i want to have s e x ! I know im too young to think about s e x but i cant help it i want to do it!!! And with my bf.I want to tell him but idk how he will take it , i asked him once he said yes but now that i really want to do it and im sure i want to idk how to tell him??Im not young young im only 15.And i know it sounds young but just please give me an advice on how to tell him!!!!HAS ANYONE OTHER THAN ME GONE THROUGH THIS CRAP????COZ ITS TERRIBLE
2007-05-15 16:08:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl, I know that you realy want to. And I can respect you for that.
YOU MUST HAVE A CONDOM!
He is most likely not gonna have one. besure you know how to put one on, and that he wears it!
now back to the question.
Most males are driven for sex. And its no surprise that he said yes. so really its just a matter of a time and a place. Sounds like you will have to lead the show especially since he will be really nervous too.
BUT A CONDOM IS A MUST!
Good luck
Be sure you want him to be the first because firsts are only once in a life time....you will never ever forget him for as long as you live.
2007-05-15 16:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by Andrew R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can fully understand how you feel. Do you have mother or aunt or some adult you can talk to? It is my belief that during this time, when your hormones are raging and you are experiencing so many body changes and feelings, young people often make the most unwise decisions - because for the heavy moment - they want to do 'it' so badly, and then when it is over - there is so much depression and anxiety that it is very difficult for them to resurface with some clarity and peace of mind. You need to talk to an adult that you can trust. Having sex at this time, is not good. You should wait. I know your body might say 'yes' and your boyfriend certainly is not going to turn it down, but think about how you will feel afterwards. It can be the most embarrassing situation after you have done the deed when both of you are looking at each other more scared than ever - and not sure what you just did. Please wait. Don't put yourself in positions where you are so tempted. Stay with groups when you go out. Your body is your temple. When you expose it to someone, it should be your husband, someone you trust, have a great deal of faith in, and someone who is desiring a future with you. Young boys don't know what they are doing. I guarantee if you do this - every boy in school is going to know you 'put out' and you will have a reputation that you cannot live down. I have seen it happen over and over. Girls cry and are so sorry they gave in so easily. I really do understand, and I have been there and I waited until I was 21 and almost a graduate from college and I STILL did not make the right choice It was so unpleasant - I thought I loved my boyfriend and I was disappointed in the results. It was no fun for me. I resented him because he talked a good game, but he had idea what he was doing. Please, please wait. Read books, go to the mall, hang with your friends, visit local hospitals and bring some joy to the children who are sick - find something else to do, run track, anything to keep your mind stable and away from sex.
2007-05-15 23:19:39 · answer #2 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people are going to have a hard time giving you advice on this subject because of the age that you say that you are. I have an interesting perspective for you. I am a male who went through that experience at that age who is now a father. I would say a couple of things that might help you. I hope they are not too fatherly or old school. First of all you state that you are too young to think about sex. That belief may be part of what is causing your tension. Every person that I ever knew between the ages of 13 and 93 thinks about sex. Thinking about it, fantacizing about is perfectly natural at all ages. Wether or not a 13 year old or 93 year old should actually be having sex is another matter. I think you should look deep down at what is driving your feelings regarding this. Obviously if the two of you are bent on doing this no one is really going to be able to stop you. Just understand that people at your age very rarely stay together for very long. So protection not only from a sexually transmitted disease prevention standpoint but also from a pregnancy prevention standpoint would be a good idea.
If you are just looking for a way to ask him if he wants to have sex... then just ask him. Most men are always raring to go.
2007-05-15 23:39:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, well 15 is too young, if you are too young to care for a child then you are too young to have sex. but i know that you probably will anyway, so here is my advice. First of all, i would make sure this is the right person and that you truly love them, otherwise you might regret it when you are older. trust me, ive been there. secondly, if you think you are mature enough to have sex, then you are mature enough to tell him. So just tell him, tell him that you love him, and that you are ready. Just please use protection. Sometimes that doesnt even work, so just be careful. Ne ways just tell him how you feel. Relationships only work if both people are honest. So just tell him how you feel, im sure he is ready too. Good luck, and please be safe.
2007-05-15 23:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by sngbrd05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont say nething and turn ur words into action. If he stops you then maybe you guys can try something else. Just think, he already said "yes". But you had better use protection for sure, cuz ive seen WAY too many young moms in my day. be safe no matter what happens.
2007-05-15 23:19:46 · answer #5 · answered by Mr.XXX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first off all, because of your age, this topic is off limits unless you have your parents tell someone else that they can talk to you about sex. As for your BF, if he is the same age, unless he is a very "late bloomer"....he has the same thoughts. Whatever you decide, BE SAFE about it, and you know what I am getting at. That is about all that anyone can say to you without getting in trouble. State laws prohibit adults from talking to minors about this subject over the internet.
2007-05-15 23:15:51 · answer #6 · answered by PaganAndProud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great power comes with great responsibilities. Doing anything that you want is POWER.
Is that an immediate want? What will happen next if you have done s e x?
If so, ask yourself if you can take respobsibility after you have done it. If you can handle responsibility then do it, don't ask him coz that would just be a waste of time, just undress and do it. besides it doesnt matter what he thinks, what matters is that you want it. Right?
2007-05-15 23:17:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only answer this like I answered my own daughters at 15. Think of your first time as a very special gift. You can only give it once. If this boy is special enough for you to give him what you can never give again, then he is special enough for you to sit down and tell how you want to share it with him. If you arent comfortable enough to talk to him about it you arent ready to do it.
2007-05-15 23:16:07 · answer #8 · answered by Bookworm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all go through this stage. You are just curious. Keep it oral for a while if you do want any sexual contact. Dont do it until you are 100% sure you want too. It really isnt that much of a big deal.
2007-05-15 23:12:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever think of going to an AIDS Hospice and asking the opinions of a few terminal Aids patients?
If they would have waited for the right time, partner, conditions, etc?
2007-05-15 23:19:08 · answer #10 · answered by upcguineapig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋