I know, I know; we all hate it when we ask someone out, they say yes, then two days later they change their mind.
But since my mind is definitely changed, and he's a close friend of a close friend, I can't use the usual evil tactics of "I'm sorry, but no" and ignore.
So what is a polite, kind, but firm way of letting him know that I've changed my mind?
((I'm 20, he's 22, so it's not like "I'm too young to date" is going to work))
2007-05-16 03:20:31 · 8 answers · asked by Callisto 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I "accidentally" agreed basically translates to "I agreed in a temporary fit of madness". He's been asking me out since mid November, and I don't like him that way; and I've been trying to deal with the emotional consequences of rape etc, so I tend to get into serious panic attacks about dating, or being alone with any guy I don't know exceptionally well. I don't know what made me agree, but I know he wants to sleep with his gf, and I don't want to go down any road that leads there. One date leads to more dates leads to who knows what, and if I go on the first one I'm not sure I can keep to my boundaries... Since to leave the house on a date I would have had a drink or two, just so I wasn't shaking, crying and in tears...
Which I think is what got him asking me out in the first damn place.... and I just don't think it's a bright idea. At all. In any way.
2007-05-16 03:34:42 · update #1
Fake a death in the family or an old boyfriend is making ammends and you are getting back together... in the end if you cant break it up invite a lot of friends and make it a group thing and he'll get the hint
2007-05-16 03:34:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
start by saying the same thing u started ur question with..and how u hate it when some1 change their mind..but u have ur strong reasons for not going out with him..and give him the chance to tell u what he thinks and be understanding..do it nicely and politely..act like u know what ure doing and dont show reluctant and uncertainty of what ure doing..he'll understand straight away..and good luck =)
2007-05-16 03:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by Mira 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm just curious as to how you ACCIDENTALLY accept a date. You stated that you can't use the "usual" tactics, So I'm guessing you have a lot of accidental dates. Here's a novel idea......Be true to your word and go out on the date!!!! It's a date, not a prison sentence.............you might even have a good time
2007-05-16 03:28:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Just tell him that you dont think its going to work out and if he asks why tell him you had a false feeling
good luck
2007-05-16 03:24:03 · answer #4 · answered by alucardatebulma 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This will be no easy task,,, but you can tell him something came up (unless he's crazy or your close to him he won't ask why).
"I'm sorry something has come up for that evening, and we will have to reschedule another time" Then you can ignore :) good luck!!
2007-05-16 03:26:45 · answer #5 · answered by Kay Ray 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him. You don't want it to affect your relationship with your other friend for some reason. Good Luck.
2007-05-16 03:34:16 · answer #6 · answered by Adam 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you are friends then be honest ---- if they dont accept that you dont want to go out with them they are not a very good friend --- saying sorry no --- is not evil its honest --- best wishes
2007-05-16 03:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
there's no excuse,you agreed to a date now is too late to back out,if you didn't want to go out with him,why the f*** didn't you say so?
2007-05-16 05:39:30 · answer #8 · answered by NONAME 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋