Ok.....I am the only child of my mother whom was abused by my father(biological) she left him him when i was 9 months old and we have never seen or heard from him since..... I am now 30....ok.....my mother always told me that i had brothers and sisters...Well, last Sunday i found what was thought to be my brother among others...i called several numbers and lo and behold............i was called back by him......my brother! We talked and compared notes along with my mother who confirmed these facts....He is my brother and i have 2 sisters. we talked for a while he was excited to hear from me and said that he was gonna let "the girls" know...He said he was gonna call me Friday or Sunday to talk and ask/answer qtns.......he never called...should i call him? or wait till he calls me...I waould like to talk to my sisters and see what they think also....I have one of their numbers.. I want to get to know them......they are all older than me. with the youngest one being only 3 yrs older...
2007-05-16 02:35:13 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I'd call him, and your sister too.
Best wishes
2007-05-16 02:39:04 · answer #1 · answered by Char 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Give him a little time. Its not easy to suddenly find a sibling. I know I have two halves one sister and a brother. I was the one who found my sister. Long story.
My brother is a troubled individual I have met him once I keep track of how he is doing through some cousins. My sister I have never met. I am curious about her but I don't want to cause any pain to her family or mine. I may send a letter to her with medical info because I don't believe that she has any on our father.
Be patient I know how exciting it is. You have had time to adjust to the idea let them have some time too. Not alot just some if you don't hear back in a week then call him and just ask if everything is OK.
Blessings!
2007-05-16 02:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by Lil'witch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Don't read too much into the fact that you didn't get a call; usually when this happens, we get all upset inside and think of all kinds of things, and then when we finally talk to the person, they say "I am so sorry, I had to
work out of state all weekend", or "i accidently threw your number out", etc.
Anything could have happened - even just plain life being so darn busy.
Sure, you could give him another call, or else you could call the one number you have for one of your sisters. If after you have contacted the numbers you have, 3 times, and if nobody contacts you back, then you will know something is wrong, but I cannot imagine that happening.
Keep in mind, too, that this is gonna be
very emotionally straining for them, more than likely - they are older than you, and may have been involved in some of the abuse going on. When you contacted your brother, and he told the girls, I bet this is bringing back alot of very upsetting memories for them, so tread lightly. This may just be alot harder for them than simply making a phone call to you, ya know?
Best of luck; my husband found he had
FIVE brothers and sisters after spending his youth in a Childrens home, and then spending most of his adult life alone. He had no idea, and found them accidently.
It was very difficult for all of them, but very
rewarding, also.
2007-05-16 03:25:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is an emotional time, and for that reason alone, I would take it slow. It would probably be best to get your mother more involved in this, if possible. Perhaps she can make the call to your brother, if he continues to delay.
This reunion comes after many years, and many factors may be involved. Above all, consider your own spiritual and physical safety. People are not always who or what they appear to be. Not saying anything is wrong here, but with things being what they are in the world today, it is good to be careful.
I wish you the best.
2007-05-16 03:41:57 · answer #4 · answered by בַר אֱנָשׁ (bar_enosh) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats really good that you found them!
If you have mobile numbers try texting first.
If not ring your Brother and apologise for bothering him but you wanted to check everything was OK...he may have got grief from the sisters! Tell him you would understand if they did not want to stay in contact but that you would like to know either way. This would be hard to hear but I think it's a possibility that you have to consider, sorry. Leave him with all your contact details so that they know you are open to communication when they are ready.
It may be that he has misplaced your number and is waiting for your call!!
Good Luck, I hope it all turns out good for you. :)
2007-05-16 02:43:58 · answer #5 · answered by :~Debbz~: 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have opened a can of worms in family dynamics. There are several reasons why they may not have called. It was too soon after hearing the information. Their father doesn't want to open dialogue with you. They are not sure of what they know about you and your mother. etc. etc. Perhaps giving it some time before any contact, will actually work. Let them respond in their own time.
2007-05-16 02:42:02 · answer #6 · answered by jmmevolve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation when I met my little brothers....don't sweat it! This isn't any different than meeting new friends, or a significant other's family, or any other new relationships you form. I will warn you not to have any expectations though....or you will be dissapointed...just look at it as meeting another new person, and enjoy your siblings' company. I wouldn't make any phone calls, personally....your separation wasn't your choice, so neither is ending it, there may be a very good reason for it.
2007-05-16 02:42:41 · answer #7 · answered by Doc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! What an awesome new adventure in your life! I would give it a few days and then call your brother back. That will let him know you really are interested in meeting them and getting to know them. Don't take it the wrong way that he hasn't called you back yet...he might still be in shock!
Good Luck!
2007-05-16 02:42:36 · answer #8 · answered by LG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Touch the matter in prayer before the Lord first... then see if He gives u the peace to move forward or to wait a while...
Sometimes a little prayer goes a long way... prayer not just for urself but for ur siblings that their hearts will be ready for this union and that the reasons for wanting to meet and know oneanother will be mutually beneficial.
All the best sis!
2007-05-16 02:44:39 · answer #9 · answered by Broken Alabaster Flask 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What a social dilema, I would suggest you give it a little time and then call your sister. It is going to be hard for them your mother took you ( I am assuming) and left them behind. My suggestion is that you call your sister and let a little time pass and call your brother again. You have to give people time to absorb and adjust.
2007-05-16 02:46:00 · answer #10 · answered by calmlikeatimebomb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call them back & ask them if they want to be a part of your family as you are, If they say no, I know it will hurt, But Sister go on with your life, Anyone that refuses to connect with their family, Then they are not family. It is not you with the problem, But they have the problem. Good Luck
2007-05-16 02:47:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋