My very good friend is married to a man that make good money and spends it all on himself he has brought a lot of things for himself and has or says he has no money for the bills. His wife agreed to have egg donayion for 7000 dollars and she'll give it to him and he'll blow it too. I yell her to divorce this bum and she says divorce is not an option. He is very controlling. the worse i've ever seen and she is just beaten down. I'm getting very angry and making my opion known. I am just trying to help . we are very close friends and I don't think I can handle this. I know i'm not her husband or father but the husband is nothing but a user and lousey husband. I might add that sge has 4 kids and I love the kids and her very much and just wanting to protect them.
2007-05-15 17:24:59 · 10 answers · asked by dan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
A big no.
2007-05-15 17:30:02 · answer #1 · answered by Meeto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get out and away from him as soon as she can. It I was to have it done I would take the 7000 dollars and use it to get on her feet away from him. I did it for twenty years till I just one day walked out. And now looking back I don't see why I stayed so long. I wasted part of my life. Life it way to short to waste on someone that will never change. After this 7000 dollars whats next is he going to ask her to start selling her body for money. The kids do not need to around this stuff in the long run all she is doing is hurting them
2007-05-15 17:33:11 · answer #2 · answered by jujl62 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person won't help themselves, you can't help them.
Just offer help when she grows enough nerve and sense to leave the S.O.B.
In the mean time, get on with your life. If you love someone who is married and says divorce is not an option, you are just setting yourself up for heartbreak and possible major trouble.
Doc
2007-05-15 17:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by Doc Hudson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a grown woman and needs to act like one and leave him if he is that bad. Any woman who stays and lets theirself be abused or whatever can't complain about it. It's her choice. No one can force you to donate eggs either. I think you are thinking you can be a better husband to her and father to her kids than he can? You sure you just don't want her for yourself and are making him out to be the bad guy? I'd be careful though, she is married and it's not your place to say anything.
2007-05-15 17:31:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am with you on this one she should wait til he is out of the house wasting money, and she should go have herself and kids put in protective services or whatever it is that helps spouses and children hide from the lousy no good spouses by relocating them, and you sound like the husband she needs, caring, and loves the kids, i say if ur single move with her.....once she realizes that he is a good for nothing freeloader and now that she is gone he can no longer control her and you are the perfect life mate/ father....then there you go problem solved...
but if he has her under his control that badly, dig dirt up on him that can get him put in jail and then while he is in jail then do the relocating
2007-05-15 17:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by Last Of A Dying Breed Fan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell no! Beat that bastard into oblivion AND STEAL HIS WALLET!
But seriously, she's probably in a position where she doesn't know who she is without him. Help her. . maybe take her to talk to a lawyer? It's great if she wanted to donate eggs for the helpfulness in the receiving end, but to sell your eggs to pay for bills that could be taken care of instead of buying a new car, going to a strip club, or whatever, that's just unfair to her.
2007-05-15 17:31:47 · answer #6 · answered by Mayra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is to accept her choices if you want to remain her life you have to. However you dont have to continue to sympathize and empathize everytime she makes a bad decision in regard to this guy. Tell you love and support HER but that you know longer wish to listen to the repeated problems with him. Encourage her to get some counseling to find out why she thinks his behavior is the best she deserves.
And be there if she ever figures it out.
2007-05-15 17:33:42 · answer #7 · answered by Bookworm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOVE IS BLIND
she simply don;t see whats going on
from experience stay out of the relationship she probably will never leave him no matter what he does
only one who can change this situation is prayer
lead them to a jesus name church
2007-05-15 17:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by Queen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to but out of her personal business. She maybe your friend and all, but the fact is she is not going to leave this guy until she is ready to leave him. The fact is that she is getting SOMETHING out of this relationship or else she would grow a spine and leave. It is not up to you to do that for her so just step aside and mind your own.
2007-05-15 17:30:24 · answer #9 · answered by ^v^ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's pitiful....just pitiful.
2007-05-15 17:29:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋