My dad is a Sargeant w/ the IPD (Indianapolis Police Department) and my moms a teacher. Ive always known Ive wanted to go into the Military, but recently decided what I was going to do. Im in high school and to make this short, Im enlisting as MP in the Marines and getting an assosicates degree in Criminal Justice while Im in. I already have 15 credits from this program I did at a neighboring school this year. My mom is totally anti-joining Military kind of mom and my dad is fine w/ it as long as I have a degree to back it up incase I want to get a civillian job later on. How do I get my mom to support this w/o going crazy? Im going to do it either way but itd be nice to not have her up my @ss about it while Im in school.
2007-05-16 03:57:14 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I wish I had a better answer for you. I like the idea of have a heart to heart with your mom. I really think it could go a long way.
I did six years in the Marines ('94-'00), and it has been until resently that mom has even started to recognize what being a Marine is all about. She did even know the first thing about my job in the Corps, much less basic things about the Marines. This all happened because she didn't want me to go and I did.
As corny as it sounds, I gave her the book "Keeping Faith" by John and Frank Schaeffer. It is about a son that joins the Marines without the support of his parents. His dad is not just against it but embarrassed by it (they are Ivy League types). The book follows the son to boot camp and then into the fleet. It also details how the dad feels and how he comes around to really support his son and his decision. It is an awesome book.
Good luck to you with everything.
2007-05-16 06:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by jrstina624 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off I want to thank your father for serving in law enforcement and thank you for the courage and patriotism to want to serve your nation. I think your idea is sound and a little advice coming from a Marine would be to make sure you keep your intentions true. If and when you join make sure you follow through and get your degree, because you may find yourself goofing off from time to time while serving. As far as your mother is concerned well she has every right to be concerned about you joining the Marine Corps. I doubt there is much you can do to convince her this is a decision she will sit well with. Maybe you should speak with a recruiter and see what advice he or she may have to offer on the subject concerning your mother.
2007-05-16 11:24:08 · answer #2 · answered by vetsweld 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The recruiters won't normally tell you up front that you only have one chance (boot camp) to sign up for the Montgomery G.I. Bill. Its a great deal of money you could use toward college and you never have to pay it back. Having it as a back up will give you more options in the future. Good luck.
2007-05-16 11:58:53 · answer #3 · answered by clwood10 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and have a heart to heart with your mom. Tell her that this is YOUR dream, not hers, and it would mean alot to you if she supported your dreams... You also need to prove to her that you have a goal in mind, and you are going to stick to that goal (criminal justice degree).. It may be hard at first, but she will eventually switch sides and support your view and dreams.
2007-05-16 11:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by Dan 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if your mom and dad have taught you well and a good set on values in life,, invite your mom to have lunch one day with you ,,no one else.. just explain to her how she has taught you to stand on your own two feet.. tell her how you want to do this.. but make sure you want to go into the core,,, i will tell you right now it is going to change your life. it will make you a man. your mom does not want to see her son go into service in time of war.. no one does,, you do not understand how hard this is for a parent , unless you have been there.. i too have faced this ,,, i have lost a son and nephew in iraq.. it hurts ,,, but i knew going in ,what could happen,, but i support my son and nephew ,, my heart goes to them for defending the usa.. and giveing their lives for it... no greater price can be paid..
love you mom and dad, and let them know what you think of them. how much you love them.. and never forget that they are in your corner always. that is what parents are for.
god bless you
2007-05-16 11:32:03 · answer #5 · answered by RED WHITE AND BLUE 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Look...when you turn 18 that is one of the few choices that you get to make when you come to the age of majority. She may not like your choice but she will, in time, respect it. Semper Fi
2007-05-16 12:00:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my mom did not want me to join the army back in the mid 70's. she got past it after i finshed all training, then mom was proud of me and still is.
2007-05-16 12:10:03 · answer #7 · answered by waljac6108 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but.. your Mom is a Liberal.
Only a Liberal would object to such a thing.
2007-05-16 13:17:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
in a similar situation...
the only thing you can do is try and talk to your mom and hope she understands that this is what you really want to do with your life. because it is your choice.
2007-05-16 11:32:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
shes your mom, shes not gonna support her kid going to the military in a time of war.
2007-05-16 11:00:55 · answer #10 · answered by Kevy 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋