My dad (55) and his brother (62) were always close, both families staying in one house. His brother being older, was always the mean one. Our family was always ill treated, when we were given our allowances it was always half the amount they were given. They said things like we living on charity. All this hurt my mum alot, one day we moved away,my dad was refused even a small percent of shares in the business. But he never complained. The first year was very hard, sometimes not even having enough money to buy a loaf of bread. Im glad to say some how my dad worked night and day and things started getting better. Only to find out that my uncle and them are worse financially, today my dad sends them money for food, clothes, spending. etc. I once thought revenge would be a good feeling, but i dont find any satisfaction, i feel very sad for them. Have you felt this way?
2007-05-15 22:40:16 · 10 answers · asked by Elaina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
just for the record, my dad didnt mean to take revenge by setting us better financially, he just wanted to give his family(us) a better life.
2007-05-15 23:26:33 · update #1
Revenge is never the answer. What your dad has done is that he has shown he is a better person, im sure you feel sad for your uncle and them, BUT you have learnt something very important, which is that it IS true what goes around comes around.
2007-05-16 20:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately I have not always felt this way and I wish I could have the same strength and kindness of character as your family has. It is a very nice thing for you to do and I can understand why because you know what it felt like to be struggling financially and so you wanted to help them even though they refused help to you. I am now sure that your dad's brother is getting everything he deserves in the form of shame, he must be feeling really bad about how he acted. Forgiveness is a wonderful thing whereas revenge eats you up inside.
2007-05-16 05:45:20 · answer #2 · answered by don't stop the music ♪ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think your dad has acted very nobly, rising above their treatment of him. There isn't much satisfaction in revenge, as you're learning. Things have a way of coming full circle. Maybe your uncle and his family will learn from this. I've felt this way, too. A guy once screwed me over -- not a big thing, but it hurt. Now he's been arrested, and the judge won't grant him bail. He deserves the punishment for what he did, but not for what he did to me. And yes, I find that it's not satisfying that the guy is in jail, even if he messed things up for me. I feel pity for him and his family, who have to live with what he did.
2007-05-16 05:45:21 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sure. Revenge usually doesn't bring you any good. When you engage into revenge you just lower yourself to the level of those you are mad at. I just makes you a worse person, someone you will probably less like, and it doesn't repair the damage that was done to you earlier.
Sometimes, even if it's hard, one must have the pride and dignity to not take revenge and be smarter than those who hurted you in the first place.
2007-05-16 05:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to say this but I would have treated them like they treated you.
What happens when your uncle gets financial again .... think about it.
You dad is now helping him out ... bet your uncle won't do that when if gets financial in the future.
Why is your dad sending them all those things ..... you must have some kind of welfare system over there in the States that can help him?
Your dad should be looking after his own family. Let's face it, you Uncle didn't give you much did he ... or to your dad.
Good luck ,.... take care...... think about it.
2007-05-16 05:55:47 · answer #5 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I personally have never felt like that. But I proud to know that even though they put you threw a hard time you didn't do the same to them. To me you are a very honorable person. Good for you.
2007-05-16 05:50:05 · answer #6 · answered by Air Force guy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, my mom has been treated unfairly in tha past and I thought she was more than justified getting revenge. I even got mad when she didn't do anything back. Now I see that getting even doesn't help you gain anything, not even satisfaction.
2007-05-16 07:38:19 · answer #7 · answered by Loved one 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes i have felt the same too, and it is not satisfying by any st reach of the imagination and if you dint fell satisfied that means you are a great person and so is your dad, but as the saying goes what goes around comes around!
2007-05-16 05:46:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No I haven't. But then I see things in a very black/white kind of way and I am very logical and not emotional.
2007-05-16 06:18:46 · answer #9 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
your dad is very special man, to help them out after everything, they did, and you must have his very special genes, because i don't think i could have done it.
2007-05-16 05:58:02 · answer #10 · answered by RACHEL B 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋