What i mean is, our daughter is six months old and he was only with her for two weeks of that. I dont want to get him a corny "you're the best dad ever" card, because it will only make him think of what he's missing, and he'll consider the card a lie, because how can you be the best dad if you're not near your daughter? help!
2007-05-16 06:51:16 · 26 answers · asked by Christi F 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ok now let me clarify a few things. i am not angry with him, i am very proud of him. BUT the other day i said 'your daughter misses you' and he said something like 'dont say that, she doesnt even know me'. so thats why i'm stressed about what to get him.
and this is to rose- what the **** are you talking about?? who ever mentioned cheating????? my husband is VERY faithful, as am i.
2007-05-16 08:00:01 · update #1
This is from an Empty-Nesting Single Retiree, a Military Retiree (Female) and someone whose siblings are STILL serving:
Put together a collection of Digital Photos from the baby's first few months -- 5 or 6 should do. They need to be in .jpg format, and they should be able to be attached to an E-Message.
Then .. every week or two -- just put another photo of the baby and/or both of you (can be with your own digital still camera).
WRITE an E-Message -- how you miss him, how proud you are, and how much you BOTH are looking forward to his safe return home ... and him getting to know that precious little one that is so much a part of him at this time.
THAT is what to do for Father's Day and even now. The E-Messages are picked up when they can get to them .. so they never can predict when it will be possible to visit the internet cafes ... just do it!
That way, you can CELEBRATE "Father's Day" with your significant other who is SERVING where others (more selfish) will not -- in the Armed Forces of the US in IRAQ/Hostile Areas.
Don't let the 'haters' get you down. It is horrible that others will take a serious topic as another 'opportunity' to spout off the same bias that they have. It sickens me to hear this -- especially since I TOO HAVE SERVED!
2007-05-16 08:20:28 · answer #1 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I would do is take pictures of your baby, and put the cutest one in a small picture frame and send it to him, and write on the frame, or the matting around the picture, I love you Daddy!! That will be true and if you don't want pictures of your daughter over in Iraq, send him a frame with her footprint and hand print on it and say, see how much I have grown, I leave my prints everywhere, or something like that. Plus, you can send him a card that says your the best dad ever, because although he is not near his daughter, he is doing this for his daughter, so that she can continue to live the life we have all been given. Get her a military hat, or blanket or something, and take a picture and write Daddy you are my hero on it. There are many ideas, good luck!
2007-05-16 14:00:55 · answer #2 · answered by munchie1299 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He IS eligible for "best dad" because he is serving his country and fulfilling his commitment. From this, she will learn honor.
Sending pictures would be good, perhaps a handprint, or even a video of your daughter doing some of the "little things" that he is missing out on: crawling, playing, laughing at a toy, etc. Together, you can end the video with a message that says you miss him and can't wait until he comes home.
2007-05-16 13:56:35 · answer #3 · answered by grinonli 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would send a nice letter telling him everything about his daughter. I'm sure he feels horrible that he can't be there, so maybe a photo gallery or sorts, or an album? Something to let him know you're both waiting for them, and that his daughter can't wait to get to know her dad. The link on the bottom is also some special tips for those who have father's oversees. I hope it helps!
2007-05-16 15:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by JulieP60 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband's best friend was in Iraq, he was KIA on 10/21/06. But he had three children and he absolutely loved to get pictures or DVD's. A lot of them have DVD's players over there. How about a home movie of you and your daughter? That would mean more than anything in the world. You can film it on a VHS and there are many places that would convert it to DVD for you.
2007-05-16 13:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well give him moral support. Let him know that he is the best dad because he has done something courageous by going to Iraq and that you know he will be a great father when he returns from Iraq. I think the best thing at this point is for you to let him know you support him and that is the best way for you to make him feel good about himself and to give him something to look forward to.
2007-05-16 13:57:23 · answer #6 · answered by jacky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay...Shouldn't he know he is the best dad ever?
Who is her and how do you know? did he tell you?
Are you assuming? Why would he consider the card a LIE
unless he thinks your feelings are a LIE?
How can he be around isn't he in IRAQ?
Are you angry because he is in IRAQ? that is his duty RIGHT?
World wide girlfriends..HUH! well if you know for sure he is cheating teach him a lesson and leave him..SHE CAN HAVE HIM..why weep over someone who doesn't care about you?
2007-05-16 14:26:04 · answer #7 · answered by Contorted Brains 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Send him a package of stuff including stuff from the kids to make him feel good about being a dad. Then spend the day with his dad or dinner or something special.
2007-05-16 13:55:32 · answer #8 · answered by db14 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then make up your own carding saying how you and the baby miss "Daddy" and can't wait for him to come home and be the "best dad ever".
Let him know he's missed!
2007-05-16 13:53:49 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother is in Iraq also and a few things I try to do to keep his spirit up are family pictures...I send him pictures, drawings, etc. of his niece/nephew. And if you're real creative you can even tie it into a slide show of pics, music, video, etc...I'd go ahead and send the card anyway...I'm almost positive it will bring a smile to his face. GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-05-16 13:56:12 · answer #10 · answered by LUV OF TENNIS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋