My girlfriend went to her house after school, and her sister wouldn't let her in, (girlfriends parents told her not too) so she waits a hour at the neighbors, she calls me sayin *** get me...i did.
waited for her parents to get home...-30mins
her mom goes and picks up my daughter from day care, we meet back up with her at the house knock on the door to *ASK* if we can get our daughter.... they refuse and say no. i ask them over n over if there gonna let me get my daughter out of the house.....they still said no......they have no right - custody over her or anything - i call it kidnapping.. they try to bargain ..= if they get what they want then I can get what i want which is my daughter
i left a lot of things out about my girlfriends parents how they think there in control of my daughter and even me to when i can see her = her mom also doesn't want my daughter or G/F to come over my house - and more stuff.....she the type of women like talking to a BRICKWALL- WHAT CAN I DO/??
2007-05-16 10:32:50 · 23 answers · asked by mjorden2342 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
get off the computer and call the cops!
2007-05-16 10:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by Dawn-Marie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For starters knock off the kidnapped crap! The word doesn't apply in many of the circumstances where it was used. If there is no court order awarding anyone legal custody or declaring primary residential custody - each MARRIED parent of a child might sort of have equal rights. By running around using the kidnapped word and claiming he was a bad man while you were the martyr - you just look pathetic and helpless. Sure - go ahead and pay couple thousand on a PI to find out daddy drinks - then go watch any sports game or NA SCAR race. Welcome to America! Maybe instead ... you focus on the needs of this child AND the significant trauma this child is suffering by being forcibly removed from their home and their primary caregiver. The bond between the young child and the primary parent is very important and must be preserved at risk of serious behavior problems being developed otherwise! Why ha vent you already gone to court for an emergency order that the child be reunited with you - the primary caregiver - and that mediation and therapy be ordered so the father must work with you to develop a parenting plan in the child's best interests. The longer you wait to tell the judge 1) what happened, 2) how its harmful to the child, and 3) what can happen if the judge doesn't act now - the more you make it seem like its no big deal that dude kidnapped your child! What ARE you waiting for
2007-05-16 17:40:03 · answer #2 · answered by mamamia_daisy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to call the cops - you said they have no custody rights so therefore they don't have a leg to stand on. Press charges - don't be afraid. You also need to tell Daycare that these people are no longer allowed to see your daughter nor are they to be allowed to take her again. You really need to stop letting them do this - imagine what it's doing to your daughter. Find somewhere else to send your daughter to be watched - you can get help from DHS with child care expenses in most cases. Without more details as to your age, your girlfriend's age or daughter's it's hard to give you any more advice. But if it happens again, call the cops. Keep filing charges with every report. Get them out of your lives if you can. Best of luck!
2007-05-16 17:52:17 · answer #3 · answered by thejezowskis 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, CALL THE COPS.
Second of all, yes, this counts as kidnapping. They have no custody of the child and what they are doing is kidnapping, just like if it was a stranger who had your daughter and would not let you get her.
You need to call the police and let them handle the situation. It sounds like your g/f's mom isn't the type of person who can be reasoned with. Good Luck!!!!!
2007-05-16 17:41:37 · answer #4 · answered by dmercer12679 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would call the police, but I would also call a lawyer. You might have a legal aid or bar association in your area that offers free legal clinics or pro bono attorney services. If your girlfriend's parents have no logical grounds for wanting to keep your daughter away from you, then you need to establish your legal rights in this situation now, before it might get even messier. You should start keeping detailed records and accounts of all encounters with her parents and family and all transactions between the parties involved--i.e., on said date, around said time, her mother told me such-and-such, her father locked me and/or my girlfriend out of the house away from our daughter, etc. This kind of record-keeping won't hurt and will likely help your case.
I wish your family (your girlfriend, daughter and you) the best.
2007-05-16 17:50:36 · answer #5 · answered by ohevshalomel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well here is something you can do. You should call the cops and have them deal with the problem. Also get a restraning order for the whole family and show it to your girlfriend and say you cannot come within about a mile of my family. You should also dump her because if she took your daughter and never gave her back you don't want her!!!!!!!!!!
2007-05-16 17:42:12 · answer #6 · answered by slbsong 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stand on their dorstep ans call the cops! They have no right to hold your child from you.
If they feel you are a danger to your child then they should have called the cops prior to picking her up, and called social services for help. If they didn't do that, its their own fault.
To "save or protect your child" can you push past then into their home?? You would have to leave immediatly after grabing your child, forget the other stuff.
Ask the cops!
Good Luck!!
2007-05-16 17:47:06 · answer #7 · answered by buggerhead 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call The Cops.
2007-05-16 17:40:05 · answer #8 · answered by Greer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the police to get your daughter back...she has no legal right to have her...and after you have your daughter back I would find an attorney who deals in family law and see if you can't get a restraining order keeping the grandmother from seeing your daughter.
2007-05-16 17:39:41 · answer #9 · answered by WinniethePooh_S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to the police if you and your gf are the legal gurdians there is no way they should use their grandchild as a bartering tool. You should also insist that a report is taken in case you have problems wht these wackos in the future... If it was me i'd kick down the door while callin the cops because anyone who's crazy enough to think they can just take my child like that is puting her in harms way and i'd do anythign to ensure her safety
2007-05-16 17:44:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the police. They can't do that. Then notify the day care center that they are not to have access to your daughter, that you and your girlfriend are the only two who can pick her up, or have your parents or another trusted person as back-up to pick her up if you can't. Good Luck.
2007-05-16 17:40:02 · answer #11 · answered by nimo22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋