Question about teen sex from a parent?

Question

I just found out yesterday that my 15 year old son has had sex for the first time. We are great parents and thought we had taught him well about the dangers of sex. NOT!!!!

My problem is that he is super smart will be in the 11th grade next year, straight A student and he has hooked up with trash. The reason I say this is she also is only 15 and has already slept with about 6 guys. We knew this ahead of time and warned our son, but he didn't listen. I feel that she pressured him and I am so mad I could puke.

I told him that he can see her no more unless they are here at my home because obviously her mother doesn't care what she does at their home.

I just don't know what to do. I am so mad with him. Someone please give me some advice on how I should handle this. I am 37 year old father and at this time I am disgusted with what my son who has so much potential has done. He didn't even use a condom!!! Please help

Answer 1

hi there..i see your situation man, 1 thing you cant force your child to stop loving sex, he's 15 and there's a lot going on in his head, he's still in the atmosphere where he can be persuade by many things, the only you can do is teach him to be more mature, controlling he's urges... hmm a good move is letting him see the victims of sex addicts, diseases. orient him to what will he become if he persist... putting a bad name to it.. maybe that will put a stop to your prob.. it is quite normal for him to be like that, your task is to educate him, what are the advantages and the disadvantages, do what it takes... good luck

Answer 2

i find that the more you try to "pry" them away from each other the more they want to be together. sit him down and explain everything about sex to him, even things you really don't want to talk about. he needs to know. you don't want him learning from some girl about sex, next thing you know you will be a grandpa. nowadays we have to be honest with our kids, completely, because if we don't they will find out the wrong way.
trust me i know.
i'm a 36 yr old mother of a 17 yr old daughter and i Almost had the same thing happen. we have a very open relationship. i answer her questions to the best of my ability. thank goodness i got her back on track.
the key is...talk, talk, talk. don't yell at him, that will make it worse. no matter how angry you get, always remember he is your son. those girls are just "leaves blowing in the wind".

Answer 3

Did you use your wife's account? Let your son experience the realities of life put him somewhere away for at least a day or so.