Ok, I stil haven't decided on colors yet. But when the time comes to get bridesmaids dresses, how do I go about making everyone feel comfortable in what they are wearing? Should I tell them, 'these are the colors, choose a dress' or should I give them a few different styles in the color I want or should I let them choose the dress and let them decide what color to wear.
Matching the wedding of course! Like my matron of honor wear one color and the bridesmaids alternate in color, cause I know I am going with at least 2 colors. It could go like this: light blue, lilac, light blue, lilac? One of my bridesmaid is a little on the heavy side and I don't want her to be uncomfortable in what everyone else will be wearing. Any advice is welcome! Thanks!!
2007-05-16 07:23:48 · 23 answers · asked by deeshair 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
For my wedding, since my bridal party was all different sizes, I gave them the color swatch and went with them to pick out their dresses. I let them choose the dress of their liking to their body types and it looked great.
A good friend of mine did the same thing with her bridal party since they girls were all different ages (12 - 40) and each girl/woman chose a dress appropriate to their age and body type.
If you feel that you want them to be comfortable with a dress choice, good for you! I completely encourage it.
2007-05-16 07:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by Scarlett 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I am going to let my bridesmaids pick out their dresses in the color or colors that I chose for my wedding. I do have a wide range of sizes in the bridesmaids that I have chosen and like you do not want them to feel uncomfortable. Make sure to give them specifications, like it must me floor length, etc.
To answer you question as the "full figured" girl that I am, I would like to tell you that YES definately do the pick your own dress thing because I am currently battling with having to wear a little skimpy bridesmaid dress on June 16th and honestly I am absolutely mortified. The dress is very revealing, the back comes down to about 2 inces above my bottom end. It would look great if I weighed 115 pounds like the bride, but I don't anymore. So if it is just for your "heavy" friend, let them choose. Good luck!!!
2007-05-16 07:55:59 · answer #2 · answered by Destiny 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to Davids Bridals website. You can "dress your wedding party" there and see how the colors will look together, etc. There are also gowns with several different style tops/skirts in the same color line. Maybe you could choose the color and let the bridesmaids choose the style gown that suits their body best. Good luck and congratulations!
2007-05-16 07:34:26 · answer #3 · answered by terasa425 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I didn't want to make any of my BMs feel uncomfortable, but I had a certain look in mind for the wedding, so I wasn't comfortable sending them out with a color and telling them to get their own dress. I don't think they would have felt comfortable with that either - that's a lot of pressure to put on someone, especially one who is uncomfortable with shopping. Naturally, the girls are going to want to at least coordinate so one doesn't show up in a cotton sundress and another one show up in a ballgown.
A good compromise for me was letting them pick their own mix and match separates from Davids in a color I specified. They got to pick what flattered them, and the dresses looked similar enough that the bridal party looked like it belonged together. I'm not a big fan of BMs dressed in random dresses - to me it looks even more awkward than BMs dressed in cookie cutter dresses.
The girls like the guidelines - they all ended up picking the same skirt and between the four of them, three different tops (the maid and matron of honor picked the same top without knowing it). The heavier girls were pleased that they weren't wearing a dress designed for a skinny girl, and my petite flatchested cousin didn't feel awkward trying to fit into a dress more appropriate for a bustier woman.
2007-05-16 07:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by Silver_Stars 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should pick a few designs you like in the colors you like and then have them look at the same sites and pick a few designs they like in the colors you choose and then compare. I like the idea of different colored gowns. My colors are lilac and yellow and I'm only have my sis as MOH and niece as a bridesmaid so one will wear lilac and the other yellow. And I found the most beautiful flower girl dress that is exactly the color I wanted.This is an excellent site with hundreds of designs and colors at very affordable prices. Hope it helps and congrats. http://www.justthebeginnings.com
2007-05-16 07:52:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like weddings where you can tell the bridesmaid got to pick out the design that she was most comfortable in. I think that is what I will do with my wedding. Because everyone is built differently, everyone will look different (either good or bad) in the bridesmaid dress. So, since the girls will be paying for their dresses (as is traditional) why not let them pick it out? Unless you are paying for them, which you get to decide:O)
2007-05-16 07:41:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess this would partially depend on who is paying for the dresses. For my wedding I had varying sizes of gals but I wanted them all to wear matching gowns, so I picked a style that flattered all of them and I rented the dresses and I paid, since I knew some of them did not have the money to buy dresses they would never wear again. In that case I felt I had the right to choose the dresses as long as no one looked bad. If they are paying though I think you would have to let them have at least some say in choosing something that will look good on them.
2007-05-16 07:35:31 · answer #7 · answered by BJ 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
he best thing for you to do is to meet with all of the bridesmaids and describe your ideas to them and ask them how they feel. If they have any ideas themselves take note of them and come to a compromise. Another idea would be to take them to the shop where you may buy these dresses and get them to try on a variety of dresses and to see which makes them feel most comfortable. You could always just pick a colour scheme and tell them to pick which dress they are most comfortable in - they don't all have to wear the same style dress. The important thing is to make sure that everybody is happy with the final decision, yourself included.
Best of luck for the wedding.
2007-05-16 08:05:00 · answer #8 · answered by princess_terri_woo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I told my bridesmaid's the color of their dresses and let them decide between different dresses. You don't want any of them feeling uncomfortable in what they are wearing. I have a sister that is very well endowed and another one that doesn't have much going on up top but she has a big butt (which she loves) and I want them to feel good in what they are wearing down the isle.
2007-05-16 11:25:12 · answer #9 · answered by franburger 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let the biggest bridesmaid pick. She's the one who is going to have the biggest issue with how it looks on her. Just don't let her know that's why you are asking her. That would be really mean. Just find some time to spend with her and ask her opinion. It would be such a nice thing to do on your part. You could order dresses in both colors and alternate them on the girls in the line.
2016-05-19 22:01:36 · answer #10 · answered by georgina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely think letting them choose their own dress style is a wise idea, that is what I am letting mine do because they range in size from 2-20. If you want to use two different colors, either assign them a color, or let them draw out of a hat so you don't have bickering over who gets to wear what color. I think it's great that you are thoughtful enough to consider their comfort.
2007-05-16 07:34:39 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋