umm ok I kinda like my coworker(well call him Mike)... and I think he seems interested... ya know he teases me and all, and I do the same... some things guys will do if they like you. Also, we sometimes talk in double entandras. Well, yesterday, I asked my other coworker(whos also a guy) that sits next to me (well call him Al) where my other coworker was that day, because he wasnt there and hes scheduled that day. He said he took the day off and then jokingly said that at work Mike is wherever I could be found and that he had the hots for me. And I was like yeah right.. and Al was like Im sure he does. Well now I think Al likes me too because he jokes around now with me and has begun teasing me and outing other guys that supposedly like me. Well I just dont know, do Al and Mike both like me?? Im just confused.
2007-05-15 18:50:28 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Al doesn't necessarily like you just because he is teasing you. I would be cautious of any man who enjoys teasing you and humiliating you in public/in front of others anyway. But I'll bet that he is probably being truthful about Mike.
Find a good time and take Al aside and let him know that the teasing is all well and good, but that remarks regarding any personal infatuations towards you are starting to make you feel uncomfortable and that you'd like to just move on and get past all that nonsense because it is starting to become embarrassing.
He is most likely telling the truth. Mike probably does like you. Keep it out of the office and agree to remain professional while on the clock and I don't see why you couldn't pursue it - unless it will cause tension should things turn sour. Use caution.
2007-05-15 19:02:46 · answer #1 · answered by J S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to concentrate on your job more. That's what you're getting paid for, not going around getting men's attention and finding out if this guy or that guy likes you. Don't waste your time. If the guy likes you, he will let you know. Don't push it.
Guys mostly get friendly and tease their female co-workers because everyone is together most of the day. Al and Mike could do that to other female co-workers as well. It's best not to mix relationship with work. It's easy to be an indecisive noodlehead when you're having crushes but you need to wake up and be sensible. If you don't you're ultimately at the losing end.
2007-05-15 20:31:56 · answer #2 · answered by Asia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would strongly suggest to you not to flirt with your co-workers. It will only lead to serious trouble down the road, unless this job means nothing to you and you can and are able to quit it the moment a relationship turns sour.
In general, sexual alludes and such is certainly not appropriate work conversation and if an extremely conservative person overheard the conversation it would actually be grounds for sexual harassment, under the guideline of creating a hostile work environment.
Now to directly answer your question. Yes. All men like you. That is up to the point in which they get you to their bedroom and then they are ready to move on. It's not worth it in the end.
Don't mix business with pleasure. Just don't.
2007-05-15 19:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by Last Ent Wife (RCIA) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Fishing off the company pier" can not only get both of you fired, but it can make working together nearly impossible. What would happen if the two of you broke up? It would be hard to dodge your ex if they work in the cubicle right next to you...
2007-05-15 19:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋