My boyfriend of 4 years has just recently asked me to marry him. We are planning to be married this summer (august). I am by no means a traditional bride. In fact my whole wedding will go against every tradition.
My whole family is irate with me because I have chosen a pink wedding dress. They say that brides are supposed to wear white. I say a bride can wear what ever color she wants. They also say I should wear the traditional mexican long lace veil. I would prefer something shorter.
Am I wrong to want to go against tradition? Where is it written that brides HAVE to wear white? Isn't this wedding supposed to be about what I want?
2007-05-16 09:30:14 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The traditions are what bind us to one another. No you don't have to wear white but if your mother's veil had been preserved and she really wanted you to wear it that might be a compromise to make. Especially since it could be your something old and borrowed as well as keep some of the peace. And I'm sure someone will give me a thumbs down for this part but while this is a special day for you it's also one for your family and husband to be's family. Some give and take is a good thing sometimes.
2007-05-16 10:04:53 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They are traditions, not laws, so no, you don't have to follow tradition. Without sounding like I am giving you permission to be a bride from hell, it really is your choice about what colour to wear. People kind of expect ivory or white usually, but millions of brides all over the world wear other colours (some wear bikinis instead of dresses) so don't feel pressured to wear something you are not happy with. I like the sound of an unconventional wedding, it's making new traditions, ones that mean something to you and your husband to be.
2007-05-17 06:14:11 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make yourself happy. My best friend wore a baby pink dress from J Crew and she was gorgeous. This is your day. If you are Mexican, which I am assuming you are because of the mention of the specific veil, maybe you can incorporate some Mexican wedding traditions into the wedding. Maybe this way your family will feel like you are honoring your heritage and at the same time honoring yourself with the choice of dress.
White is traditional, but like everything else, nothing is written in stone. You make yourself happy. I'm sure you will be beautiful.
Best of luck!!!!!
2007-05-16 16:41:42 · answer #3 · answered by Kelli M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to everything that I have ever read or heard it is not necessary for a bride to follow every tradition. She may wear what ever she wants. Traditions are merely for those that are sentimental anyway.
I think a pink dress would pretty at a summer wedding. It emphasizes the warmness of the air and the beauty of summer. It gives the hint that you value warm air and tropical breezes.
By no means should you bow to your family's wishes. My sister wore a purple dress for her wedding and she looked absolutley radiant. It is your choice what you wear.
I live by this one simple rule.
You can't please all people all of the time. So just please yourself. Do what makes you happy. In time your family will come around and start to see things your way.
Congrats and good luck
2007-05-16 16:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wear whatever color you feel the most beautiful in. The only thing a bride has absolute control over in her wedding is what she wants to wear. Sarah Jessica Parker wore black to her wedding. Gwen Stefani wore shades of pink. Brides didn't start wearing white to weddings until Queen Victoria wore a white gown when she married Prince Albert. Also, I agree with you about the mantilla. That looks like it would be extremely annoying and in your face all day. Wear what you like, and makes you feel beautiful.
2007-05-16 17:59:52 · answer #5 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, congratulations on your wedding! First of all this is YOUR wedding. If you don't want a traditional wedding you don't have to. You want to make your wedding your own. You should be able to do what you want to for your wedding. They may be mad that your not doing things their way but once the wedding is here and they see how beautiful you have made it to be, all of them will be happy on your wedding day and for you. And they won't even be thinking about you not listening to them. And for them to say that pink is not in for wedding dresses, I have a wedding magazine that has tons of pink wedding dresses and it also says that pink wedding dresses are in. Take a look at those wedding magazines right now. There are a lot of pinks wedding dresses. Hope this helps! Good Luck!
2007-05-16 17:39:23 · answer #6 · answered by TJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are right, the wedding is about what you and your fiance want, not what someone else wants. Nowadays women dont always go for the traditional white or for that matter anything traditional. I'm having a cinderella themed wedding and would love to find a gown in a very light pale blue more like her ball gown. I'm very lucky though, cuz i have a great family who is only offering to help with what I need instead of giving me unwanted advice. Just tell your family its your wedding and you want it your way and if they want to help, them keep them busy by making party favors or something. Congrats.
2007-05-16 18:39:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its not wrong to go against tradition. I think its a great idea when brides think outside of the box and chose a color not so traditional. Do not worry about your whole family and what they think of the color, its your day, your gown. If your mom is upset about the color, take her with you and have the bridal place you choose show her gowns in pink -- sometimes pictures can dilute the actual color.
2007-05-16 16:38:09 · answer #8 · answered by Scarlett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your mom that white wedding dresses are a recent english tradition and that there are many good meanings to different colors.
Middle Eastern cultures value yellow for weddings. In asian colors the bride is supposed to wear red and black because white is the color of death. I think white might also be a bad omen in traditional spanish culture too actually.
One classic example of one thing having multiple meanings in diff cultures is the swastika. For europeans and americans it symbolized nazis and hate but it is actually just a rotated version of a ancient symbol for luck, prosperity, and strength.
This article might be helpful in explaining why pink is actually quite traditional to your family
http://desktoppub.about.com/cs/color/a/symbolism.htm
2007-05-20 16:31:41 · answer #9 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wear the pick dress that you like and the headpiece that you want. I've seen a bride with a pink dress and it was gorgeous.
The wedding has to be what you want, you'll only get married once and if you follow other people's opinions you won't be totally thrilled the day of your wedding.
2007-05-16 16:49:00 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋