Please Help Me Give My Sister GODLY Advice!!!?

Question

I am a born again Christian. I'm living my life now to please GOD. My sister asked me for advice, she's still living in sin. She has 3 children (twins, and a little girl) She's now pregnant again. She said she want to have an abortion. Considering her situation, that will be best. Her situation is she already have 3 kids a dead end job, and have no transportation at all. But with my new beliefs, I can't tell her to have an abortion. It's sin either way, she's pregnant by a guy that's not her husband, so she's fornicating, (that's a sin) then she wants an abortion, (that's a sin) So, I don't know what kind of advice to give her. Please Help!!!!

Answer 1

Life is not always easy. And sin only makes thing worse.
But life begins at conception. That is when God designed that we become an individual.

If you tell her to have an abortion the blood of that baby will be on your hands also.

The Bible says woe unto those that shed innocent blood.

I know this will not be popular but she has already committed the sin of fornication. Murder is another sin. The Bible says thou shalt not kill.

She needs to talk to those who have had abortions and are now living with the regret. That is her flesh and blood, her child, in nine months how will she feel about it. She could always put it up for adoption there are a lot of couples who would love to have a baby.

She could give the gift of life to her baby and she could help a couple who would love to have a child.

Answer 2

Let her know it's her choice. The best advice after that is "Go and sin no more". If she could believe in Jesus Christ, and follow His commandments, her life would improve for the better. It will not, however, be handed to her in a nicely wrapped package. You have to work for a better life. God helps those that help themselves. He is the hand that supports you when you move in righteousness, but not the hand that drags you by the wrist. Abortion is not the answer. Killing an innocent life because of our mistakes is a bad way out of things. It is not the child's fault. Adoption is an answer that no lives are taken.
I think the next step for her would be to seek forgiveness for the fornication and love the family that she has. A happy life can still result from her actions if she has the will to do the right thing from here on out.

Answer 3

This is a tough one in that so many factors are involved. I think this way... fornication/living in sin, can be remedied, she can move out, or get married, when she decides or realizes it's wrong. She already has 3 kids, another one would be easier for her to deal with, than the abortion. If she is a Christian, that abortion will cause her lots of pain, and guilt, and that aborted bunch of cells (= 100% human and won't BE anything BUT a person, just not fully developed)
There's a verse that says: "You were knit together in your mother's womb and that God knew you before you were born (Psalms 139:13-14)" Maybe share that verse with her. You may not be able to change her current living situation, her conviction on that needs to come from within, but I would advise against the abortion, maybe look into adoption, if financially she can't afford it. At least then she won't be burdened with the guilt many have after aborting.
Hope this helps in some way. Best wishes!

Answer 4

I'm assuming that your sister is not a believer and, therefore, does not agree with the sins of fornication and abortion. Talking to non-believers about sin usually bears little fruit. Godly advice does not have to include scripture, which can close the ear of the non-believer to the rest of what you have to say.

I would try amassing any photographic/ultrasound evidence that you can to show her what the fetus actually looks like. The more she relates to it as a little human, the harder it will be for her to abort.

Second, I would do some research in the area where she lives about adoption. It would be helpful, if she comes to a point of struggling with the decision, to show her how much the baby is wanted - by someone else.

God bless your efforts.

Answer 5

You are concerned about your sister, and about the life of the baby. That shows that you do feel love for her, in spite of the things in her life that you do not agree with. Now, she needs your help, so it important for you to concentrate on what can be done, and put away the judgements for now. They will just get in the way.

Your heart is telling you that an abortion is the wrong thing to do, so listen to it. Try to support your sister so that she can carry the baby until the birth, at least. If she really doesn´t want it, she could maybe give it up for adoption, or find a similar solution.

So many women have regretted having abortions, they suffer from depression and nightmares afterwards. Do you want her to suffer from that? Of course not, so try to support her and see things from another perspective.

You can´t force her to keep the child, but you must try to help her make a fair decision. Even if she decides to have an abortion she will need your help afterwards, and your love.

If she would actually like to keep the child, but thinks that she can´t afford it, or manage it, then maybe you can supply financial or "committed hands-on support" ( I mean, help her out with the kids/house/ whatever regularly). She IS your sister, and God wants us to help our families. Try to help her in whatever way is possible - not just in whatever way is convenient. That is hard, but that is what God has given us families for - to really be there for each other, no matter what. And if you think that you can save the baby´s life this way, you will be greatly rewarded in this life and the next. What does some extra money really mean, when you compare it to the life in the hereafter? Not much. Wouldn´t it be worth it?

Whatever she decides to do, accept her decision, and just try to be there for her. Jesus did not turn sinners away. He invited them to him, and he ate and prayed with them. He did not judge them, he just shared God´s love. It was through these actions ( and not words) that these people found their own way to God. Keep your heart open to your sister, even if some things in her life are hard to accept. It is the best way to show her what God is REALLY about - love. Concentrate on the love for your sister, and not her sins. This will let you help her the best.
I wish you and your sister peace, and all the best!

Answer 6

I see thumbs down for anyone that says no to abortion, so I presume some bias.
If she asked for your advise, and you are a Christian, you can not suggest her to abort and you know it.
If God sent her this child, it is first because of her carlesness but also because the child has a mission to fulifll in her life or the life of others.
A good Christian would help her, with money, time, love, comfort, etc. Also I would try to help her convince the father to give her at least money if not the whole 9 yards (marrying, etc.)
No abortion, neither do I think giving the child in adoption is a good choice, because she is already a mother and she wouldn't be able to live with that.
Above all, pray! ask the Almighty to help her in this situation in the best possible way according to His will. Some times miracles happen if she gives life a chance.

Answer 7

Fornication is already done, it is your responsibility that she knows that Abortion is killing her own child. How can you think that the Abortion "Will be best" Google "Abortion alternatives" There is adoption!

One sin does not justify another, she did not ask your advise before fornicating, so you could not help her then, now she is about the Abortion, will you help her make it to heaven or not?

Abortion causes pain for the Mother that can last a lifetime, and can make an already troubled person that much more troubled.

Why punish the ONLY innocent person in this situation, her own child?

Pray about this, and please seek some help from people that REALLY care, NOT planned parenthood.

Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 8

If it was my sister, I would tell her that she should carry the child and then give it up for a adoption. There are more people looking for children than children up for adoption so she is sure to find a good home for her baby. Depending on the prospective parents, she can have an open adoption so that she can see that her child is growing up well and be available if the child ever wants to know her birth mother. Let her know that the minute the child was conceived she was a child of God. God will see her through all things and put people in her life to support her decision. The children she is now raising (depending on their ages) can be told that she is having a baby for a family who can not have children. Let them know that this new baby won't be living with them, but they can still love her.

Answer 9

What would Jesus do? First he would forgive her for her sins. Then he would offer to help her get back on the right track. Take her into your home let her benefit from your example. if your going to walk the walk and talk the talk then be prepared to give up what you have to help those who need you. I am not trying to be a wise cracker i am just pointing out what is supposed to be right. Saying that i will say this if you decide to ignore my advice and go with something easier...for you...well remember someday when you go before God he is going to ask you "Why didn't you do more?" When giving advice remember not to forget...What would Jesus do? Peace and good luck to you.

Answer 10

Tell her the truth: it's her decision and you can't make it for her, but you love her and want her to be happy. Tell her to consider not only her life, but the lives of her children. Give her information about having the child adopted. She asked you for advice, but it's better to be true to yourself and ask her to do the same. You can love her no matter what her choice, even if you don't approve of how she lives her life.