Are you afraid of losing family member that you love very much?

Question

and why ?
I think about it all the time and it has not happen to me but just the thoughts of losing my gals and husband freaks me out.

Answer 1

I worry about it from time to time. Maybe more often than many, because my sister lost her daughter & granddaughter in a car accident a couple of years ago.

But, I try not to let the fear paralyze me. Instead, I try to use it as motivation to savor every moment that I have with the people who I love, now, while they're here, since I know that they could be gone tomorrow.

Answer 2

I grew up with my dad suffering from emphysema. This had good stuff with it and bad stuff. Good stuff is that I stopped being self-centered and his sickness made me stay close to enjoy him as I was always fearing he would die ... so I knew time was short. Bad stuff, I did live under that "Fear" and this keep me from spreading my wings to their full potential (in regards to my Dad and my life). However, I say that my choice to stay close to my Dad was the best decision I ever made.

When he passed away (R.I.P.) ... well, it was a very spiritual "Liberation" that occured in my soul. I was chocking myself on the fear of loosing him for sooooo many years ... and when I lost him, it wasn't the end of the world; my world stopped, but this was a moment unlike anything I had pre-paired for.

My second person that I was soooo scared that would leave was my Boy-Friend who helped me during my Dad's passing. Well, he just left, and is getting married ... you'd think I'd be loosing it major ... but strangly, I'm getting the same "Liberating" feeling and can BREATH.

"Totus Tuutus" (Totally Yours) - Is the practice of letting go of all inhibitions and letting life take it's course ... I highly recomend it!!!
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Enough about me ... so you're afraid of losing your gals ... well, isn't your job as Mother to teach your gals to leave the nest? Try watching the Disney movie, "Finding Nemo" ... where the baby turtle leaves the E.O.C ... and the parent totally trusts their child.

It's a scary meditation to get to "Totus Tuutus" but if you imagine you loosing EVERYTHING ... it does take the fear out and helps you find perspective on what is important to you and gives you insite on goals you can work on.

Answer 3

Yes, very much so. It has nothing to do with believing they will go to heaven and very much to do with the loss of their physical presence in our lives.

My son is in Iraq and yeah, not a day goes by I do not think about where he is and if he is okay. But I think about others too, my parents, my other children, my grandchildren.

All of my grandparents had died by the time I was 13, so at least I have had some experience with death, but I do not think we are ever truly prepared to lose someone.

The Ol' Hippie Jesus Freak
Grace and Peace
Peg

Answer 4

It does hurt to lose a love one, but I'm not afraid cause I put hope in the resurrection.
John 5:28,29 bring out that these ones will be resurrected.

So even though the thought of not being able to touch them, or speak to them, or even hear their voices in this life time scares me, it doesn't put a morbid fear in me cause i know that one day I will be able to see them again.

Answer 5

I try not to think about that sort of thing, the very thought of loosing a family member makes me crazy and paranoid. I have nightmares about it.

Answer 6

Such fears don't dominate my thinking, but I do worry about my wife, stepdaughter, and grandchildren. One grandchild is very ill, so I worry about her most of the time, but I would be devastated if anything happened to any of them. It's one of my jobs to do everything I humanly can to protect and care for them.

Answer 7

Anxiety disorder? Just ask yourself "what good will come if I think like this?" Chances are you and ur family will be okay but if something happens you'll still be alright.

Answer 8

Everyone has those fears from time to time, it's frightening because you'll never have them in your life anyone. But they pass quickly when you know they are fine. Don't let it eat away at you, that's not healthy.

Answer 9

If I let myself think about it, I can get very upset that I might lose someone.

I have lost many.

However, I have to be grateful for what I have, not cry for not getting more. Still, it terrifies me sometimes.

Answer 10

Only the ones who aren't saved. I miss the ones that I have already lost - especially my dad - but I know I'll see them again one day.

Afraid - no. Of course I would be emotionally devastated if I outlive my daughters or my grandbaby regardless of their salvation, but I know God would see me through.