My Nephew Strikes Back!?

Question

I get my 5- year old nephew 4 days out of the month, and as an aunt I take him everywhere parks, mall, shopping, and watch him most of that time, and cook and make meals. Above all I love him dearly.
If my neph., does something wrong I will talk to him about it and try to make him correct it immediately, however, if he runs into the street or something, or doesn't want to listen after asked 2-3 times pleasantly I will just hit him on the but softly.

WHAT HE DOES in return: He'll hit me, bite his teeth into my arm, and try to rip my sleeve off, like a rotweiller that won't let go. Overall he's a good kid, but If I hit him on the bottom once, he'll come after me so bad, that once and old woman who saw this said: "looks like the child is abusing you." Tell me is this common? What can I do? Help?

Is it because he's spoiled, or he does this at his mom's home or what? Trying to find out the Psychology of it?

Answer 1

Sounds like you need to quit taking him 4 days out of the month. I would never put up with that from my nephew. He comes over an starts whining that he doesn't get to do what he wants and I tell him he can start walking home if he doesn't like it.

Answer 2

He hits you when you tap him on the bottom for running in the street? I think you should talk to his mom and see how she handles dangerous misbehavior. There are other ways to discipline, and maybe he can't go out with you if he can't obey you or accept correction. A couple of turns at staying at your house for the entire four days will get him a couple of months older and maybe more aware of safety issues.

ADD: I wouldn't blame his mother for it. He probably has some behavior issues, some if it being a 5 year-old who's probably a little immature for his age. We couldn't spank our son and have the desired response either. As the lady above said, you probably need to be flexible in your discipline to figure out what works for him.

Answer 3

he needs to be put in his place now. Next time he does this take him home and give him a 15 min time out, either in a bedroom thats safe or in a chir in the middle of the room. HE will get up alot, but just put him back. Afterwards, talk to him. Let him know that hisbeahvior was wrong, and if he does it again you will stop taking him on outings. He is old enough to understand consequences.

maybe find another way to discipline him, spanking abviously does not work.

Answer 4

This is completely normal behavior, but also unacceptable! A child cannot be allowed to do any physical harm to you even if it is minor. Do not hit his bottom ever, especially out in public. This approach doesn't work for some kids and it only causes more damage. You can't continue in the same thing you've always done, you must be flexible for the child's needs. Talk to him, explain to him that he will not get to go out and do fun thigs if he is bad. Take toys, yummy snack or favorite cartoons away if he is bad at home. If he is bad out in public, get down eye level with him and firmly tell him that you are going home and having a time out for this behavior and STICK TO IT! Be consistent. Put yourself aside. Get in the car and take him home and put him in time out or make him lay down for a nap even if he doesn't fall asleep. Call his bluff. Be in control. When he sees that you mean it, he will change his behavior.

Answer 5

Its a temper tantrum, but at 5 yrs old, he is much to old to be behaving like this. His parents have neglected to disipline him and he knows he will get away with it. He needs more than a hit on the bottom, he needs a spanking. He has to know that biting is unacceptable behavior and noone is teaching him this. It will only get worse, if not nipped in the bud.

Answer 6

i would tell hi sparents to find alternate care until his bahvior improves