Feeling lonely, down and insecure?

Question

Hi.

There are many reason why I feel down, depressed and lonely.
Recently I had a bit of a conflict with my psychiatrist. I didn't think she was taking my side-effects that seriously. This is a psychiatrist with a great reputation-and everyone loves her at the clinic I go to. She referred me to someone else there but it doesn't make me feel any better.

It feels like nobody is even on my side. That no one in the psychiatry clinic actually cares. Maybe I expect too much from therapy -no one gives me a real positive feeling there-it is just work.

I also have very few friends - one and maybe two. I have no close relationship with anyone.

I think these are reasons to feel lonely, down, and insecure?

Answer 1

They are certainly reasons to feel lonely down and insecure.

However I must ask you, what do you want to do about it?

If you just wish to wallow, by all means go ahead. Don't blame anyone but yourself and try not to inflict your negativity upon other people.

If you wish to remedy your situation, well then you need to start making some decisions - develop a list of goals/dreams - break it down into achievable steps - start on your way - re-evaluate periodically and keep doing this till you get where you want to be with the friends you want to have.

Whatever conflict you have with your psychiatrist she is first and foremost a professional. She will be pleased if you do take positive steps.

If it is irrepairable, then you might need to seek someone else to help with your counselling instead.

Remember that if you do nothing about your situation, it is your CHOICE to do nothing about it. Your choice to abstain is still your choice.

You feel depressed, lonely, down and insecure. This is all well and appropriate for your situation.

But if you choose to remain in your situation without actively applying yourself, then you are choosing to remain depressed, lonely, down and insecure.

You can, however, choose to be happy, gregarious, up and confident.

What would you like to do?

Answer 2

Hi There! I understand what you are saying. Please try to understand this. Psychiatrists cannot "take sides". They are paid professionals for persons who need to talk to someone. They merely try to coax out of you the feelings that you cannot express to someone else. They give you a feeling of confidentiality that you can not achieve with a friend or family member. So, basically, they are a "paid friend".
Yes being without friends is a real reason to be feel lonely, down, and insecure. I am no professional, but I have been through a lot myself and have learned many things. I feel for persons who are going through what you are experiencing.
Can I help you? I do not even charge a fee! I would try to coax from you the positive feelings (I bet you think there are none) instead of focusing on the negative.

Answer 3

I am, almost for the same reasons. Like, I talk to a lot of people at school, but I don't go on myspace, phone calls, or parties. I got really down on myself. My therapist ( I didn't grow up in the best family situation ) said I may have a bit more social anxiety than other people. Sometimes I think I may have a social mental problem. And that's the least of what I want to feel. And then when I get into a fight with people, no one backs me up, they're always making me feel like the antagonist. I feel like people all hate me or think I am annoying. I am afraid of judgement you could say.

Also, I get down on myself because of the way I look. I am only 13, but I always think I am too skinny and need to always bulk up. I also feel insecure with people because I am really tall, like 5'10. I stand out in a crowd with normal sized people. But a lot of people in my grade are really tall. Plus I got acne all over my face. And nothing is working, not even proactive. I admit I could be doing a bit more, but I don't. And even without my acne, I have the way I look facially. My mom and dad, and even my sister said I am good looking, but I don't believe it. People at school sometimes call me ugly, but in a joking like way. I just hate myself facially. My lips are too big, I have a funny jaw like britney spears, a wide nose. I thought a tan would really help, but it doesn't go with me. I'm Irish and Austrian.

Also, my athletic ability in gym gets me feeling insecure. I am not that bad, but I don't do any sports. I so plan to next year when I get in High School. If I humiliate myself by missing to kick a ball, getting all three strikes, or when I throw a ball and the aim is all off, I hate it. It's so embarrassing.

Those are the main things, but all my insecurities have to do with image kind of. My therapist said everybody gets insecure, including us guys about attractiveness and socialization, but you can barely tell in school. It's probably just a puberty thing anyway. I soooooo...don't feel confident even admitting my insecurities to my parents. I would feel really uncomfortable. If you want help then I guess try to keep on telling yourself that you can, idk. It's wierd because whenever I feel down ( almost everyday ) I want to cry hard, but my body doesn't allow me. This is kinda wierd, but I wanna feel sad. maybe it's because I feel safe, who knows.

Good luck.

Answer 4

What i do to get out of put downs, i go to my car, head on over to the mall or go play some sports with strangers and go out with my friends and act stupid and serious at the same time, my friend really like me cause im funny, and i dont really give a **** about most things, which they respect.

Answer 5

i felt like that all the time but now i have surrounded myself with ppl that care about me basically i have expanded my circle of friends which helps me deal with the situation better. try to join a group or church so that u can surround yourself with ppl u can talk so that u get rid of that feelin of loneliness

Answer 6

maybe you should find something that does put you into a positive frame of mind and expand from that.
take a holiday if you need to get some perspective to find out what to do.
it might help you, it might not, you never know......