I went out a few weekends ago with my girls for a celebration & we met up with a guy friend of mine after a few hours. He wanted to meet since it had been months that we last saw each other & said that when we'd meet up, he would give us comps & take us to their best bar for a few drinks (on him). So when we did meet up and I introduced my friends to him, we went into one of the lounge and he went ahead of us and tried to get in first. He didn't even wait for us to finish getting ID'd, he just went straight to the bar, got himself a drink and downed it right when the rest of us got in. We joined him at the bar thinking that he would ask what we wanted to drink (since earlier that day he said he would buy the drinks) and he ordered himself another one and drank it right in front of us without even asking if we wanted a drink. I ended up buying 2 rounds for all of us in the end. Now he wants to join us again this weekend, but my friends don't want him around. What's your take on him?
2007-05-15 20:12:46 · 12 answers · asked by lyla384 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Also last summer I invited him to join me at this huge multi-million production in Vegas (after he said he wanted to see it). All the expenses were on me and after the night was through, we went out for a few drinks which he paid for & even suggested that I take my other guests along. So why did he backtrack on his words/attitude months later?
2007-05-15 20:16:47 · update #1
PeachPie dear, read what I wrote carefully. He suggested we take the time out of our celebration to meet him so that he would give us comps & buy us the drinks (to help celebrate the night).
2007-05-15 20:18:30 · update #2
Wow I have a few people who did not read into this question.
1) HE KNEW I WAS WITH 2 OF MY FEMALE FRIENDS FOR A VERY SPECIAL CELEBRATION- AND HE HAD KNOWN THIS A WEEK PRIOR!
2) HE ASKED TO MEET WITH MY FRIENDS AND I SO THAT HE CAN OFFER THE COMPS & DRINKS TO MY FRIEND- NOT TO ME- TO CONGRATULATE HER B/C HE WAS PART OF THE EXECUTIVE TEAM AT THAT LOCATION. WE WERE IN THE NIGHTCLUB AND HE CAME LOOKING FOR US.
2007-05-15 21:07:33 · update #3
for what happened the week before...hmm..i guess not because the last time you were with him he said that he would buy the drinks but he didn't right?anyways what i meant is that don't take him with you again because you'd probably buy another round for all of you.....and i certainly know that's not what you want and so does your friends...
2007-05-15 20:19:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
perhaps he wasn't aware you brought your army with you and didn't have enough for everyone?
Perhaps he was thinking it was just a gesture and that you weren't so hard up for a man to buy you a drink or comp you and "your girlS"
No he shouldn't have paid for all the drinks if he did not know the exact number of ppl attending as the invitation was meant for you and maybe one other person. Not the terror squad rejects!!
2007-05-16 03:33:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should have honoured his word and bought you guys a round at least.
You should also have told him you are bringing your posse, he was probably trying to shake you off.
When a guy says he will buy a girl A DRINK he definately dosn't mean A ROUND of drinks for her girlfriends.
Somehow girls always have the thinking that if a guy friend wahts to give her a treat, he has to do the same to all her friends.
2007-05-16 04:00:40 · answer #3 · answered by lordfa9 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He seems kind of rude. I don't know how you feel about it, but if that ruined the whole evening for you, then you shouldn't invite him again. On the other hand, WAS he supposed to get you a drink? Did you ask him?
2007-05-16 03:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't expect material gifts in order to meet a "friend" because then that indicates the bond is about money and not friendship. But I also think that was rude of your "friend."
2007-05-16 03:21:34 · answer #5 · answered by R C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he should have bought at least a round of drinks... but he didn't SO is no one wants him around I would flat out let him know "hey last time you were kind of a jerk, and this time no one wants you there" or be nice and make an excuse like "its a girls night sorry!"
2007-05-16 03:40:46 · answer #6 · answered by Laine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a selfish alchy.. to me .. u should seek out a better male drinking partner one thats not self absorbed .. he prolly like the fact that hehad all these girls with him and was playing the pimp role .. who knows .. hes a no-go in my book
2007-05-16 03:16:43 · answer #7 · answered by Trey 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He should at least buy his own round, if he chooses to partake of your generosity.
Find someone else to hang with!
2007-05-16 03:16:21 · answer #8 · answered by Pop rocks and coke 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Big talker with empty pockets. Move along, just move along.
2007-05-16 03:16:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like to me, that this guy is selfish, or just really cheap.
2007-05-16 03:38:24 · answer #10 · answered by sevenelizabeth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋