there for him..he is 31 lives with momma..have commitment issues..compliments other women (but apologized)..smokes weed..have a job but no money..dont plan on living his momma house...has alot of growing up to do...
i try to talk to him to make him see that i will be by his side..should i give up on him.....
2007-05-16 05:57:34 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is 31 and i am 29
2007-05-16 06:02:24 · update #1
i was speaking to someone this morning and he( an older gentlemen) told me that he was the same way when he was young and his wife spoke to him and thank god he realize what he had before she left him..
2007-05-16 06:08:42 · update #2
he has a house ..two kids in school college and he is happy his family are his friends..so should i support my guy..
2007-05-16 06:09:38 · update #3
Yes, there is a day and age that people have to grow up and be responsible and hes long past that time. (I'd say most people should get over that by age 25)...
Its up to you what you want to do, but I'm sure you can find someone else that is more willing to do what it takes to be responsible?
Just ask yourself. Would you want this guy to be your partner for the rest of your life? The father of your children? The one you have to rely on when the time is needed? Would he step up to the plate and be a man in any of those situations? I think the answer should be fairly obvious.
2007-05-16 06:02:02 · answer #1 · answered by brandonb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry but sounds like this guy will never get his act together. Do you really think a person that only compliments others but not the person their with is just going to suddenly stop that is not even right and just because he apologized doesn't make it better and doesn't mean he isn't going to do it again. Men that are this way never change move on find someone that will give you compliments before other women and one that doesn't live with his momma and knows how to budget money.
2007-05-16 13:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by Momof1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you got into this relationship knowing all this stuff about him. You don't have the right to complain....if you don't like the way things are get the hell out of there.
Second thing is u need to realize that you can't change anybody. You are not a psychiatrist.....you don't have the experience. Stop trying to change the guy because you can't.
Find another guy that has exactly what you are looking for.
2007-05-16 13:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by simeonceesay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If he is living with mommy at 31 and smokin' you will become his substitute mother when she passes on. A friend of impeccable manners and breeding told me once that all men need a nanny. Stay with this dude and you will be his nanny. There are many men who would like to find a decent lady and support both of you. Get goin' and find one before the winter sets in and ha has you clearing his mother's driveway.
2007-05-16 13:02:14 · answer #4 · answered by pwwatson8888 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do men just have to answer this one? It's pretty obvious.
No, dump his *** and move on to someone who will be there for you too. He has A LOT of growing up to do, and tell him when he gets his act together and starts to act like an adult then you all can talk about a relationship again, until then, get a real man.
2007-05-16 13:01:37 · answer #5 · answered by tarnishedhalo85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he doesen't love u if he did he would giv up all the bad habbits grow up an b their for u can't b a 1 sided relationship 4 it 2 work my op is find some one that loves u & u lov &some one who really apperashates u hop this helps good luck?
2007-05-16 13:13:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you want to be his momma? If you want to baby the man then by all means have a ball! You can be his new momma.
Now you want to support him? What a man you have on your hands
2007-05-16 13:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you are with this loser to begin with. Make me have major questions about you. He is the way he is and he won't change. Clearly you think you can change him, however you are only fooling yourself. Stop doing that, dump him, and move on.
2007-05-16 13:01:35 · answer #8 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - he does not seam to be stable enough for what you want. He needs more growing before he can have a good relationship. You are too good for him.
2007-05-16 13:01:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on honey @ 31 years old you will never be able to change him.
2007-05-16 13:01:10 · answer #10 · answered by nosugamomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋