I'm 16, and I like flirting or anything, just to have a laugh. However, as soon as they start to hint that they like me and they want to take our relationship to a higher level I just back of, run away. What the hell is wrong with me? Ok im not the most social person on earth, a perfectionist and hard working at school, but so? as soon as a guy suggests we date, i feel i don't rly know him, how him as my bf will change other aspects of my life, i ask myself whether i can trust him, and think of the endless defects i have, here goes my self esteem again. what can i do to change?
2007-05-16 06:12:42 · 11 answers · asked by alexisvisjnic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop analizing the heck out of this that's your problem right there. Everyone at one time thinks this way, but if you don't let yourself get to know anybody how will you know if you can trust them? You kinda have to start some place. Friendships, relationships it teaches you about other people. You have to get yourself involved either with friends or in relationships so you can grow as a person....and you'll learn along the way. Relationships can be tough sometimes, you can even get your heart broken.......but the worst thing you can do is to not live your life and hide away because your too afraid. We all go through this, your not the first one. So get out there and live your life, you'll survive it really. Oh, and those endless defects you mentioned about yourself, the people who care enough about you will understand and except that about you.
It's weeding through them that can be a little tough. Hope something I said in here helps. Now get out there and live!
2007-05-16 06:33:31 · answer #1 · answered by MLJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are scared of getting hurt in a relationship....and at this age you'll get more attention from guys cuz their harmones are driving them nuts...
so I would suggest that go on a date to know someone...make sure to choose a guy with good morals....this will change your attitude and get you out of this danger zone...
secondly if you are dating or in a relationship....don't give into sex for atleast sometime i will say 8 months to 1 year which will help you determine who is after the BOOTY or who is after the HEART.
if you find out this person really loves you...then you'll might have a happy life
2007-05-16 13:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the "role-models" that you look at as strong women all have really bad relationship skills! so every time you think of being successful it really messes with your relationship antennas!
To change, make sure the people that talk to you about success also have a great partner and are in a healthy relationship!
A lot of women think you have to degrade men in order to become a strong woman but the exact opposite always holds true. Good Luck!
2007-05-16 13:20:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to have more confidence in yourself. You're probably afriad to get hurt which is why you run the opposite direction when any guy gets serious with you. Learn to fall or take the leap. Dating is about learning more about someone and if he's compatible with you, why not try? You have to date many guys to know which one is right for you. Its not necessary to find the right one on the first go. So just relax, be confident and just have fun! =]
2007-05-16 13:20:54 · answer #4 · answered by dusty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself time to grow up a bit..Honey..you just aren't ready..There isn't anything wrong with you.. Enjoy being 16 and let the rest come as it will..Don't grow up too fast..you'll be an adult a lot longer than you'll be a kid . No worries .... your popular and you seem happy just let it ride..You'll meet some one some day and it will just be natural., it will feel right. Till then just , have fun..
2007-05-16 13:19:12 · answer #5 · answered by Iknowalittle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
16. Time for you to look long and hard in the mirror and "see" what you see everyday till u r 18. Define What? Why? How? Who? Where? When? for all unanswered questions. If you believe in God... u will get answers!!
2007-05-16 13:27:45 · answer #6 · answered by Career-Craft 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're thinking too far ahead. If someone wants to date you, then go on a date. Take it a step at a time and enjoy it.
Then if you like them go on another and so on.
2007-05-16 13:17:22 · answer #7 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, please don"t change !Too many girls are easy and quick to go to the next level. Being proper is a God given gift ! In this day and age, "sex kills" ! A bad reputation may haunt you he rest of your life. Love Kenny M.
2007-05-16 13:26:55 · answer #8 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your not ready for all of this, you will know when the time is right, you are only 16.
2007-05-16 13:18:47 · answer #9 · answered by *Butterfly* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to trust, but with caution.
2007-05-16 13:18:40 · answer #10 · answered by Ms Ghost 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋