Being sealed in the Mormon Religion?

Question

My best friend is Mormon and she was married and had two kids to a mormon guy. She was born into the religiona nd the guy she married converted for her. Now, they divorced about two weeks ago and she says that he can be sealed to another woman but she cannot be sealed to another nor can her children. Is this true? Why would a religion say who and who cannot be sealed with? That doesn't sound very loving.

Whoa....wait one minute!

Why is this not the place to discuss this? This sounds as if you are ashamed to answer the questions. Why on earth is it wrong to set the record straight on mormon sealings? This makes no sense, now two people are stating that this is not the time or place....why?

Answer 1

If anything other than love for one another keeps people together you are worshiping a sick God. If two people grow apart and hate each other there are no special ceremonies or paper work that will keep them together in the next world. If a young mother who is not LDS is in an accident and she and the baby she loves dies they will be together in the next world, and any God who would prevent that is not worth any glory or worship. If this is the God you worship you are so mislead, and you deserve the insane view of God you have.
You wonder why people call you a cult. You make such insane claims in the name of God and make total obedience to THE CHURCH the way to get into the temples and preform these obviously unnecessary and controlling "sealings".

Answer 2

I think Mr. Penguin must have been smoking something when he wrote his answer. We don't believe Christ was ever married, especially not to three women and all that other hogwash has been far removed from the truth. I can see where it origianted from, but it's far from that now. Now to answer your question, I think there must have been some misunderstanding on either your friends side or yours. She can be sealed as long as the previous sealing is cancelled. Some refer to it as a temple divorce. The situation your friend is discribing sounds more like when your spouse dies. If you choose to remarry you cannot be sealed, because you cannot have more than one spouse for eternity. You can still be remarried on this earth life, but you are eternally sealed to your first husband, and not the second. Which is again only in the case of death. And if my husband were to die I would want it that way anyway. Your friend should talk to her bishop. She might be getting upset over nothing. And her children are sealed to both parents still unless the ex husband decides to release the sealing so that the new husband can be sealed to them. When someone is divorced those children don't stop being there children, it's the same in a sealing. Just like a parent would have to give up custody, the parent has to give up the sealing. You can't just take it away from them. It's the childrens dad, no matter what might have happened between the two of the parents. And they deserve the right to be sealed to their dad. If the children don't want to be sealed, than there can be things done to cancel that sealing too. But it has to be mutual between the parent and the child. If this is this case, she can talk to her bishop to find out the steps needed to do this. Hope that helps.

Answer 3

True, to an extent.
We have something called the Priesthood. It is MUCH different than the Catholic priesthood. The Priesthood is held by worthy male members and is necessary (among other things) for sealings. In the case of divorce, there are - as in marriage, two tiers: 1. Civil, 2. Temple. In a civil marriage you are married until death do you part. In a Temple marriage you are sealed to each other for time and all eternity. In a civil divorce your are no longer married. If you were married in the Temple, you are still sealed to each other, even if you are divorced civilly. A couple can get a Temple divorce, in which case the sealing performed in the Temple is voided and they are no longer sealed for time and all eternity. Their children, if there are any, will, upon their own death spend eternity with their Father, unless they are sealed to their Mother and her husband (their step-father). The sealing to another Father requires special paperwork from the biological Father.
IF (and this may be what your Mormon friend is talking about) there isn't a Temple divorce (which also requires time and paperwork), then the children are still sealed to their biological parents and the parents are still sealed to each other. They can each marry again in a civil ceremony with no problems. TECHNICALLY, (my knowledge is not complete on this) I think the husband can be sealed to someone else who is Temple worthy, however I'm not sure if this can be done while his first wife (the Mother of his children) is still alive or not. Also, I don't think it is practiced very much, if at all. Most people I know (and I know several) who have been sealed in the Temple do one of two things, they either don't get married again - not even civilly, or they only get married civilly. One exception was when a friend was married in the Temple to a man and later divorced. They had six kids together. Later, after all kids were teens she met a guy and they married outside of the Temple. He had also previously married in the Temple and had four kids. Over the course of a year they each got Temple divorces from their ex-spouses, and those children of hers who were not yet adults got the appropriate form signed by their biological Father severing his eternal link to them. Each of her kids, except one who doesn't come to church was then sealed to them when they were later sealed in the Temple.
Please realize that for us, a sealing is a sacred thing. It is not something to be trifeled with, and is not to be broken lightly. It has to do with eternal matters, and these matters are taken EXTREMELY seriously within the Church. For many couples, especially the women - I would think, it is advantageous for them to remain sealed to their ex-husband after a civil divorce because as we see it that will be her only link to her children in the eternities. I've also been told that hearts soften on the other side and those we don't think we could stand to be with for another minute here on earth, don't look all that bad on the other side and spending eternity with them seems plausable. Without that sealing link, that would be impossible and she wouldn't have the joys of her children by her side in the eternities.

For us, it is quite simple, even though explaining it to someone not familiar with our beliefs can be very complicated.

I suggest you ask her more about this.


UPDATE: I'm not sure about the Jesus had three wives thing, or the former belief of at least three wives to become a god thing, but the rest of what Mr. Penguin said is true.

Fellow LDS, you have to realize that Mr. Penguin studied the Church extensively before deciding it wasn't for him. Normally he does not spew anti-Mormon stuff. He may disagree, but there's a difference.

I also agree with Kia, this is not the place to go into details. Please forgive me if you think I've gone too far.

Answer 4

Well your friend either doesn't have a clear understanding of the process, or did not convey that understanding to you. That is not entirely correct. She should be able to talk to her bishop or stake president about it. I know women who have been sealed to their 2nd husbands. The first sealing is cancelled though.

I would be happy to explain this to you and your friend, but this is not the proper place or forum. You can email me at [e-mail]

Also at www.Mormon.org there is a place where you can ask a question and elders will answer it for you. I would go there and ask the question.

Answer 5

No, that's not true. If they get a temple divorce, either of them can be sealed to another person (as long as their partner is Mormon.) The children will be sealed to them as well.

She needs to seriously asks some questions at her church to get the correct information.

Answer 6

Yes she can be, but she needs to go through a process called "temple divorce" that breaks the sealing first. She just needs to talk to her bishop on how to do this.

Answer 7

She can petition to the General authorities to have her sealing set aside, so that she can be sealed to someone else.

They go in depth about why the couple split and all that. But, mostly, I think they grant it eventually. don't know how long the process takes.

Answer 8

She needs a temple divorce before she can be sealed again to someone else. Catholics that I know believe that divorced people can't wed again or it is adultery.

Answer 9

you may be misunderstanding....they think marriage is beyond death and thaqts not true at all
they dont have the corner on the mkt...they think theyre the only true church and they dont believe the TRinity