hi my name is____ and i am 13. my mom passed away 2 weeks ago from breast cancer in her liver and its only my dad, my sister and me. My sister is 11 and we have no relatives from my mom's side living in the country anywere, they all live in singapore/malaysia. I love where i live and i love all my friends, my neighborhood, my school ect. I love everything here. My dad said that we might have to move to Singapore because all my family lives there and its going to be hard now without my mom being home and everything. My dad showed me this really cool american school in singapore with people from all over the world which i think is really cool. I just am going to miss my friends and community and all the good times here. My dad said that i will be able to come back here during breaks at school and all that stuff. i need help to cope with this great loss, and opinions on whether i should go or not. thanks so much its highly apreciated.
2007-05-15 16:06:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
hi... i'm very sorry to hear about your loss... i'm sure it will be difficult for you without your mother. it's going to be quite an adjustment (((((((hugz))))))))))
it seems as if you're willing to move, and change schools if you have to do so. i think that is a very brave and bright outlook for a young girl who just lost her mother. i'm very proud of you, even though we don't know each other.
it's also wonderful your father offered to allow you to visit back home during breaks at school.
you can find resources for help with your grief by doing a search on line -- look for COPING WITH GRIEF, THE LOSS OF A PARENT, GRIEF SELF-HELP.
take good care..my heart goes out to you.
i think you're a very brave, and sweet young girl.
2007-05-15 16:14:53 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I too will be moving in another country soon. My parents are working on it. I guess moving would be hard at first, especially when you're 13(I'm also 13 :p) but in the end, i pretty much think it would be nice. to tell you the truth I guess it depends on the country you'll be moving in. I've been to singapore before and I think it's just awesome because of it's enviroment but I don't know about the schools though.
We all just have to move on. What to do with your life in Singapore you ask? Just follow your heart all the time and everything will work out fine
2007-05-15 16:16:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. Life brings us many challenges and it's up to you how you go about them. Moving back to Singapore IS probably the best thing for you right now. You're still very young and have your whole life to experience the world and travel. The American school sounds great and just think you'll have all the stories to tell on what it was like to live here. Good Luck!
2007-05-15 16:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi am so sorry for your loss,xx. Well if you are close to your Dad,and can talk to him, let him know how you really feel,about moving.Tell him that your not ready to leave the family home just yet,and also your friends,if you are going to canceling about the loss off your mum,bring the way you feel up in the meeting,but you must let him know how you really feel,don't hold it back,you all need to stick together now,like your dad said to you,if you move from you friends that you could still see them in the holidays,so why don't you ask if you could still stay in the family home,and go visit the other family in the holidays, see what he says after that.good luck either way thoughts are with you and you family.xxx
2007-05-15 16:20:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. I can't begin to imagine what that must feel like. Now, you are faced with the possibility of leaving the life and friends that you know and are familiar with. You sound like a very strong and mature girl. Please know that your dad is trying to think of you with this possible move. I'm glad that you are open to going and like the idea of an American school. Your dad is thinking that you all will have more family to support you and that is something that seems to be really needed. 13 is such a tough age anyways and the struggles you are facing are tremendous. My suggestion is to stay strong in whatever decision is made and know that your mom is with you wherever you go!!! God Bless you and Good Luck.
2007-05-15 16:14:49 · answer #5 · answered by porkchopsgirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all I am so sorry for your loss, I lossed my Grandma who was basically my mom 2 years ago very suddenly! I know it is hard, but it will never go away, it'll just get easier to live with as time goes by, Moving to another country is another question, you must find your path, and you should be very open with your dad on your feelings! That way it is all out in the open, good luck
2007-05-15 16:11:57 · answer #6 · answered by symbion2099 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have been through alot and you are one smart and sweet girl! If your father thinks its best to move then you should. You will make new friends and life can be great in a whole new way! It can be sad to move and not see your friends but if you can come back and visit then you can see them again and have fun with them too! I think its okay to move, it might be hard at first but i promise life will get much better! Good luck to you!
2007-05-15 16:11:54 · answer #7 · answered by bighelp 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sometimes the best thing is change after a loss like you have gone through. I am very sorry for you and your Father and sister having to deal with that. It is really hard. I think your father is trying to do what is best for you. Good luck and God Bless you all.
2007-05-15 16:11:10 · answer #8 · answered by penelopejanepitstop 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im so sorry for your loss.
you should take some time and discuss this with your father further. its only been two weeks and you havent even begun to heal from her passing. good luck to you.
2007-05-15 16:12:40 · answer #9 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋