for me to hold him (or play with him, which I do a lot of the time)...what can I do to help him learn to play on his own? I hate to see him just cry at me!!!!
2007-05-16 05:29:01 · 7 answers · asked by sophiensamsmom 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
It is always hard to listen or see your own children cry. But kids are smart if there is nothing wrong with them and they cry for attention and you pick them right back up then you are now on their terms. If it is possible to set a "playdate" with mommy like a routine that will help. He will get used to it and don't hold him all of the time. yes he will cry but it isn't any different then a kid crying when told no its a form of a tantrum. he will use it as long as it works. i had to set a routine of playing with my daughter because as much as i wanted to play with her all of the time, i had to juggle the housework too.good luck
2007-05-16 07:44:09 · answer #1 · answered by Idonotknowyou 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my then 13 month old son was doing the same exact thing. He would be playing with his 9 yr old sister or watching "wonder pets" and i walk by, he would immediately follow me and cry for me and put his hands up for me to hold him. A few times, i comforted him and then i caught on...If he was not hurt, i did not pick him up and eventually he learned he is not going to get his way. I would only pick him up when he was hurt or not crying so he would learn and he did...he is now 15 months old and does not do it anymore!!! I know it's heartbreaking to hear your child cry but it will only get worse in the long run so be consistent and it will soon be a distant memory!!
2007-05-16 05:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Sexy Mama of 2 cuties♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is doing something similar. I just tell her "mommy is going to play with you in a minute" and let her cry if she has to. I don't leave her in a room alone or anything, but I simply can't hold her 24/7. I offer her a toy or a sippy cup, even a snack. If I'm really desperate, I give her my cell phone. That always makes her stop crying lol
2007-05-16 05:35:09 · answer #3 · answered by customcat2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is very much a mama's boy. I had this very problem not so long ago. And even now there are days when I am still the only one he wants.
I had my husband do more things with my son, with just the 2 of them. I also had him visit grandparents and aunts and uncles with out me being there. My son had it in his head that I was the only one who could do things for him. It truly broke my heart to tell him no. You just need to distance yourself from him a little. I know it sounds awful, but I promise it will be better for him in the long run. He is still a mamas boy, but now he turns to daddy more often instead of me. Yeah, it kinda makes me a little sad, but I know that what I'm doing is for his best interest. Good Luck.
2007-05-16 05:44:22 · answer #4 · answered by Cresha B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have 1 child who is now 6. She being the only child was very dependant on me to occupy her. My mom told me one day while i was tryin to hold a conversation with her and the baby was wanting all the attention that she needed to learn to play by herslef. It was sooo hard... I had to tell her to go play with her toys and she cried horribly, i was devasated but it was the best that i could do and i left the room and went outside...before i knew it she was playin and using her imagination. We all love our kids , when they cry for us in this situation all we can do is be CONSISTANT AND LOVING.
2007-05-16 05:37:41 · answer #5 · answered by kristy M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to ignore him. It is really hard but if you keep giving him attention while he fusses he will know all he has to do is fuss and you will play with him. Try it and be consistent
2007-05-16 05:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by Bears#1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is typical toddler behavior, he will out grow it soon enough.
2007-05-16 05:32:41 · answer #7 · answered by parental unit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋