A lot of them come on yahoo answers and ask questions about why the guys are not calling them after a week. Why don't girls take some initiatives sometimes?
2007-05-16 10:14:22 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
not all girls are like that...i ask guys to dance at parties (in middle school thats a big deal) i dont see why either but i assume its because its traditional and guys are generally slightly more confident (atleast in girls opinions) and we dont want to feel like you dont care about us enough to call us (i am sure guys feel the same way) but since that is what girls expect...call the next day, they'll like you more if you dont torture them!
2007-05-16 10:20:25 · answer #1 · answered by : ) 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girls DO take the initiative sometimes. I made the first move with my last boyfriend. We met at a dance. I liked his looks so I made sure I stood near him without looking too obvious. Then when the time was right, I started making small talk with him. We dated for about 1 1/2 years and even though things didn't work out, I don't regret making the first move. I would do it again.
2007-05-16 10:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by Me, Myself & I 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it was George Carlin who said "Men are stupid and women are crazy. The reason women go crazy is because men are so stupid!"
I recall a sociology study, where they showed videos of men and women talking, and asked the viewer "is the woman sending out signals?". The women all answered "that shameless so-and-so is really coming onto him" and the men all answered "No."
So usually, girls are sending out what they think are the right signals, and the men just don't see them. For most of us guys, it will be all night before we do the old "yawn, stretch, and drop your arm around her" routine. We don't go any faster unless she jumps into your lap.
The girls doesn't want to be so forward that she'll seem to be a sl*t. Also, too aggresive may scare a guy off. Meanwhile, the kind of guy who isn't afraid to try thingsis usually the ignorant oaf who is just as likely to miss the "please stop now" signals from the girl.
If relationships were simple and easy, we'd have an overpopulation problem thousands of years ago.
2007-05-16 10:25:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not true you know.if i like a guy,i ALWAYS tell them how i feel.done that thrice,with no success.lol.but you know what?it's all good.specially the careful planning abt how to start the conversation,what to say,the anticipation,the butterflies-Love it! all three were nice to me when giving their answer.one already had a gf,the other liked me only as a friend & the most recent one told me that he would have said yes,but he wasn't looking for a relationship right now.(which were all good things when i actually thought abt it).
i would love it if a guy actually makes the first move on ME though.would be very sweet & flatering.but that doesn't mean i would stop making the first moves though.hey i'm still 18-got a load of time to make more first moves on wonderful guys who i'll probably meet & hopelessely fall in 'like' with,LOL.
so,feeling better now?
have a lovely day :)
2007-05-16 10:25:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls generally like it best when guys make the first move. It gives them the idea that the guy is taking it upon himself to make the first move. Girls are also a little more shy compared to guys. they want the man to stand up and take it upon himself to do things. Thats the way i view it anyway hope this helps.
2007-05-16 10:18:51 · answer #5 · answered by Destenflea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, one main reason is that the common scenario is that guys make the first moves. usually a smart girl will get frustrated after a while and finally make a move.
also, it could easily have to do with the fact that girls usually don't want to seem desperate by calling the guy first, or kissing him first or anything.
rejection too.
2007-05-16 10:17:55 · answer #6 · answered by blues1956 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ha ha you are right...most girls are too afraid to ask a guy out. They may flirt with you and lead you on, but they want to know that you like them too and you are not just in it for fun. Girls like to feel that someone likes them. If a girl leads you on and you are not sure if she is interested, talk to one of her friends, or just make the first move. Don't be afraid.
2007-05-16 10:22:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i'm old fashioned and i think the guy should call. I would only call if I had to. And usually it's the guy who asks for the girl's number. so it's to assume that most people take that as meaning the guy is the one who is going to call otherwise give her your number and wait for her to call.
2007-05-16 10:20:01 · answer #8 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girls do make the first moves sometimes. i did. i had a crush on my husband for two years, got sick of waiting on him to make a move so i did it. we've been a couple now for 3 1/2 years
2007-05-16 10:18:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know lots of girls that do make the first move. The only problem with doing that is it usually scares the guy away. It usually makes them think that you are clingy or slutty,
2007-05-16 10:17:51 · answer #10 · answered by ProudToBeWhite 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋