we used to fornicate since i have accepted jesus christ as my lord and saviour we dont fornicate,people say i,m supposed to marry her,but we now just live together for money reasons am i sinning or in gods eyes since we dont do it anymore is that ok?
2007-05-15 17:06:59 · 19 answers · asked by mego 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
What does your heart tell you? Do you feel convicted about it? No one can judge you, at least not a mere human. Pray ask God to reveal it to you..He will
2007-05-15 17:11:37 · answer #1 · answered by done 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you don't "do it" anymore I don't see any sin in living together. That would be a roomate situation. But I am a christian also and lived with a woman (fornicating) for three years. It bothered me and I never felt I was doing right in God's eyes. So we finally married and have been very happily married for 6 years. It feels good to be married and know things are right with God. I suggest that you go ahead and marry that woman of yours for the same reason. Then, even if you're not "doing it", you won't have to wonder anymore what God thinks about your relationship. Everything will feel right and that's peace of mind. That's worth a lot to me. You've been together 20 years....do yourself a favor and marry her.
2007-05-16 00:15:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What? You lived with this lady for 20 years, made love with her, and everything, and you think that you were not married? Oh, yeah, I get it, you didn't have the license, right? But, did you expect God to check your marriage license, or your heart?
In other words, do you love this woman, or have you just been taking advantage of her for these 20 years?
In either case...if you love her, but you are abstaining because of some ridiculous notion that you aren't married in the eyes of God after 20 years, you are sinning by still living with her and not treating her as your wife. She is, in God's eyes, your wife. I would advise you to just get the #@&^ license, if it will make you feel better.
If you have just been taking advantage of her for 20 years, and you are still doing it even after becoming a Christian, boy, are you sinning!! You've been sinning these 20 years, and now you are compounding your sin by continuing it and pretending to be Christ's follower. Tell the lady the truth in your heart, and let her go, so she can get on with her life.
Either way, you need to get right with God, and then with this lady, right away!!
I'm wondering...after 20 years, are there kids? If you've been "playing house" for 20 years, there probably are. What about them??
2007-05-16 00:51:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can really tell you in truth if it is ok except for God but I will just give you my opinion.
I think as long as you are not fornicating then it is not a sin. But you should not live your life with someone that you do not love just because of money reasons. If you love her then get married if she accepts you. But it would be a waist of time to stay with her and not love her just because you are in a jam.
2007-05-16 00:11:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think it would be a hard thing to live with someone for 20 years and not want to have sex with them if you are still in the same house and the same bed or even if you are around her every day and don't sleep with her.
If she has not accepted Christ as her Saviour then you should probably move somewhere else and both of you will have to work out things on your own. Why put yourself in the path of temptation just to see if you can resist it?
God can save her or give you someone else down the road or save her and bring you both back together..
2007-05-16 00:18:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I used to say if she is good enough to sleep with then she is good enough to marry...But I try not to tell people what to do any more.
I feel sorry for her. She will grow old with you and has no security as a wife would have.
You have taken her youth and given nothing back.
But if you two don't want to marry then maybe to onlookers you should live in different homes . You could be accused of loose conduct. And another thing if you are just living together no one will approach her to make her a legal wife with you there.
Do you know what names they call a woman in her position?
And if there are children they have naughty names also.
2007-05-16 00:37:58 · answer #6 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are truly a Christian you will have a desire to start doing those things that God wants you to do. The best way to learn what those are is to start reading your Bible daily.
As soon as you can join a Bible based church so that you may fellowship with others that believe as you do.
In a very short time you will begin to see where you need to make changes to your life.
If you are not sure about your salvation experience at this point try the test below. It can help put things in perspective:
http://wayofthemaster.com/goodperson.shtml
~Neeva
2007-05-16 00:13:02 · answer #7 · answered by Neeva C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
still she is your wife in a sense. You did accept her at one time just because you don't have sex doesn't mean you aren't married. You are common law married but to be real it is best to marry. If you don't plan on fornicating with her you probably wont with another so why not marry her. Otherwise it is like animals tehy don't Mary they just live in the same nest together.Real marriage is a friendship that helps one another to attain God. If there is any real love or friendship there why not marry her. Or why wast your time at all.
2007-05-16 00:14:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have lived with this woman for 20 yrs? Then she IS your wife and you should treat her as a woman. Just ignoring her may be wrong! There is nothing in the Bible that says a priest must read some formula to a couple. The priests in the Bible had nothing to do with marriages. That was left to the families.
2007-05-16 00:15:27 · answer #9 · answered by leech 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you've been together 20 years, why not just marry. I consider myself a Christan and I don't see anything wrong with what you were doing. Probably in the eyes of the state you live in you are living under the common-in-law marriage.
2007-05-16 00:15:24 · answer #10 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Mego,
As a Christian, we are to set an example to others. The example that you are setting is that it is "OK" to "fornicate" since they do not know what you are doing with her. You need to fix that problem ASAP. Have a great day.
Thanks,
Eds
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2007-05-16 00:12:10 · answer #11 · answered by Eds 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋