This is my 4th pregnancy, and I am considering a home birth this time around. I went to 3 different hospitals for my previous births, and I was not overly pleased....
The problems are:
1. I live in an apartment, so I have neighbors who will probably not enjoy hearing me scream.
2. I have kids at home, and I do NOT want them to hear me scream. I can send them to their grandparents, but not in the middle of the night...
3. I have very little tolerance for pain, so I KNOW I will scream. Well... maybe I try to cry instead of screaming. (Yeah, my other births were unpleasant.)
My questions are:
* If a woman give birth at home, is the birth more relaxed and therefore less painful?
* Any idea what I can do about my kids if it's the middle of the night?
* Is it unrealistic for me to consider a home birth under these conditions?
Please feel free to share your own experiences with home births.
2007-05-16 00:58:38 · 8 answers · asked by Victoria 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If I go into labor in the middle of the night, and I choose to go to a hospital, then my mother will come stay over at my home, so that the kids can continue sleeping.
2007-05-16 01:50:28 · update #1
Congrats on your baby! I agree about hospital experiences, and besides, homebirths are statistically safer. Here's some solutions to your problems:
1. Dont worry too much about your neighbors. Most women report less pain when giving birth at home, so you probably won't make TOO much noise. You probably won't scream either, because you will be prepared and will know how to help yourself. There are great books out there for you!
2. Your kids would benefit greatly from seeing their little sibling birthed. It is a normal, natural, and healthy thing for them to see. If they are sleeping when you go into labor, they will probably stay that way until morning. I wouldn't worry about it too much. There are lots of great books on this as well!
3. Your tolerance will be better, because YOU are in control, and even more so because you will be better prepared, naturally, if having a homebirth. You will be in your element, and you will feel safe and secure. Hospital births ARE unpleasant, but you will be pleasantly surprised with how different a homebirth will be!
The birth is more relaxed if that is where you feel comfortable. You have the upper-hand, and dont' feel like you need to be a "good patient" at home. Anybody who is there with you (e.g. midwife, doc, or whomever) is there by YOUR PERMISSION. It kinda puts you at the top of the totem pole, so to speak. I've observed that the more relaxed, at ease, and prepared for birth you are, the less painful it is. I would also look into a birthing pool... they are priceless for pain-management!
It absolutely is NOT unrealistic fr you to consider a homebirth! I hope I answered your questions thoroughly. Come join our group MilkDrunk on yahoo!. It is a great time, and some of our ladies on there know something about homebirths. Good luck to you!
2007-05-16 06:13:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving birth is painful. I don't see that giving birth at home will be more relaxed if you are worried about making noise and disturbing the neighbors.
Your biggest concern seems to be what you will do with your children if you go into labor in the middle of the night. What will you be doing with your children in the middle of the night if you give birth at the hospital?
Whether you decide to have a home birth or a hospital birth you need to sit down and make some plans. You should have a plan for your other children that doesn't depend on you having the baby at noon on a Tuesday. Unless you plan a c-section in advance, your baby will come when he/she is ready.
I had one child in the hospital and one child in a birthing center. The birthing center was a much more pleasant experience. Since my birthing center was attached to a hospital I had the comfort of being close to any emergency medical care the baby or I might need.
2007-05-16 01:29:29 · answer #2 · answered by Dona A 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you don't have the ideal circumstances for a home birth, but what about having a midwife in a birthing center. Perhaps that would be a good alternative to a hospital.
2007-05-16 01:03:50 · answer #3 · answered by been_there_done_that 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 04:16:08 · answer #4 · answered by duktig 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i found it much more relaxing! no strange people, places...and best of all your free to move around and labor and birth in different posistions being on your back is the most painful. hospitals are fools for making women labor in such a horriable unproductive posistion. also in a home birth you are free to explore other options for pain management like laboring in a birthing tub (i've had 2 water births and let me tell you it truly is natures epidural). as for the neighbors... let them know when the time draws near whats going to happen..they will most likely be understanding(mine were), if not their as$es and screw em... for the kids..i really wouldn't worry much. my 2 yr old watched his brother be born from a far(not planned but grandma decited to have a metopausal breakdown and not answer our calls) he really wasn't a problem at the birth and while intrested really didn't seem amazed. for my last birth my husbands friend came over and played with the kids outside for the actual birth..befor that they ate breakfast and played around me as i labored. U'd be suprised that once you explaine mommys in pain but its normal and ok they don't care lol...and are content giggling at your silly noises...the only problem i had was my 17mo old wanted to get in the birthing pool with me... homebirth is a wonderful expereance..i highly recomend it..its soo nice to not have hospital protocal, b1tchie nurses, and all the extra push for unsessicay medical procedures to deal with...you have your baby and he/she's given to you, cleaned on you, checked at the foot of your bed and given back...no snatching your baby away to be cleaned and suctioned on a cold table with bright lights, and passed to you for a few minutes only to be wisked away tot he nurserary for "mandatory" newborn tests and etc...nope just you and your baby...the way it should be....
2007-05-16 02:16:38 · answer #5 · answered by adriannemae 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well that's a tough one home birth verse hospital for one if anything goes wrong do you what to be that far from a doctor most home birth are considered natural and so on but i think you should look at the pro and cons and decide for you re self its the only way as we don't know anything of you re family background and possible problems
2007-05-16 01:15:07 · answer #6 · answered by kev l 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I would consider a birthing center instead!
2007-05-16 01:13:00 · answer #7 · answered by Who's sarcastic? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you better ask the suggestions of your ob,its only you who really can tell which is more comfortable to you to give birth,,,
2007-05-23 12:49:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋