What should i do about my boyfriend wanting to take our relationship to the next intimate level?

Question

I have been dating this guy for about 3 months now and all we really have done is mess around (if you know what im sayin) he says that he's ready to go all the way with me (it would be my first time) He's coming down to my house friday and i know hes going to want to do it...and i really do think im ready but then again im sorta scared...lol any tips or pointers for the 1st time ??? *thanks*

Answer 1

if you arent ready then you shouldnt do it.. you have to be positive that this is something you want to do. because once you do it you cant take it back... be careful and good luck

Answer 2

Yes tell him that you aren't ready yet. If he can accept that and stay with you until you are, then that's great. However, everyone is ready at a different time in life, if he is starts to push than let him go. It means that you two do not want the same thing right now, and he and you would be better suited with someone that does. Take care, and do not do anything that you don't want to do.

Answer 3

I have some great advice for the first time. Don't do it until you are married! If you are scared, maybe that is because you aren't ready. If your boyfriend is asking and you aren't sure, maybe that is because this is a big decision and you cannot take it back. Three months is a really short time to be deciding if you want to give your body to someone else. That is your body, and it is a precious gift. Don't treat yourself with disrespect and do something that you aren't ready for. I know this sounds preachy, but take it from someone who knows. You will never get your virginity back. Never.

Answer 4

As long as you're ready you'll be fine! It's normal to be nervous, even scared, but as long as you feel it's totally the right thing then it IS the right thing.

Some pointers....don't expect it to be earth-moving, mind-blowing or anything else that sex is "supposed" to be. It will probably be weird, uncomfortable, and possibly slightly painful if your hymen is intact. It will feel good but very strange. Sex takes a LOT of practice for it to become a fantastic, affirming experience so don't expect too much to start with!

Also, take it slow with plenty of foreplay. If you're nervous you might take a while to "warm up" and if you're a little dry when your bf penetrates you it could hurt.

Answer 5

First of all, "no means no". If you aren't ready, you shouldn't feel pressured into doing anything you aren't comfortable with, and if your boyfriend can't deal with that, then you need to find a new boyfriend.

If you do decide that it's YOUR time, then just relax and have fun and take each step as a new adventure in enjoying each other. Take your time, go slow, and remember to be completely safe, as it is possible to get pregnant, even on your first time.

Answer 6

Everyone is scared the first time with someone new let alone the first time period. That is nothing new.

If you are ready, go for it. He has the right to want more, just as you have the right to not. He can either wait or find someone new.

Answer 7

it will take its place , first time is not like the movies ,but u can make it more comfortable, meaning "if" u feel right then u should sit down and think about "if" it is the right thing to do, just take the time and "know" its the right thing 2 do, if he really cares about u then he better understand that u just arent ready yet and if not then move on.

Answer 8

Only do this if you are completely sure youre ready. Everyone is nervous there first time but make sure you use protection thats the most important thing. Just relax and have fun, your nerves will fade when things get going trust me

Answer 9

make sure you are ready for the consequnces that come along with having sex ( STD's or pregnancy). or if you ever broke up it would make it that much harder knowing that you have an intimate relationship. If you really feel like you are old enough and that you love him and your not going to do it just cause he wants to then just relax, if he knows its your first time it will be that much easier and he should understand, think about it and good luck

Answer 10

You should not definitely let him pressure you cuz you will regret it. ONLY do that if YOU want to. Not because hes telling you all the great things that will happend afterwards. Especially since its your first time. If you dotn do it, trust me, you will be so happy with yourself. Not to mention, alot of trouble comes with sex!!