he refuses to do anything he is told..and i mean ANYTHING. he gives the teachers at school nothing but problems by refusing to do his work and back talks. he has always been a little hard-headed but it has been unreal since they tried him on adderall. i took him off the meds but he still has the problems. he has also been having fits of rage where he will scream at the top of his lungs and claw at his eyes, throw things, swing and kick people. and all it takes to set him off is asking him to do simple tasks such as eat his dinner or get ready for school. i have tried time out (yea...did'nt work), i've tried taking things away..did not work either. i have tried all i know to do.. any advice?
2007-05-15 16:46:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
You could try using reverse-sycology. Take him to a counsler at his school.
2007-05-15 16:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by STARRFISCH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, who put him on Adderall? What was the diagnosis to put him on that medication, ADD? If so, they should have given him a full evaluation (700 point eval with interviews with teachers, family members, friends) and then ruled out any physical or medical problems that mimick ADD.
Second, have you looked at what he is eating? Is he eating healthy foods or junk? Children's behavior can be directly linked to what they consume.
I STRONGLY suggest you read the fantastic book "The ADD Book" by two doctors in the field, Sears and Thompson. This book goes into detail regarding testing, diet, scheduling, behavior modification, etc.
2007-05-16 00:04:35 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try the quiet process. No noise in the house. No music, tv,(not even for yourself), video games........get outside and listen to the breeze blow, call it to his attention. Speak in a soothing calm voice. It will benefit both of you.
In this bustling world we live in, it's no wonder our kids have such a hard time. There's so much to make their world and the inside of their heads feel like a racing merry go round...slow his life down and he may become calm. Kids need to know they are loved and need hugs from the heart, not swats on the rear.
2007-05-15 23:53:19 · answer #3 · answered by gypsy5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its because you probably gave in, try time out again, have him sit on a chair were he can not talk to anyone, he cant see tv, nothing and make sure your there the first month that you do this cause he is going to want to get up and play quietly, and dont give in start with 5 mins, and if he trys to get up you stand up and firmly tell him to sit back down, you need to hold your ground, he knows he can get away with it cause you give up easily so he continues to do what he does, he is old enough to understand what he is doing, and have it be a chair no lying down, let him cry, but dont have the chair facing the wall its a big no no, okay if that doesnt work take away the things he plays with
2007-05-15 23:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by lovejenie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try the behavior program 123 Magic. Yes it sounds lame but it works for alot of people. I recommend that you watch the DVD to get started. After watching it you can get started immediately. It is one of the best i have seen and its not hard to do. Check the school someone there might have a copy you can borrow. Good Luck and don't forget to breath.lol
2007-05-16 00:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by lostladybug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short of sending him to boot camp, I would suggest therapy, see if there is an underlying problem, and possibly take him into the docs and see what they can find. There could be a number of reasons, some could be him just wanting attention and power, others could be a chemical imbalance in his brain. My mom has the latter and acted similar to him and it came all out of the blue. Good luck
2007-05-15 23:51:18 · answer #6 · answered by April H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had similar issues last year with our son, he is 8 now. We took him to a great doc, thinking he probably was A.D.D., they hooked us up with a psychotherapist... It ended up that our son was picking up on the tension between my husband and myself (we have never even fought in front of the kids!).
We started a "respect" chart and it has worked great! If he does not do what is expected, it's 30 minutes in his room. I had to drag him to his room the 1st time, but not anymore. ;)
2007-05-15 23:55:36 · answer #7 · answered by Shay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like oppisitional defiance disorder
Symptoms of Oppositional Defiant Disorder
The symptoms of ODD may include:
Temper tantrums
Continuous arguing
Defiance of rules
Continual blaming of others
Angry and resentful affect
Spiteful and vindictive behavior
Frequent use of obscene language
you should take him to a psychiatrist to be diagnosed and treated since ODD can lead to antisocial personality disorder formely called psychopaths later in life
2007-05-16 01:05:30 · answer #8 · answered by futuredoc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a paddle. Consistent spankings on the bottom are the only way I know to solve this. Do it while he's young enough that it's appropriate. Past 12 is weird.
2007-05-15 23:55:06 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Eric Cartman 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need serious counseling on parenting skills. this behavior is the sum of what you have allowed to happen. This situation will never improve if you do not learn how to improve your parenting skills.
2007-05-15 23:58:59 · answer #10 · answered by atraumanurse911 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋