Okay so i'm like almost 19 and i have been pretty much boyfriend free for like years now, i hav'nt really even liked any body......until now. Yeah its like whenever i'm not around him, it hurts. Everything he does makes me smile. And i know he doesn't feel the same way which sucks alot. But don't worry...it gets worse. He's one of my best friends. So how do i kick this feeling? In fact I dont even think i can. Anyway i know this is going to sound completley selfish and horrible but i'v been crying for about an hour now and i just need someone to tell me i'm not crazy and that life might get better without him in my life that way. He'll always be my best friend. That will never change. But as far as being in love him on my part, i don't think theres anything i can do about that. grrrrrrrr i'm such a retard.
I hate being in love. Great now i'm rambling....sryy bout that.
-tears
2007-05-16 05:31:02 · 12 answers · asked by love_da_keys 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not as bad as it seems. Every girl has gone through this at least once. They fall in love with their best friend. I've been through it, so many girls have been through this. What you needa do is live it out. Yeah, it'll hurt. But think of it this way. If you fall in love with them, and then you date, and then you break up, you've lost them for a long time. ANd then it hurts even more. ANd then you dont know how to react cuz it hurts that bad, What you needa do, you gotta give it time. Be friends, but dont do anything to lose this friendship.
2007-05-16 05:36:14 · answer #1 · answered by haleyknutson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww don't cry. I know exactly how you feel I have been in love with a good friend of mine also only about 2 months ago him and my sister got togthere so yeah that really really sucks!. There really is no way to stop those feelings I always wish that feelings where something we could shut on and off but of course we can't. Have you told you'r friend how you feel? You never know he might feel the same way as you do and just not wanna say anything so maybe hint a little with him and see what happens. But yes you will be ok with out him in your life as a boyfriend and just your best friend one day you will just find someone elese you like and it won't hurt so much anymore, just don't let this ruin you'r friendship with him thats never worth it because friends are the best ever and you don't wanna loose that at all. before my sister started dating my friend I had to watch him with other girls and him talk about liking other girls and I would get a little upset and he would wonder why and it caused a few problems with us (nothing big but it could have been) So you will half to learn to deal with that as well (wich sucks). Good luck and don't let it bring you down at all there way more to worry about then a guy in this world and they come and go anyways so keep your head up.
2007-05-16 12:40:46 · answer #2 · answered by Amy D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U are completely normal..... and u are really lucky to a friend that great.... maybe if you talked to him about it. Who knows, he may feel the same way, just not show it because he thinks u might not like him
But do remember this. If you two do get together, what will happen to y'alls friend relationship, especially if yall break up later on. You have to make the decision of which relationship with him you value more. But you can't just sit there and do nothing, doing that seemed to screw me over pretty badly, because if you don't do anything about it u will take forever to get over him and then u will find ur self lonely for a long time waiting for him when he may never want you that way.
2007-05-16 12:44:23 · answer #3 · answered by Joshua 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing! Dry them eyes up how do you know he doesn't feel the same way anyways? If he's one of your best friends do you think he would be upset that he has hurt you like this? Your not crazy and things are going to be just fine. That's the crazy part about love you and everyone has to be able to take the rejection part of a relationship if it happens. That's just life! It happens everyday and all over the world. He is your best friend after all and maybe you need to discuss this with him and try to figure things out. You have been holding out trying to find that one that you have been wanting to share your life with and it quite ain't going like you want. I'm not really convinced that he ain't crazy about you. I would get with this guy because it definitely sounds like love.
2007-05-16 12:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by Luv2no is in the house 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply put, who said you cant be more than friends. My and my best friend from a long time ago are finally hooking up and I have never been happier. Next time your alone with him just start saying things like "I heard something good about you." Or "I heard someone talking about you and they said your a real good kisser." Do you see where I am going here. Make it sound like somebody else is interested but you have to find out for your self. So when you tell him you heard he was a good kisser follow it up with "This I have to see for myself." And its all downhill from there.
2007-05-16 12:39:53 · answer #5 · answered by kinreep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU AREN'T CRAZY!!!! talk to him about your feelings. if he is your best friend, he will care and want to help you. who knows, maybe he has been feeling the same thing towards you!!! tell him that you don't want to ruin the relationship, but you can't help these feelings that you are having. just see what he thinks of it all. if you think whatsoever that this might jeopardize the relationship DO NOT DO IT!! make sure you weigh the consequences before pursuing any other kind of relationship with him. just be honest with him, that is the best thing that you can do!! hang in there, and good luck hun!!!
2007-05-16 12:36:58 · answer #6 · answered by nicksgirl1390 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know he doesn't feel the same way? Did you ask him or is that an assumption on your part. The person you love should be your bestfriend. OMG why are you not talking this over with "one of your best friends"?
2007-05-16 12:38:15 · answer #7 · answered by sissy k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. He will let you know if he wants to be with you like that. Once you let it out you'll feel better no matter his response as long as you understand that not everyone that you like will like you as well. If you are as close as you say you are, he will tell you in a tactful way exactly how he feels in return and you will be accepting. Beyond that there is nothing to cry about in this situation.
2007-05-16 12:37:16 · answer #8 · answered by Ronnie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural affection. Not love. Trust me, we all feel it intensly sometimes. You just have to live with it. It fades in time, until the next looker comes on, and then I'm chasing skirt again. Yeah! I love you sexy woman. Come on Baby Yeah! Sorry got a bit carried away there. lol!
2007-05-16 12:35:07 · answer #9 · answered by TJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try making other friends and give yourself some space away from this guy if he doesn't like you as a girlfriend.
2007-05-16 12:41:14 · answer #10 · answered by p00756 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋