HELP Me PLEASE!?

Question

THERE IS THIS GUY AT MY SCHOOL AND IVE KNOWN HIM FOR THREE YEARS NOW. I HAVE ALWAYS KIND OF LIKED HIM AND HE IS SOOO SWEET AND ATHLETIC AND FUNNY BUT HE HAS THIS GIRL FRIEND NOW. SHE IS SOO JEALOUS BECAUSE SHE THINKS THAT IM TRYING TO STEAL HOM FROM HER. I LIKE HIM &I THINK I KNOW THAT HE LIKED ME WAY BACK WHEN WE FIRST ME AN I THINK HE LIKES ME NOW BUT HE JUST ISNT THE TYPE OF GUY TO JUST PUT HIMSELF OUT THERE LIKE THAT. WHAT SHOULD I DO ABOUT HIM AND WHAT SHOULD I DO ABOUT HIS GIRLFRIEND? .................................

P.S I CANT TELL HIM HOW I FEEL BECAUSE MY FRIEND WENT OUT WITH HIM BEFORE AND THAT IS WRONG EVEN THOUGH I KNEW HIM BEFORE HER.... HELLLLLP!

Answer 1

Now, now, now - did you really think that anyone was going to go ahead and give you "permission" or encouragement to put the moves on him even though you know he has a girlfriend - a suspicious one at that (and rightly so since you are obviously flirting around with him and he hasn't put a stop to it).

Say the very best scenario happens - he dumps his girlfriend to be with you - how do you know he won't do the same thing back to you in a few weeks or months. Every time he is a little bit late, or doesn't call when you hoped he would, or a cute girl starts chatting him up - then you would be the suspicious girlfriend. And since he did it to her - would he do it to you? I think you know the answer to that one. Don't put yourself in the position to ever know the answer to this question.

I also find it interesting that you are more willing to follow the girl code and not go after a guy your friend once liked, than to honor the chick code and not go after another chick's boyfriend.

Meeting a guy in the universe before all other girls does not give you all-time "dibs" on him.

Now, on the other hand, if they do happen to break up for whatever reason (having nothing to do with you), then you can go after him in a respectful way. If he is a bit shy just be friendly and accessible. Smile when you see him, be easily approachable. Don't start off a potential good thing on a slutty note, because that will set the stage for how the whole thing will go. And those type of hot fire meet-ups tend to burn out very very very quickly!

Just don't forget - what goes around comes around - this means that what you do in your life will come back to you the same way.

Answer 2

tell his girlfriend that she need so chillax. tell her that ur not trying to steel him from her. and if u think he likes u... well lets put this metaphorically..... pretend ur a lioness and he is a antolope.ok? go in for the kill a lion would not be afraid to kill an antolope, so dont be afraid to tell him how u feel.. and lets say his girlfriend is also a lion and so are u. now lets say he the new lion in town and she has already got him. ok? she is gaurding him and u want to get near him. and the only way to do that is if u confront the lioness. so confront her and tell her. well ask ur friend if it is okay with her firSt if it is than tell him how u feel..... if its not no hard feelings twords her. Its always best to ask b4 telling or dating ur friends x-b/f because if u dont that would really make them mad and u upset. so ask her first just to make sure its ok.

Answer 3

Stop typing in caps lock. It also isn't nessacary to use the word "soooo" to describe anything you feel is important. The sentences you type work equally as well without using adjectives sooooo over and over again.

Now to your question. Telling this guy how you feel is the best way to go about your problem. There are no "rights" or "wrongs" when dealing with relationships.

Answer 4

well if he went out with your friend then i suggest that you should talk to her and see whats the reason why they broke up. if it is because he's not a gentleman then you shouldn't go with him. nevermind about that jealous girl. she is jealous because she know that her boyfriend can be lost in any minute when he sees a beautiful and loving girl like you! just think carefully before you make a decision! good luck! (this happened to me b4, but i was the jealous one! LOL! :))

Answer 5

What do you want help with? You are so contradictory. Leave him alone. He has a gf and she doesn't have reason to be jealous but her assumptions that you are trying to steal him are true. Stop kidding yourself and let the past be the past. If he really wanted you, he would have put himself out there to date you like he did for his gf.

Answer 6

you should do what you feel is best for you, life is to short to be caring about what other people think. just because your friend went out with the guy and things didn't work out, doesn't mean that they won't work for you. (there isn't any rule that says its wrong) as far as his girlfriend goes, let her be jealous. i love jealous people. they are a very funny group of people to watch and to piss off. being jealous gets you nowhere, at least thats how i feel.

Answer 7

I'm having this exact problem too, but now I'm going out with the guy. What I did was i just stayed in a good friendship with him, and my friend. I told my friend I really liked the guy, and she said that was fine. Turns out she didn't really care. I then started to flirt with the guy and he said he liked me and then asked me out. The girlfriend wasn't too happy about it but she got over it after a little. A real friend would stay by your side no matter what.

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 8

well first of all. the main thing that will help this whole situatuion is to tell him sweetheart! i know you don't want to hurt your friend, but maybe you won't. . . talk to her first, and see what she says about it and if she gets mad just talk through it with her. She really shouldnt get upset because you can't help that you like him! but whatever you do don't try and break those two up. If you really liked him you woould want whats best for him right? a little flirting with him here and there definitally isn't a bad thing! but trust me, you should really tell him! good luck with everything! =]

Answer 9

Well I guess his G/F isn't wrong about you is she? And the fact he has a G/F and hasn't broken up with her to be with you should tell you something..
He doesn't want to...
So my advice, move on...There's to much at risk here, losing him as friend, losing your friend who went out with him, and losing your self respect...
Is it worth it? I seriously doubt at your young age you will marry this guy in time and you'll lose a few friends in the process...So not worth it, move on....

Answer 10

You need to leave him alone until he is single. Anything else would be wrong. Dont worry about boys too much..you have other things to worry about like getting a good education.