I am sorry that i am bothering you people but my g/f found out that she has leukemia. She is home now but she has a home nurse. I am only on here to get advice on what to do because i can't think straight. I have not gone to school because my g/f is more important then any education. We are only in high school, we are juniors, i am mad at god for what he is doing to her. I am mad at god because what he is doing to her. My hospital has a chapel and when i found out that she has cancer, i ran out and i had to be alone. I ran to the chapel and started yelling to god for what he is doing. I did not mean it but i dont want to lose my baby, she means everything to me. I been with her for 4 years since 8th grade now in 11th. I will stick by her and i will not leave her. If anything happens to her then my life is over, she is the only girl for me and is she does not beat this cancer, then my life is over, I WILL KILL MYSELF. But she is not going to lose to cancer. she is hot, i love her alot.
2007-05-16 10:17:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am so sorry for you both! I recently went through a similar situation so i know it's hard. You can't help her while having all these negative thoughts...........such as killing yourself. What good would that do! You need to go back to school not only for yourself but also for your girlfriend. She has alot to deal with and she may need time alone just to be able to deal with her emotions.If you are there 24 / 7 she's gonna try not to upset you................ so when can she deal with how she feels.I'm sure she knows you love her. Don't push God away.you need him!
2007-05-16 12:31:48 · answer #1 · answered by Dawn W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whew! You need first to calm yourself down or you will be no use at all to your girlfriend.
Now, just as an alternate thought, having cancer doesn't automatically mean dying. I'm one of those who, for the past four years, has been "living with cancer". It's a lot like living with any other chronic disease; sometimes I'm totally debilitated (as when I'm receiving chemo) and other times I feel fine but a bit tired. At some time I will die, but that was true when I wasn't ill, too.
Be the most caring, loving, understanding person you can be, sort of a "soft place" where she can rest and work on becoming healthy again. Accept her as she is, and then love her into being the best she can be. That's the best gift you can ever give someone, y'know? And do NOT forfeit your education; it, too, has considerable value.
Chin up and eyes on the future; you can do this!
2007-05-16 17:48:48 · answer #2 · answered by MomBear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are going through. My mother died of lung cancer 3 years ago. and now my husband of 37 years was told he only has 3-6 months to live. You are going to go through a variety of emotions, the 1st being anger. I suggest that you start first by going back to school. You must keep yourself busy or you will just dwell on the bad and have a nervous break down. I am still working and taking care of my 92 year ol father-in-law. When my husband gets so weak he has to stay in bed, my daughter will take care of him during the day and I will take care of him in the evening.
By talking about God I know you are religious. My mother always told me that God will not put more problems on you than you can handle. Ask for God's help in dealing with this.
Also look for a support group in your area.
My thoughts are with you.
2007-05-16 17:42:01 · answer #3 · answered by Sandra G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in shock as is your g/friend and you're right..you're not thinking straight, who could blame you* That's Wonderful that you are standing by her side....and I will Pray that she gets well* Please dont say you'll kill yourself if something happens.....You will feel the enormous loss without her and feel like you can't go on....but don't be thinking that you'll end your life too.....Your family and friends couldn't take it* Your g/friend would be heart broken if she heard you say those words. I know you Love her with everything inside of you..but you have to stay strong and help her try to beat this* Take one day at a time~ I wish you both the very best*~ God Bless and May the Angels Always be With You Both*.....Don't give up on god...we never know why..but things happen for a reason. Don't blame him* Reach out to him~ Takecare*
2007-05-16 17:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No bother glad you turned hear. I just lost my sister with cancer and I to was mad but I was mad at the doctors because they said if she took chemo it would give he an extra year to the 6-8 months they said she had to live. My sister did less than 3 months after being diagnosed with cancer. Now my other sisters daughter who is 22 is pregnant and she was told he has cancer. Can't do anything until after she gives birth. It isn't fair for things like this to happen to family or anyone.
GOOD LUCK AND PRAY, HAVE FAITH AND BELIEVE, MIRACLES DO HAPPEN.
2007-05-16 18:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not bothering anyone. I feel for you and your gf and the pain and fear you must be experiencing now. i really think if you can try to direct the energy of your fear and anger at god to fighting and helping her and her family fight this terrible disease. you have to be strong and hold it together for both of you, so don't say you will kill yourself. How sad would your gf be if she heard you say that. You also need to go back to school and help her to continue her school work as much as she can possibly do. the more you act like she will make it through this, the better her chances will be. don't even think about losing her - just live as much as you can everyday. i wish you both the best and my prayers and positive energy go to you.
2007-05-16 17:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by NONAME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that your love has cancer, but i am glad that you are sticking with her. because i am sure she is just as scared as you are. You need to be with her and support her as much as possible.
Also there are support groups and counsellors that deal with partners of people with Cancer, perhaps you should join with them. they can give you more support then yahoo.
Remember to always think positive.. thinking negitive will only hurt your gf and the other people that love you
I wish your gf and you the best of luck and prey for her quick recovery
2007-05-16 17:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love her and let her know you are and always will be there for her. Let her know she is not alone. Keep her spirits up and try to be positive around her. Make her laugh and smile. Have wonderful, memorable moments together.
2007-05-16 17:22:52 · answer #8 · answered by Cynthia K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be their for and you need to stay in school. you never know she can live longer than the doctors. says she can.
2007-05-16 17:44:38 · answer #9 · answered by missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋