How do i talk to my son about birth control?

Question

How can I talk to my son about birth control. My son and his g/f been having sex and she is now pregnant. they both are in high school, they both are 17 years old. I did find a box of condoms in my son's room. I need some help because i don't know what to do. My son is sexually active and he is 17 years old and is still in high school. He been with his girlfriend for idk, 3 years since the start of their high school career.

Everytime i turn around or pick in my son's room, they are always making out, one day i caught his g/f on top of him. They were just making out but still.

I did walk in the living room one day and they were having sex on the couch, my son told me he had sex like 3 times with his girfriend and she is now pregnant. He does have a job and so does his g/f. I don't know what to do, please help. His g/f is now staying with us because her parents threw her out because she couldn't wait to have sex until marrage and be more responsible.

my son g/f is a beautiful young girl and i could not let her go out on the streets, she she is saying with her b/f(my son) at our house.

Is this Normal for a teenager to have sex? I did not have sex until i was 29, i raised him good, i am a bad mom

he does love his g/f alot but they are together 24/7, he does stand up for her, protect her etc. I am glad he does protect his girl, some kid in school called his g/f a sl*t and touched her innapproiate, my son saw the kid and went up to him and nailed him right in the face lol. He did get into trouble but i let it pass at home because he thought he was doing the right thing, he was defending the girl he loves.

he does use protection with her, cause i found 2 boxes of condom(magnom sized) in his room lol. how do i stop him from having sex with his g/f.

She loves my son alot, when their friends goes out to party, my son rather stay home and watch a movie with his g/f and cuddle up or go to the movies.

How do i talk to them about birth control some more because condoms are not doing it, because he did get her pregnant, he told me and my husband(his dad) that they did use a condom, but i dont believe it. should she be on the pill.

Answer 1

TOO MUCH INFORMATION!!! won't read all of it...

talk to your son like he is an adult... why didn't you talk to him earlier??? :D

Answer 2

Don't talk about birth control. They shouldn't have been having sex in the first place. Tell them to get married or put the baby up for adoption. I can tell you love your son and because of that, you need to not allow him to run everything. This should have been stopped a long time ago. Do that by putting up boundaries and rules. You are a parent first and a friend second. Tell them they must live by the rules or recieve the punishment. And stick to the punishment! If they live in your house, they shouldn't be in the same room sleeping together. Have them get married and raise the baby or don't get married and put the baby up for adoption. If they don't get married then they shouldn't do anything even close to sex. Be the parent! They need to be responsible for their dumb decision. Go to this site, it will help with options of what to do with the baby: www.itsaboutlove.org

Answer 3

O.K.
first of all, you repeatly ask how u can speak to him about birth control. right now you should be asking them i they intend to keep the baby and raise it, or put it up for adoption or are they considering abortion. depending on their answer, that's what u and her parents should be focusing on. wether abortion, adoption is their choices, you all need to find out what the laws are, so no one gets in any more trouble. next if they decide to keep the baby than they need to start looking for programs available to teen parents. a lot of good ones out there. the next conversation u should be having is with your son on how to be a responsible, loving, patient parent. if they are going to live with you, then they should have costs of living expenses, because if they were else where they would have to come up with their share, besides you owe it to him to start being more mature and responsible for his actions. if the parents of the girl don't want anything to do with her, then have her ask the court for an amancipation from her parents, she can then make all decisions for herselft and the well being of her child and future. now, both of them show no knowledge of how to protect from this occuring, however wether they did or didn't is not the focus now. you as a parent must for their sake make sure that they know and understand that they got into this and they are the ones to get out of it. all you can do is provide guidance, advice and support as long as they are doing what is required of them. the last thing im adding is that they should finish school, a lot of kids have done it, because neither one of them without and education is going to be able to obtain a desent and honorable living and be able to provide for their child the best that hey can give.

Answer 4

well he probably realizes the importance of birth control now!! Even though it's too late. I think what your conversations need to be about now is how he plans on raising this baby. It shouldn't be the parents responsibility, it should be his. Bringing a child into this world is a big deal, and his life will now be changed forever. And if he's not ready to be a father, then maybe adoption should be discussed also.

Answer 5

It's too late now she is pregnant and having a baby what you need to talk about now is raising the baby teach him responsibility. The only thing you can do is stick by your son don't give up on him you know he made a mistake but encourage him and his g/f to go to school to not end their education.
Good Luck!

Answer 6

Welll first of all as a mom i think your son should have had more supervision. Is your kid ready to support a family...i highly doubt that. Plus the minuyte you found them making out you shouldve talked to him. It was irresposible of you but you are being a good mom by taking her in. About the birth control thing its too little too late the girl is already pregnent

Answer 7

i have a couple of questions for YOU.. why do you feel the need to point out that your son uses MAGNUM sized condoms?? i don't know.. i just thought that was kind of odd.. and my other question is, if your sons girlfriend is already pregnant, what is the use in talking to him about birth control?? isn't it too late?? i don't think there's anything you can do about it now.. well, better luck next time!!

Answer 8

I feel for you- but you are ENABLING this behavior. They both have jobs and both need to find their own place to live.
You think you are doing them a favor, but you are in fact HARMING them both- and especially your future grandchild.

Your grandchild deserves responsible parents. Even a responsible grandparent won't make much difference with two kids (pretend parents) behaving like this.

Please STOP everything you are doing right now and give them a FIRM date to move out. Stick to it.

Be ready for guilt trips and threats of you never seeing your grandchild. They'll NEVER stick to those threats because they'll NEED you to babysit!!! Hehehehe

This is the only way they will grow to be worthy of your grandchild. Please switch your perspective from them to the GRANDCHILD. You are certainly giving and loving enough to be a fabulous grandparent. Focus on that.

You may want to see someone/counselling about your ability to be manipulated/used.

Bless you- I hope you can be strong on this one- for the child's sake!

Answer 9

Sounds like it is a little late to talk about birth control. I would talk about respect! Thet do not need to be allowed to have sex or sleep together in your home.

Answer 10

Its a little to late to be talking about it. He is already going to be a father, To me it sounds like they aren't ready to have this child. Remember that there are other alternatives then to having the child. She must have parents so talk to them and see what they can do to help the situation.

Answer 11

well look at where not talking to him got him. at the VERY LEAST every parent should take their kid to the health department so THEY can inform your child about birth control if you don't mind me saying so I believe that your morals are way out of wack and well if you do mind then why did you ask in the first place?