Ok here goes before I really flip out! My bf and I have been dating for almost 2 years. 2 years before he met me, he dated this girl for almost a year. She cheated on him, and he still put up with it until they eventually broke up. She started dating the guy she cheated with, they got engaged, married and shes had a baby within the past year. They are NOT friends, as he was still stuck on her until we met. He blocked her myspace, ignores her calls and texts/emails, but the BI*CH wont get the hint. Now, she has the nerve to send him pics of herslef and her baby..I want to say something to her or write back, but he told me know and to let him deal with it. I need advice cause i am tired of her standing in the way of him trying to get over her (he is over her, but emails and calls dont help, they make him mad too) what do i do???
2007-05-15 17:04:27 · 27 answers · asked by HlpMePlz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry some things are spelled wrong, im just really frustrated!
2007-05-15 17:05:31 · update #1
he has been ignoring her for the past year, and i just feel like she never ever ever gets the hint. I am glad he deletes and ignores, but i just wish he wouldnt have to deal with that every week.
2007-05-15 17:33:56 · update #2
What a psycho. But, don't say anything to her it will only encourage her to do it more. Tell him that he shouldn't be saying anything in response to any contact from her as she will send more to get a response from him. My exboyfriend of 2 years his ex was crazy she did stuff to my car and all kinds of things to you are lucky if she isn't doing things to your belongings. My car was ruined b/c she put chocolate syrup in the gas tank and it ruined everything. I eventually had to get a new car. As well she called my house and spoke with my mom and found out my cell as well. Just be happy you aren't being attacked at this point. But, I would recomend contacting her husband to tell him she is still contacting your boyfriend that should piss him off enough to get them in a fight over it. Good luck hope things work themselves out.
2007-05-15 17:14:49 · answer #1 · answered by Golfr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is over her then you don't have anything to worry about, some people just can't take a hint, i've dealt with this situation as well and honestly after ignoring a person for so long they do go away, it takes time, some people are really hard headed lol, hang in there and ignore it, you two are together and she probably wants him back because she realized what she lost, although she should stick to the family she has now she probably needs a distraction from it and he's the best thing to play that part, just ignore it and move on with your lives. No point and dwelling on stuff that you honestly can't do anything about, wait it out and continue ignoring her.
2007-05-15 17:12:14 · answer #2 · answered by diamond694ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would respect his wishes on leaving it alone....but I know the feeling...it is hard. My husband's friend tried hooking up with him this past month. They never dated but she always had feeling for him. I left it alone, because I knew how much he loved me and I trusted him to do the right thing. So he sent her a email telling her he was happily married and he didn't want her to contact him again and it work. So my advice just hang in there. He will get tired of it and tell her something.
2007-05-15 17:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do. It is not your place to deal with her. I would have a serious talk with him as he is the only one who can truly stop her. Send back letters unopened, blocks her emails, do not take her calls for any reason what so ever. If she persists in contacting him he can send her a certified letter telling her to cease contacting him and he can go to the police station with all her emails and explain he has attempted many times to have he stop contacting him, they can issue a restraining order. Since he is not doing this I think part of him still wants contact with her. Maybe he wants to be friends with her if that is the case I suggest you have a deep talk with him explaining that it bothers you and you feel as if he still has feelings for her. If he still wants her to be part of his life the you have to make the choice as to whether or not you will accept her around you or not.
2007-05-15 17:15:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious that this chick has some attention issues that she needs to work out. Did you boyfriend give her anyother reason to suspect that he may have feelings for her. If not then....keep your dignity.....yes it is your man....but not your battle. He needs to be firmer in expressing is annoyance with her. She may have aslo realized that she messed up a good thing and is trying to salvage anything she has left....if your man loves you the ways he says then he will remain faithfull. Consider changin the phone number....getting off the internet for about a month or so, returning any mail unopened...there is always a way. Keep your head up ......best of all keep your composure.
2007-05-15 17:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by happybeans79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the child isn't his and he doesn't want to have anything to do with her HE needs to tell her to leave him alone and that if she continues he'll file harassment charges. I would also tell you to let him handle this. If you get all angry about it you'll seem jealous. I understand that the child isn't his, but her husbands but if it were his I'd say he has to talk to her or abandon his child and why would any female want to be with a guy who doesn't take care of his child. Sorry my own life problems getting in here. Anyway back to your problem like I said if you take any action it might cause problems in your relationship. Now there may be something you can do. You'll have to be sneaky. If she is still married you can get the phone number and let her husband know she is bugging your husband and trying to get in with him. Let him handle it.
2007-05-15 17:29:12 · answer #6 · answered by lil sis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl sounds like trouble! She is clearly trying to get back your man. Since there is not much you can do to change her behavior (we can control no one's actions but our own), it is up to your boyfriend here to do something about it, as this situation is obviously becoming detrimental to your reationship with him. The bad is coming from HIS side of the equation, it is HIS ex girlfriend who is messing things up and he should take care of this. Besides, doing something mean to her would only give her ammunition against you when she tries to get back with your man.
He is doing well by ignoring all her calls, but he obviously needs to make it MORE clear that she should get lost. My advice? Tell your boyfriend that this bothers you (and no, you're not overreacting), that he has to tell her off immediately, and tell her that he wants NOTHING to do with her. That means no e-mails, no photos. As much as you trust and love him, his ex being near the picture is making you uneasy on an instinctive level, and this is normal. His treating this like it is not your problem is no help, when it clearly is your problem because YOU are with HIM.
If he refuses or makes excuses, it's time to turn the tables on HIM. If he loves you and wants this relationship to work, and if he HAS truly gotten over her, then he should be willing to do everything in his power to make sure no one else threatens this relationship. If he's not, prepare yourself for the reality that all is not over between him and his ex....
Good Luck Best Wishes
2007-05-15 17:25:00 · answer #7 · answered by Safari G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really wants her out of his life he can block her from all the above mentioned. Read directions in the phone book on how to block certain numbers. If he truly wants her out of his life after he blocks everything, then I would print any emails and her sending pictures to her new address or better yet the new boyfriends address and see if he has any idea she is still in contact with your bf. But if it really bothers you I would say drop him if it is going to be a burden to your relationship and makes you totally unhappy. Life is too short to be unhappy with someone elses luggage. I hope this helps. And good luck to you.
2007-05-15 17:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by yellowfaries 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really is over her and doesn't want to hear from her he needs to ignore it, if she sends something delete it or throw it out. She will give up when she gets no response, a negative response is still a response. If you call her it will be a sign to her that you are insecure about the relationship and she may have a chance. But make no mistake, this is his issue to deal with. If he won't, you need to rethink your relationship with him.
2007-05-15 17:28:28 · answer #9 · answered by ophirhodji 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I have been there and it is bull poop. I'd tell him, if he wants to do it himself fine but he had better line her out NOW becuase you WILL give her a peace of your mind VERY soon if he doesnt. Then I'd also make him change his email, change the phone number and have it unlisted, take all steps to block her that you have to. You should not have to put up with this and if he cant understand that, I'd be worried that maybe he is still stuck on her.
2007-05-15 17:12:49 · answer #10 · answered by tomesphotos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋