Feeling really depressed any advice? see details below?

Question

I have suffered from depression since I was 11. it got better for a while after I had a time in a mental health ward. Now it is getting worse again. I cry all the time, am irritable and listless, feeling suicidal at times..not that i really want to end it all just end the pain. I have 2 beautiful daughters and i really want to get help but heres the glitch...my husband WONT LET ME!!! He flat out refuses to let me get help. I am work 80 + hours a week overnight shifts at a nursing home and bring in the majority of the income but he just wont let me. Any advice is appreciated.

about the going to church thing..he wont let me do that either though i would like to

Renegade: he wont let me..when i am not working cause i work overnights..he takes the car keys and wont let me go anywhere all day without his approval and being with

Answer 1

First thing you need to do is evaluate your marriage. You are a adult and can make your own decisions. I think it sounds as if you have to much on your plate to begin with. You also need to set time for yourself and be with friends. I also am questioning your husbands love for you, if he wants to deny you of care that you need..

Answer 2

I understand u bring in most of the money in the house and that income is important. This is what u need to do..remember every thing can be fixed.

1. stop working too many hrs. You need to cut it out. Work only 40-50 thats it.
2. Spend time doing things u enjoy or learning something, etc.. Spend time with ur kids, learn something u allway wanted to learn but never had time, go meet ur friend, make new friends.
3. when u start to get depressed get up do something..don't listen to sad music
4. drink a lot water, have salad, take a walk
5. do yoga etc
6. pray to GOD
7. talk to ur doctor and take some medication for it


hope this help

Answer 3

I hope you will be better and not do anything foolish! I have had many Friends die and not be in my life anymore it just sucks. I feel your pain because I am a drinker and I wish I could stop but I cant so far. I don't have a social life at all I go to work and come home that's it. I feel very lonely and there's nobody I can talk to ether but you just cant give up. I wish and hope the best for you and just remember that there are people (ME) that really care and know matter what will always be there if you reach your hand out for help! I know Its hard but hang in there and keep asking for help. I just wish we could talk!!

Answer 4

You should get help, if your husband doesn't want you to get help then he has a problem. He doesn't control your life or your money, go to a Psychiatrist, Depression is a serious problem and if you're willing to get help you should, you should be able to enjoy life and your husband needs to see that whether he wants to or not. You are also working A LOT, and maybe he should step up and be a man, he needs to work more. Children need their mother, especially girls and you need to be their for them more then your husband. My mother had the same problem, but with four kids, and left my father after 25 years of marriage, but she was much better off.***

Answer 5

I'd be depressed it I was living with a man who was unsupportive of my needs. And working 80+ hours a week plus taking care of two young daughters will also cause depression. Is it really worth it working all those hours? Or can you do with working less hours and spend more time with the kids and make him earn more if you decide to stay in this marriage. It's very obvious you are not happy in the marriage.

Answer 6

what do you mean my husband does not let me? do you have to ask for permission??? and you are the one that brings the majority of income home? come on!
tell him you need that help and don't even listen to what he has to say. if you don't feel comfortable with that, tell him you will need to attend a training course for a year for x amount of hours once a week, and use that time to get the help you need.
excercising is another good idea. it boosts your endorfine levels. i know being a working mother you will hardly have stamina to exercise, but if you do it on a regular basis, at least for 25 minutes each day, your mood will improve considerably. also try to eat fresh fruit, i promise the natural sugar on it will help you cope with your depression. if you are a believer, pray for God to boost your mood. otherwise, maybe you can get medication (prozac and the like) though personally i am against all those.

Answer 7

been there and done that. girl part of it is stress, being tired, and having someone that isn't supporting you the way you should be.
if he loves you he should be willing and not have a problem with you getting help.
sounds like he's a bit abusive-mentally and emotionally, do you really want your girls in that kind of a situation where they see their mama cryin and no-one wanting her to get better? not only do you need to think about yourself but them too.
if all else fails sneak out to a doctor when your able to and get the help you need behind his back. if you do that keep any meds at work or locked up in a place that only you have access to.
Good luck with this one honey but consider who you are with doesn't sound like he cares if you are ok just as long as your making bank. time to re-evaluate the situation a bit.

Answer 8

First of all your husband needs to support you in this,if not then he doesn't really care. if your working 80+hours a week and taking care of a husband and 2 children then it could be stress related.i mean who can do all that,he must think your superwoman or something.you need a vacation and to cut down on working so much.also stress can cause depression and it sounds like your just stresssed beyond your limit,my advice would be to get away for a while and eliminate the stress.good luck!!!!!

Answer 9

That can't be helping you at all. I am so sorry about all your troubles. Sometimes there are free programs. I don't know where to start looking though. Ask your family doctor. Maybe if there isn't you could get some generic meds from your dr. Just hang in there. Try to think of your kids.

Answer 10

If your husband does not care enough about you to let you get help then tell the sob to take a long walk off a short peer and then go get the help you need. Put yourself first for a change and get the help, for the sake of you and your children.

Answer 11

I'd start with a look at your diet. Do you skip means, eat a lot of sugary foods, diet products, white bread and caffeine? Do you constantly put yourself on a diet, drink diet soda, try things like SlimFast?

What you eat affects your mental functioning. By choosing certain foods, you may be better able to balance your emotional and mental health. This mood-food relationship is explained by neurotransmitters, which are chemical messengers transmitting our thoughts and actions to the brain. The food we eat affects the neurotransmitters, thus changing our moods.

That's where I'd start, based on the symptoms you've described- especially if you eat a lot of sugar and skip meals.