I haven't had contact with my ex in over 5 months. When we where together I always did something special for his birthday. Well, its his birthday soon and I am wondering if I should call and wish him a happy birthday or at least e-mail him a card. I don't know if he is involved or not but I wouldn't want him to think it is an invite to rekindle. I am just being my sweet self.
2007-05-15 16:28:38 · 23 answers · asked by Starlite 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To be honest - sounds like you never got closure when this relationship ended. If so, you would not care about his birthday or any other day. You still have some residual feelings for this guy. Now, ask yourself - has he made any attempt to contact you for your birthday? Christmas? Any holiday? If not - I'd use that as a message - don't contact him. Leave the past in the past. The point of sending an email, card or any other greeting is an EXACT attempt to have someone respond. The way I see it - if he doesn't respond - you'll be developing some anxiety over that - you'll be wondering "why didn't he say something about the card I sent? As my mother used to say - Just let sleeping dogs lie.".
2007-05-15 16:33:58 · answer #1 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. I've been there and it was nasty. My ex and I didn't have a bad relationship before we broke up. I called and said happy birthday and he wanted to catch up as friends and then we started to small talk online and that didn't turn out so great when his girl friend got wind of it and she decided to put herself in the middle of it. But all in all, it stirred up all the bad things in our past relationship and broken promises and it was just a huge mess. I wouldn't recommend it. A small, innocent gesture may not be taken the way you intended. If you do choose to, that's your decision and I wish you the best either way. Just be careful!!
2007-05-15 23:39:11 · answer #2 · answered by ladyusc229 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You're no longer with him, there's no obligation to continue being your sweet self. If you see him out in public, then it's okay to tell him happy birthday, but do not send him a card or call him. He'll think you still want him, and if he still wants you, then that can be quite awkward.
2007-05-15 23:32:16 · answer #3 · answered by Becca 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have had not contact with him in 5 months i wouldnt wish him a Happy bday he might think its an invite to get back together.
2007-05-15 23:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by snowlady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a man I would not recommend it considering he will figure why a woman still needs to dwell on him. He will think you still have feelings for him. Sometimes its best to leave the past where it belongs. In the past. I'm sure he will have no shortage of birthday wishes, and yours won't hurt nor help him. So leave it be and move on.
2007-05-15 23:34:05 · answer #5 · answered by reshardcarter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An e-card is impersonal enough so there's be no awkardness.
And you can't totatlly ignore him either, boyfriend or not, he was part of your life and you owe him at least a little e-card to congratule him for the day he was born.
2007-05-15 23:37:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do anything big like u would when u two were together but u could call and say happy birthday to him that shouldnt make him think anything or emailing him would be good too
2007-05-15 23:32:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were you, i would not. He would not be expecting anything from you either.
And who knows, he might start missing you for what you have done for him all those years and if he still has feelings for you, he might take some action, if that is what you want.
2007-05-15 23:34:14 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica C 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweet self? HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA....yea right. You might be nice and sweet, but if you are still thinking about your ex and doing something nice for their bday then you are doing more than being your sweet self! You miss him. Admit it! go ahead and call him. Even if he's involved, it's his bday!!!
2007-05-15 23:32:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, send him and e-card, why not. Who cares what is he going to make of it. If he indeed thinks you invite him back and if he asks or acts on it - say no, you didn't mean anything by it.
2007-05-15 23:32:05 · answer #10 · answered by Everybody's Favorite 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋