I have a girl next door who I need advice on talking to and not sounding desperate to?

Question

I have a girl who lives 2 houses down who is drop dead gorgeous. The other night we hung out and partied and fooled around a bit. After that I didn't see her for a while and if I did, she would be with her friends or some other guys. I absolutely cannot stop replaying everything in my mind and critiquing it and determining what I should have said and shouldn't have. Should I just go over to her house and talk to her? How do I get her attention again without sounding desperate and what do I say? I am a college guy who doesn't do that great at partying, I can't dance, and I don't have a ton of friends b/c they are all out of state, she on the other hand is a great partyier who knows what shes doing and seems to have many friends. This makes me nervous that I will seem like a "loser" to her. Advice?

Answer 1

You should be who you are. If you don't party, ask yourself if you really want someone who does party all the time??? Would that make you tire of her quickly in the future if you did get together? I do not drink or smoke and I do not party. If I choose someone, it would be someone who does not also. My reasoning is I would be worried about them drinking and driving, etc....

If you constantly think about your one night, think about why you are. Are you thinking about her more as a fantasy? Thinking about what or who she might really be?

If you decide that you still want to know her more, my advice is to ask her out as friends. Try the friendship thing first. Get to know her more that way, then, if you decide that you like her you can tell her and move on to a deeper relationship. You are probably attracted to her because she is outgoing and gorgeous. You probably envy that part of her and wish you were more like her, as it sounds to me from what you said.

I think you should just try to be her friend. If something develops further later, it will be a pleasant surprise. If you don't want anything more after you get to know her, then your feelings won't be hurt, or hers for that matter.

Best wishes to you. Remember, do not lower your standards just to get someone to like you. When you do something that you are uncomfortable with, are you doing it for the right reasons?

Answer 2

first

STOP CRITIQUING YOUR SELF

you need to work on yourself confidence women like men who are confidant in there self

Second if you did anything wrong you'd know by now I assure you a mad woman isn't something you would go without knowing about

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if she is not dating anyone it doesn’t matter what your 'popularity' status is when dating outside of school unless she is a horrible person and is so vein, at that point you wouldn’t want that harpy around you. Also you both have to have similar incomes living a few homes away from one another, so money shouldn’t be an issue unless it’s a cardboard box fight. So if she’s wanting rich men she is shooting to high.

Last of all give it a go get your confidence up see what she is doing and then take her somewhere, and be yourself

Answer 3

Dude you have to be a bit more confident, she see's something she likes in you already as you have made some time with her. Find something going on like a concert or a band playing somewhere, something that she would like and ask her if she would like to join you. Forget about her friends being around, act like they arent even there as you approach her. You will drive your self nuts critiquing everything you should have or could have said etc. Remeber these words from Gengis Khan, squeeze a thistle timidly and it will pierce your hand, crush it quickly and break its spines. Go for it dude, all she can say is no.... Then again she probally will say yes!

Answer 4

If it's one thing that women find unappealing is guys who are kind of apologetic about who they are. If you feel like she could do better, then so will she. So be who you are (which she obviously likes to some degree) and just let her know that you'd like to see her some time. Give her a call or stop by. I'd advise you on what to say, but honestly, I think whatever you think of will be fine.

Unless ofcourse the girl was totally wasted when you hung out with her and wouldn't be interested sober. If that's the case, it won't matter what you say.

Answer 5

Be confident with yourself. Girls like that, lol. Just because you don't party a lot, and a lot of your friends are out of state doesn't make you a "loser" even to her. She's probably just waiting for you to make the next move. Give her a call one night, see if she wants to hang out or go do something. Try not to make it sound like a date - just like you guys are going to hang out again so this way she doesn't get creeped out or anything. Don't worry, you didn't do anything wrong. Just step up and make the next move:) Call her!

Answer 6

OK question first . Do you want to get her attention just to try to score with her or are you actually interested in her and would like to date her . If you just want to score I would drop it now especially where she lives so close to you . If you want more then that then why not just ask her to the mall with you or the movies something real causal . Maybe do a group date and see how she really responds to you to see if she is interested in you .

Answer 7

i'd defiantly pass to homestead it is your basically decision because of the fact her pals are not going to do something for you because of the fact she has informed them to not! honest from what it sounds like she completely likes you and had for a whilst whether she became into below the impression of alcohol or not! Shes prob purely fairly embarrassed that she did that and you rejected her. in case you get the possibility to talk to her at her homestead or everywhere i'd attempt not elementary to make her understand your not freaked out and enable her understand the style you experience according to danger alongside the lines of hey i'm sorry I ran I purely did not choose you to do something you regretted bc of alcohol then according to danger see if she genuinely does such as you! For the human beings it is harsh yet **** them they don't even understand! i'm hoping all of it works out!

Answer 8

Ask her if she has seen any good movies and talk a little about some movies she might be interested in and then tell her that you two should go out to a movie sometime

Answer 9

She is obviously interested in you. Don't read too much into it, just do it. Approach her, ask how she's doing, start a casual conversation, and ask her if she wants to hang out with you sometime. Play it cool. You... Tarzan, she Jane, it will all work out!

Answer 10

If you hung out with her then why are you shy to talk to her again. I mean, are you guys strangers to each other now? I think you should just go and talk to her.