He had the guts to come up and talk to me at a club. We where going to meet up one night and it never happened, there was a miscommunication in between messages, he messaged me and I wasn’t sure whether I was meant to call back, thought that men are meant to do all the calling. I really like him; I’m just confused with this hard to get business. How do I let him know that I’m interested? How do I get him to ask me out on a date again? I know that he was interested in me. Is it right for me to call him? I still don't know what to do. I’m 23 and never had a boyfriend. Should I just call him, or does that make me sound desperate? He called me once at 12:30 at night. Also at 3:00am (I was asleep) while he was at a club with his mates, he was looking for me. I am so confused. He hardly calls just messages. Should I just forget him? If a guy was interested in a girl, would he be calling her everyday, and to set up a date? I know that I wont bump into him for another two weeks.
2007-05-15 19:17:59 · 15 answers · asked by Glamourous_Girl 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I sent him a message to meet up for coffee, he hasnt got back to me yet.
Should i just forget about him?
2007-05-16 16:53:25 · update #1
He doesn't sound very respectful of you when he's calling @ 3am. Don't call him. If he really is interested and worthwhile he should call and talk to you at a normal time and not just to leave messages. If you respect yourself, others will also.
2007-05-15 19:23:45 · answer #1 · answered by Running_with_scissors 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok I'm in a new relationship myself and i have had a few bfs before hand, none of them have called me at usual hours of the night just to see how i am before we've started dating. But he might see the club as a safe place. He knows that he will definitely see you there..hence the calls. But if he only really ever messages then just play the text game. Msg him something really random that you find funny during the day. i.e omg I'm sittin on the subway and this guy just farted how gross lol. Its a good way to break the ice and if he msgs back then you can continue onto other things. I wouldn't stress too much on the fact he msgs more than calls some people are just used to that sort of thing. Also don't read too much into it atm keep the msging going and see how it goes from there remember you want to be a fun person that he wants to hang out with good luck!!
2007-05-15 19:50:59 · answer #2 · answered by Imogen228 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Text message him , and ask him to give you a call when he gets a chance. Arrange to have lunch or coffee with him.
The next time he calls you that late, tell him that he would know where you are if he had called and asked you to meet him there! If a guy only calls a girl late at night when he is out, it is usually a booty call. Don't let him play you like that. Tell him that if he is interested in seeing you, he should call you and make plans in advance! If he really does like you, he will call you and make plans next time. If he just wants to sleep with you, he probably won't, and you don't need him anyway!!!
2007-05-15 19:29:36 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well is hard to get any dates if you do a no-show when invited.
I don't know if this guy is worth the effort but if someone calls you and you never call him back then he normaly will asume you are not interested.
It's totally wrong to think that the guys has to do all the callings (communication means boths ways). If you really like him talk to him. You will never have a boyfriedns if you keep waiting for guys to read your mind. Talk and say what you think.
2007-05-15 20:01:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my experience, the ones that play 'hard to get' are never really great. In other words, the chase is better than the catch. Seriously, I've dated girls that played this sorta crap and dated girls that really were hard to get and the ones that really were a challenge...were worth it.
Let him know you're interested and would like to see him again but that your time is valuable. He has a window of opportunity but if he misses it, it's his loss. You're a busy girl and have other guys who don't fuss around waiting to date you.
When he realizes this, he'll either step up to the plate or never take a swing at all.
2007-05-15 19:26:43 · answer #5 · answered by MattVaill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's calling you at late hours like that, not good.
If he was interested in starting a relationship with you, he would call at normal hours, talk a long time with you...get to know you...then ask you out with a specific place, time and date.
I suggest you forget about this guy. He's not the type you want for a first boyfriend.
2007-05-15 19:26:18 · answer #6 · answered by Rob 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 23, why have you never had a boyfriend? No, dont call him unless you know the guy is really in love or liking you a lot and you feel comfortable with him and he with you.
If A guy is interested in a girl he wouldnt necessarily be calling every day but he would be calling frequently and be interested in setting up a date, yes. Sounds like he might just be interested in a booty call.
2007-05-15 19:23:07 · answer #7 · answered by broz215 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Relax...
The guy is playing hard to get because he may think you're hard to get. If this guy called you every night, he may think he'll seem desperate. Who wants to date a desperate guy? So toss that idea out the window. Here's what you do:
Find him. Bump your hip into his playfully. Tell him you've been waiting for him to make good on that date. It'll throw him off balance. If he's a "poser" (someone who plays games to get girls), he'll be so off balance that you'll get to see how the guy is under pressure. If he's straight up, but shy, he'll be relieved you did and you're off to a good start.
2007-05-15 19:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds confusing, if he had your number and knows your interested he would get ahold of you. He may be playing you though. Like calling up at parties, If that is the only time he calls after midnight, that is not respectfull at all for early dating.
2007-05-15 19:24:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send him a message back, with anything casual, like "hey, I just saw your message, sorry, what's up?" he may know that it's a lie, it doesn't matter, if he is interested that will be the signal that he's been waiting to invite you again; well if I were him it would work fine
2007-05-15 20:15:23 · answer #10 · answered by John 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋