What does it mean when a guy that you have been broken up wtih but still talk to you because you want to make it work, but your taking a step back so you can work on your issues that you have with that person.. anyways that is the current situation with my ex and I. I am more impatient and he normally goes with his head. I guess most guys do, but he really does!. I know he loves me and only want sto be with me, so that helps me. He doesnt'w ant to be with anyoen else, he just wants us to take it slow since we just started talkin again. We were together for about 5 months and broke up about 5 months ago. We have known each other for 8 years. AND PLEASE LET ME MAKE THIS CLEAR.. WE DIDN'T TAKE ALL OF THIS TIME. WE DATED HWEN WE WERE 17 AND BROKE UP CUZ HE WAS GOIN OFF TO COLLEGE, AND THEN WE REUNITED BY CHANCE LAST MARCH, AND HERE WE ARE.. TALKING AGAIN. EVEN THOUGH WE BROKE UP ABOUT 5 MONTHS AGO.
ok, sorry about the caps, I jus tdont want people think he is the only guy I have cared for.
2007-05-15 16:21:58 · 6 answers · asked by Suzie Q 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am 24 now and I have been in like 3 serious relationships besides him. So yeah, I have more experience and I am not wanting to be with him because I am conforable. I have been there before and it isn't liek this with him. WE have always had something, even though we come from 2 diff backgrounds. He is afraid if we rush riht back into the relationship, the way it was almost a year ago when we started, that it may fail and then it will be over for good. He doesnt want to let me go he said. he wants to work on us. Anyways my 2 questions are this.. Is it good that he wants us to take it slow?? I mean he doesnt want us to date anyone else. this is just takin a step back to work on each other.
the other question is what does it mean when someone says, " You have gotten your claws in me now???? he said that to me.. he said that once I found out that he still wanted to be with me and loved me, that I had just made him think that I didn't mind this habit of his, so he would stay around. anyw
2007-05-15 16:25:32 · update #1
let me make something clear. I am always haveing to explain things over, because people don't read the entired thing. READ IT ALL OR DON'T FREAKING REPLY PEOPLE. NOT TO BE RUDE, BUT MY GOD. ok so here it is... he wants to be with me, but he wants us to take it one step at a time.. not rushing right back in to the relationship we had. i mean we dont want anyone else, we kinda act like we are together, but we aren't yet. ok that is al i have to say about that.
2007-05-15 16:30:33 · update #2
youre answering your own question. if he loves you and you love him, go back out with him. it means he still loves you.
2007-05-15 16:28:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok -first, your question is not really clear. You don't sound as if you are all that excited about getting back with this person - you mention that you are taking a step 'back' so you can work on issues that you have with him. That spells problems in my book. Whatever it was that you broke up about the first time - are these still the issues? If so - then there is a lot of time gone by for this person to 'still' have the same issues. If you are just not sure if you want to be in this relationshp - make sure you let him know that you want to take things ONE DAY AT A TIME. Make sure that you see all sides of the spectrum and not make the same mistakes. A lot of time has passed between you - there is a big difference in young teenage love and coming back around when you are adults - people change, and people develop even greater issues. Sounds like you are just not sure about this guy and in my book - when you have the slightest hesitation - you need to check it out - that is your mother wit telling you something. Don't ignore her.
2007-05-15 23:30:21 · answer #2 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it is hard to answer the question without asking others. Such as Why did you break up 5 months ago? Who called it off? And what has changed between then and now that makes you think he really is the one? Or that you are now ready for this but weren't ready before. While I can't say that I have never seen folks reunite and stay together, it is not usually a great idea to try to 'make' something work. I don't know the answers to these questions, but I can't help but think you would be better off finding someone who wasn't trying to cool off a relationship that has been cold for 5 months.
2007-05-15 23:32:53 · answer #3 · answered by drg20202004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no harm in taking it slow, but there can be harm if you take it too fast. Just try to relax and enjoy talking and possibly dating and hanging out with each other. Focus on being friends. If at some point it grows into something more than great...if not then no big deal b/c you both took it slow and just didn't connect like you hoped for. Anyhow, I wish you luck. Relationships are tough whether single and dating or married...they all have their rough moments. Hang in there.
2007-05-15 23:29:17 · answer #4 · answered by porkchopsgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is into you, he will commit.
You are more into him than he is into you.
You are thinking about the future more than he is, he is hanging around because his fantasy has not showed up yet.
Find a man that knows what he wants and has a solid reputation.
2007-05-15 23:32:32 · answer #5 · answered by upcguineapig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a college boy. I think he's more interested in women that know how to spell and put together sentences..
2007-05-15 23:31:17 · answer #6 · answered by autumn_rebellion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋