Why don't men call women back after they have sex? WHY IS IT OK 4 MEN BUT NOT ACCEPTABLE 4 WOMEN???

Question

I am just curious. I went to bed with a VERY sexy guy on the second date because I knew he wasn't relationship material and he was way too sexy not too! Plus I have needs too and no current boyfriend. Just wondering what men think and why they don't call again after they get it?? The sex was good!! Why is it acceptable for men too sleep with anyone at anytime but women get a bad reputation? I thing that is such bull crap that men can bed however many women they want as quickly as they want and it be acceptable but women have to be cautious because they will be disrespected by men.

Answer 1

It's a stupid double standard brought about by thousands of years of human society.

There really is no reason for it.

However, It's been my experience that other women tend to be harder on you than men would be. Which makes it even stupider in my opinion.

Do what you want, as long as you aren't getting yourself or anyone else hurt, it's fine.

Answer 2

Because you don't call the cow to the barn to milk it when you already have the milk in the fridge. If you participate in self serving, superficial, materialistic relationships then you should expect self serving superficial materialistic behavior from those which you participate in these relationships. I don't think women are viewed to different nowadays in these situations than men, men can get very bad reputations to I believe it is lifestyle choices and how you personally chose to live , I think you really wanted a relationship with him are you wouldn't really care if he called you and not to many people will know if you don;t tell them, As for why men do not call that is a very board and generalized statement you are lumping millions of men into one category, some men may have called, some men won't but if you knew he wasn't relationship material anyway he probably felt the same and figured why bother, I think you need to decide what kind of relationship it is you are looking for, and do not go in as a Player and except some thing different of a outcome, sometimes it happens most of the time it doesn't. You need to be honest first of all with yourself , I think you were hoping for a relationship with this guy and hiding behind the player status now you feel guilty and upset, lookin for love in all the wrong places, you have to set your own personal boundaries for your relationships you want a booty call are do you want love are do you want friendship, different type of relationships need different types of strategies .I bieleve this would compare to you setting up a table and layng a pile of hudred dollar bills on it and making a sign that says free money no catches our obligations, Some pepole won't get in line because the are skeptical, but I am positive you would have a long line of pepole for that free money. Then two days later you are broke so ask some of the pepole you gave the money to give some back well some may, but alot won't they will have spent it and what can you say you said no obligation, you can't blame them you shouldn't have gave the money away if you wanted are needed it, you can't always expect something back when you do things in manner where no one is expected to give you anything in return. I personnally do not care if you want to have casual recreational sex that is your buisness at least until you post it on Yahoo , but do not fool yourself if you want a meaningful relationship then seek that type of relationship and be upfront with your partner and with your expectations and be careful there are Male and Female players out there, but do not be suprised if you are giving pleasure away for free and someone accepts sommeone always will . I do not think bad of you, I think you are unsure of what it is that you want and scared that you be labeled as being a Player.

Answer 3

Personally I think view men that sleep around the same way I view women who sleep around and to me which ever way you look at it, it is unattractive. Society gives labels to men who sleep around and women who sleep around. Women are supposed to be “lady like, respectful, and should not be as open top showing their sexual desire. Men on the other hand are encouraged to be “players” to be a lady’s man, the more women you have slept with or are seeing, the more of a macho “mans man you are.” It’s a horrible stereotype but unfortunately we live in a world that includes stereotypical gender ideologies. I think you have to make it a personal choice to believe it or not. Personally I don’t and when I hear men bragging about how many women they have slept with and then calling women sluts for being so easy I would simply respond with, well that makes you a slut to. You may not be able to change a whole societal view of the stereotype but choose to believe what you want!

Answer 4

Just because it happens doesn't mean that it is necessarily right. This is just an example of one double standard that has to be dealt with. It has never been a big deal and probably never will be. I don't know why men don't call back or even in your case why this guy didn't call you back. Maybe it wasn't as good for him as it was for you. Maybe he knocked your socks off but you didn't really do it for him. There could be many assumptions but you won't find out the reason until you have a conversation with him.

Answer 5

It's not what the men think of you, but what you think of yourself that matters. If at the end of the day you are able to look at yourself in the mirror, and not be repulsed by your actions, then cool. Do you. If not , then you need to rethink what it is that you're doing to yourself. What does it matter if the rest of the world think you're an angel sent from heaven, if you believe you're the biggest whore that ever lived? What's important is what you think, not what they think. You have to live with your decisions long after everyone else is long gone. Remember that..... and you'll make better choices for you because of you.

Answer 6

I totally understand, but I don't call the dude back either, They call me (LoL)... but i keep 100 with them and tell them I don't want a boyfriend...They come, I *** and they go, and I good...Don't worry about the whole double standard thing. Charge it to the game and keep walking. They just talk all that mess cause they can't handle it, they want women to run after them. When I want sex, i want sex, not a relationship...Tell them like that and they cant do nothing but accept it. And if you don't want them their opinions don't matter anyway!!

Answer 7

First of all, I find it a bit odd that you care whether or not he calls you back when all you wanted from him was sex and no relationship.... But anyway, it's just the age-old double standard. And, most men who are like him feel that once they have "conquered" what they wanted, a.k.a., sex with you, they are done and move on to the next one. Personally I find it degrading and disgusting and would never want to get involved with such a shallow person, but that's me. : )

Answer 8

Women can only have one baby every ten-eleven months. I man can have hundreds of babies in ten months. A mans head is set to match his functions, so it makes sense for men to have sex with anyone. Women on the other hand are naturally more selective, because they can't afford to waste ten months of prime breeding time with some dorks seed. Whenever women try to play the man role it's unnatural, and therefore unattractive. Men want women who are particular, choosey, picky. It shows good genes.

Answer 9

I totally hate man-sluts. I agree that this view men have is an unfair double standard. Just remember to use protection. There are lots of things you don't want to catch going around out there.

Answer 10

You wanted a fling and are unhappy when it happened...don't you see how absurd your post is?

He didn't call you because he doesn't like easy women. He didn't call you because the sex wasn't that good. He didn't call you because he wants someone better...do you get the hint now why he didn't call you?

It's not that women not calling is unacceptable, you have this wrong too. It's because women want to call and men don't want them too. It's as plain as the nose on your face. It's not acceptable because women make it that way. Of course that fact is beyond your comprehension.