pls give me your insight?

Question

So my boyfriend and I had a nasty brake up soon after I left for college. He's dated other people, I dated one guy but he was just rebound man. Lately I think about picking up the phone and telling him I miss him, I love him, and I'm sorry. I wan't to ask him can we pls try again. But the other half of me says no. You've come this far (8 months), healed this much, do you really want to go back there? Plus it would be a long distance relationship and that's part of the reason we broke up in the first place. He asked for me back in september, and I said no. I was too hurt and too scared to try again, and now sometimes I regret it. I feel that too much time has passed to make ammends, if ammends could even be made. So has anybody been in a similiar situation. Can someone give me some sort of insight. I know utlimitaly I have to make my own decision, but sometimes hearing from others helps.

Answer 1

been there,, done that. If you'd meet a guy today and start up a good friendship it would surprise you how fast you ex would leave your thoughts. When your heart is lonely you want to do what is easy,, but in the end it would only hurt you even more. It's over,, it's time to move on,, don't go back down that road.
good luck...

Answer 2

You should go with you're heart, If you feel that you've made a mistake. Giving it another shot might be the only way for you to gain some closure or happiness that you might not be able to find else where. If it works out then, congrats! If it doesn't, then you know that he's not the one for you and it'll be easier for you to move on. From my experience, not going after what I wanted when I wanted it has left me with some major regrets and it's been distracting and basically holding me back. I didn't even realized it until after I was over the whole ordeal. And to add to that, I had even more regrets for not moving on sooner after that. I must add though, be realistic, if distance really is so much of a problem and there's no maneuvering around it, you'll have to accept that sometimes we just have to know when to move on and just do it.

Answer 3

I'm glad you know ultimately this is your decision and this is just other peoples insight. Okay.Honestly I feel as though, you have come a very long way. If he couldn't handle you being away in the beginning. I doubt he's going to want to try it again with the same situation. Men are like dogs (no offense) they love attention and to be stroked. And when neglected of that for sometime they move on to the next *****, to get it from. And honestly I don't think you need that. It's been 8 months and even though we hate to admit it, he's moved on and you need to too. If he veiwed things the way you do I truely believe he'd come chasing you. And besides, if he hasn't matured, at least you don't have to deal with it. You don't even have to see him right now!!

Answer 4

****
Like a Night Club in the morning, you’re the bitter end.
Like a recently disinfected ****-house, you’re clean round the bend.
You give me the horrors
too bad to be true
All of my tomorrow’s
are lousy coz of you.
You put the Shat in Shatter
Put the Pain in Spain
Your germs are splattered about
Your face is just a stain

You’re certainly no raver, commonly known as a drag.
Do us all a favour, here... wear this polythene bag.

You’re like a dose of scabies,
I’ve got you under my skin.
You make life a fairy tale... Grimm!

People mention murder, the moment you arrive.
I’d consider killing you if I thought you were alive.
You’ve got this slippery quality,
it makes me think of phlegm,
and a dual personality
I hate both of them.

Your bad breath, vamps disease, destruction, and decay.
Please, please, please, please, take yourself away.
Like a death a birthday party,
you ruin all the fun.
Like a sucked and spat our smartie,
you’re no use to anyone.
Like the shadow of the guillotine
on a dead consumptive’s face.
Speaking as an outsider,
what do you think of the human race

You went to a progressive psychiatrist.
He recommended suicide...
before scratching your bad name off his list,
and pointing the way outside.

You hear laughter breaking through, it makes you want to fart.
You’re heading for a breakdown,
better pull yourself apart.

Your dirty name gets passed about when something goes amiss.
Your attitudes are platitudes,
just make me wanna piss.

What kind of creature bore you
Was is some kind of bat
They can’t find a good word for you,
but I can...
****.

LYRICS © JOHN COOPER CLARKE

Answer 5

It is only natural to go back to something that is comfortable and safe. Yet you have come far, no need to really take steps backward. Regret is natural but you have to move on in order to know if it's really the right thing.

Answer 6

you're in college and you are without a b/f? Get out and see those around you. At this time you just need a friend and a companion, not a lover. Wait a while for the lover to emerge from your circle of friends.

Answer 7

I wouldnt go back to him, like you said you have healed so much why go back to him, it could make things worse. If you miss him maybe just be friends with him. But i personally wouldnt go back to an ex because i have seen too many people go back to the same person and it never ends up working.. its always break up get back together, break up get back together... and so on.

Answer 8

Your only problem is you are lonely. Get out and you will forget all about him. The reasons you broke up have not changed and since he isn't calling you, clearly he has move on. You need to do the same.

Answer 9

honey, you are just lonely and away from home and you would like some thing or someone from home to make you feel better. but the reasons you broke up are still there if its ment to be it will be some how but i think you should meet boys where you are and leave the past in the past.

Answer 10

I hope he asks you out and blows you off again. You'll be the rebound girl. Then you f ing know to stay away from filthy ex's
Or maybe you want to break up with him again!?!?!?!?!?