I have been friends with "R" for 10 years now. The past couple of years, I notice I only hear from her when it requires me spending money. She invites me to her Tupperware parties, jewelry parties, Mark Kay parties, Candle parties, her four kids' birthdays, etc. I just got an invite to her bridal shower. She even e-mailed me to ask me if I was coming to her shower. (Not to mention she left me a voicemail a month ago to give me a heads up!) What should I do?
2007-05-15 19:36:39 · 6 answers · asked by Spendelicious27 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Thank you! This is all so very helpful advice.
2007-05-15 19:45:41 · update #1
a bridal shower is a lot different from a tupperware party. Maybe you should turn down the fundraisers next time. A bridal shower is NOT a fundraiser.
2007-05-15 19:40:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel she's just working your for $, politely decline the invites. I had friends like this once, when I stopped providing $ for whatever the latest kids fundraiser or whatever, I stopped getting calls.
If you still want to see her, tell her all your extra $ is going into your 401K and you can't afford to financially participate, but you'd love to come to the party to see her and the family. My bet is if you say this the invites will taper right off. Have you noticed other friends of hers who seem to be in the same situation - she could just be milking y'all.
2007-05-16 02:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are an "convenient friend" which means what you say, you're friends when it's convenient to her and she needs another person to fill in a blank spot on her commission card.
If you don't want to attend (especially if it's not her wedding):
politely tell her you had already had plans and that you are really sad you can't go. You were trying to see if you could change your schedule and it didn't work out. If she asks what it is that keeps you busy, simply tell her "family stuff . . . you know how it is." and leave it at that.
2007-05-16 02:40:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid there are people out there like that. You just have to be a bit blunt and say thanks for the offers to your fundraisers but they arent me on a regular basis can we do something else and still be friends? Then you might get a response from her about it, or she might not get back to you in a hurry at all. But either way, it means your free to do something else with your cash and time.
Hope things improve for you, have fun.
2007-05-16 02:42:31 · answer #4 · answered by Karen D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the bridal shower with a sensible gift hun and other events...tell her "something suddenly came up."
2007-05-16 02:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by mistista07 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not interested in participating, just RSVP No, and let it go at that. Doesn't sound like much of a friendship anyway!!!
2007-05-16 02:40:57 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋