Why is it that human relationships are not entirely satisfactory?

Question

Why is it that human relationships are not enduring and satisfying the way our heart yearns ? Even the husband and wife relationship (where love exists) lacks the "fullness" the heart wants and longs. Is there something in us which is ceaselessly chasing "perfect love" in the quest for fullfilment in life ? I am excluding selfishness and a lack of intellectual clarity as factors for the above mentioned condition.There appears to be a void even in the most loving of relationship.
Have you also experienced the same or is something wrong with me ?
Is that one of the reasons why in liberated societies people divorce frequently and remarry hoping for a more satisfying relationship ?
Or is this yearning implanted within us so that we can find fulfilling love only in our relationship with the Divine?
How terrible one feels when faced with disappointment both in the human as well as in the Divine realm !
I seek an answer from a socio-cultural and a psycho-spiritual angle.
Please help me ?

Answer 1

Because all relationships here on Earth are but poor reflections of the relationship between God and His people.

Try reading Plato's Allegory of the Cave sometime, I think you'll enjoy it.

Answer 2

There's a few fallacies here. In "liberated" societies, by which I assume you mean more secular (liberated from religion) divorce actaully decreases drastically. People wait longer and marry at a later age, and are able to hold on to their marrage much longer if not indefinatly. The relationship with the Divine I can't speak to, but if you are willing to look inside yourself and in those you love, you'll see what you need there. A connection, no matter how loving, has to be between two people who are willing to look to themselves as well as to each other. Do not expect to find love in anything, Divine or Profane (literal use of this word, meaning "worldly") if you do not first find it in yourself. Fulfillment comes as a self reinforcing loop between you and another person or persons who both or all are willing to be, as well as be with someone. Seek inner peace, only then can your relationships, Divine or not, have true meaning.

Answer 3

The human relations that we practice are for meeting our selfish 'worldly' desires only. Both husband and wife are aware of the fact that this relationship is only created for the conveniece of living life, till one from them parts away either by separation or by death.

When we know that no matter how much optimistic we pretend ourselves to be, the divine law will take it's own course, then we start introspecting and seek for an answer.

We need to quickly analyse that while it is important for us to do our duty for meeting our worldly commitments, that has to be done in an unattached fashion. There is no point loving your son so much, that you can not feel his separation which actually is inevitable. Our actual separation is from God, and that is the cause of our miseries. When we attach ourselves to God, we will find that we are attached to, what we should be attached to. And then there is no fear of losing company midway. It is for eternity.

The above is easily said than done. Yes for practicing this we need the blessings and association with a true saint.

Answer 4

that's because human relationships however strong keep expecting something or the other from the other one & this expectation includes even love & possessiveness.remember we r after all human.it is the divine love & relationship with divinity which can provide a satisfatory feeling.
but some thing has to b accepted that even today there r so many people who r having satisfatory relationship with others.
ur views on "divorce" seem bassless.
once u start being true & loving &honest to some one they would automatically b in the same way to u but there r chances wen this does not happen but mostly wat i said is right.from the way u have asked i feel u r worring about unnecessary things around u. take life cool.dont think to much on things which u cannot change.Allin this world r actually good its all in the way we take & in they way &view v see them.just think all r good around me & all r good 2 me & so i can easily have a good relationship with them.
TAKE LIFE COOL MAN.so even human relationship is satisfactory but u are not satisfied.

Answer 5

1) you have a bad base argument that every husband/wife relationship, or other human relationship is fundamentally lacking.

2) if someone is "ceaselessly chasing" such "perfect love" then perhaps they have not found true love with another human, and deny that which they already have from their Creator... they are searching for that which they already posess. like someone looking for their glasses that are on top of their head... they won't find it until they stop looking and realize its already in their grasp.

divorce rate? maybe its that they do not wait for an appropriately loving relationship to begin with.

my parents are going on 30 years of marrige with no end or question in sight.
my grandparents (on my dads side) I belive topped 60 or 70 years before my grandfather passed away.
I had a friend online once who was ... erm, older. and had a marrige that I think was like 40 years. ... AND it was an arranged marrige, from what he said.

heres a phrase for you.
"don't marry the person you can live with.
Marry the person you can't live without."

accepting that you, all people, already have that infinite, unconditional Love from "God" and to allow themselves to Love, and to wait for that Love, in the human side of things...

hopefully thats of some use.

some people see desparation and disappointment and lack of love and never belive in true love.
others see it all around.

Answer 6

Ecclesiastes 3:11 referencing God's placing of "eternity in their heart'' which is often said to mean that God has placed a God-shaped hole inside of all people who then spend their lives looking for something to fill it. Without God, people will try to fill the hole with immorality, business, etc. Thus, they remain unfulfilled and wondering why their lives never seem satisfactory. I do think that man was made with a desire for happiness - virtually all great thinkers admit to this. Further, it is the case that only a relationship with God can, ultimately, fill that longing.

Answer 7

Simple nobody is perfect and hence a perfect love is a myth. We all have our shortcommings. Love is something which we accept ours and partners shortcomming and love selflessly. It is like going through all stages of life and adjusting to life and expressing love and accepting imperfect love and making the relationship work.
Just like that sentence effort must be made to love too. when so much effort is made and we expect something of our choice we land up in misery. Giveout love no matter what if u feel its worth that much but the moment we expect and not got we land in misery and hence total dis-satisfaction.

Answer 8

Human relationship cannot be satisfactory because satisfaction is an abstract word and defies definition. Moreover satisfaction level is always fluctuating. Of course you may enjoy some fleeting satisfaction occasionally.

Answer 9

Human relations always keep expectations from one another,these expectation work as hurdles in the path of pure love.The ego matter is wrapped in every human relation,it is my ego that makes my husband mine,it is my ego that makes my wife mine.When these ego and expectations are cleared the eternal love and respects rests upon.

Answer 10

Because Humanity didn't understand the meaning of existence.