yrs of being together)..he never responded to any of the questions I soo needed answers to..almost 9months later(just last week actually) he came online(we live in different towns) and finally I was able to get some of my answers to the questions I had for all these months. So Definately Call him and let him know you didn't mean to cause him any pain and you honestly don't have an answer as to why you did that ......Just be Open and HOnest then at least he can have proper closure. Best wishes* and I'm glad you want to make a wrong ...right again* It's the right thing to do*~
2007-05-16 10:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an ex do the exact same thing as you are pondering at the moment.
It was hard at first, because the guy will think you want to get back together with him, so you will basically be leading him on all over again. Even if you are upfront about it, I have a feeling it will cause memories to resurface just to be crushed again.
Just don't do it. Its better off that way.
2007-05-16 10:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by brandonb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. He is already hurt enough that you left him for another guy. If you talk to him, he's going to be really sensitive to anything you say even if you are trying to be nice, and he will probably get upset at you all over again because of the cruel way you ended things. He hasn't forgotten.
2007-05-16 10:43:16 · answer #4 · answered by sweetdreams99279 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
adult males at the instant are not as emotional and incredible directly to a thread of wish as women are. He probable purely desires to be certain the style you're doing because of the fact he now cares for you in extra of a pal kind way - I mean i think of alot of human beings wish they could be pals with their ex-boyfriends because of the fact I mean you spend time with somebody and share alot approximately your self in a dating and it is basically organic to maintain questioning how they're doing. He ought to probably be feeling you out for the possibility to make up yet basically time will tell. according to danger he has chanced on that the grass isn't greener on the different area of the fence!
2016-11-04 03:51:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him jus to explain yourself and let him know that u are sorry for what u did. If he really cares or cared about u he more than likely needs closure, and he needs it from U not ur new boyfriend
2007-05-16 10:45:01 · answer #6 · answered by ??cUrIoUs?? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. Im serious....if you get in touch it will just be rubbing salt into the wound. If he really wanted to see you he would have found a way. If you get in touch now it will be for you to make yourself feel better, not him.
2007-05-16 10:44:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you will only hurt him more if you try then things will be weird and he may still want you back.
2007-05-16 10:42:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call appologise for being childish and ask him if he wold like to meet for coffee to talk
2007-05-16 10:42:44 · answer #9 · answered by Baby G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell ******* yeah u should call him.. Don't miss out on him, he might be the one for u... Call him don't worry about it just do it...Good luck....
2007-05-16 10:44:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋