If so what do you do to overcome it?
2007-05-16 08:03:32 · 12 answers · asked by michaeljripley 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It's a self-protection thing if you feel hesitant to ask... you might be afraid they'll snarl and snap at you or give you an answer that hurts your feelings, or you may feel they're giving you a "brush off" and really do need help.
The solution is to not be overly concerned about your own feelings, and think of a way to approach this person so that they will be open and honest in answer and less likely to be angry and snarl back. Either way, altruistic intent is what gets the best result, even if you can't help them, it just may not have been your fault. Some people, due to causes and conditions beyond your control, either don't want help or they don't know how to accept it.
Do your best and leave the rest to them...
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2007-05-16 08:08:59 · answer #1 · answered by vinslave 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, why would it worry anyone? Trying to help someone who is having problems or needs some kind of help is being a compassionate person. I would rather be compassionate than ignore people who need help. Know about Karma?
2007-05-16 15:28:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Of course I don't ask if I can't deliver the help... but if I think I can help this person, I will do it no problem.
I would pray if this is something really difficult for you for some reason that you think you need to help but are not sure.
2007-05-16 15:07:19 · answer #3 · answered by sassinya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I rephrase the question. You can always ask someone if they need help in a kind way. It helps to be self-depreciating. As in "This same EXACT thing happened to me once, but I didn't handle it nearly as well as you. How can I help?"
2007-05-16 15:08:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get your mind right and your heart right and ask away.
Why does it bother you? Afraid they might say "yes", I need help? Thats why you ask. Just do it. Pops
2007-05-16 15:07:16 · answer #5 · answered by Pops 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quite the opposite, actually.
2007-05-16 15:06:44 · answer #6 · answered by Maudie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depending on what it was,i would try to give the best advice possible without any type of pain or conflict.
2007-05-16 15:09:09 · answer #7 · answered by Butterflied 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put any reservations aside and just do it.
2007-05-16 15:06:42 · answer #8 · answered by Reo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
Do you need help?
Oh, uh...
No, that didn't worry me a bit.
The worst you could say is ...Yes, i do, will you help me...
In which case, I could say...NO.
DJ
2007-05-16 15:08:28 · answer #9 · answered by gemseeker 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
whta do you mean
2007-05-16 15:19:02 · answer #10 · answered by marie_sahiry 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋