so my boyfriend is out of town working for the weekend and he just told me he went to a strip club, the one thing i've asked him not to do. he said he felt guilty and the guy he was with wanted to go..........ya know all those stupid excuses. anyway, i feel like he should appreciate me enough not to do that crap, he's 14 years older, has five kids, been divorced twice, and i was willing to accept all that......... but then he betrays me by going to the strip club....................so your opinions on the situation would be much appreciated, i just don't know what to do
2007-05-15 15:41:15 · 7 answers · asked by kristen 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
magic8.......trust me plenty of naked pics are sent to him
2007-05-15 16:05:40 · update #1
i guess i wouldn't be so upset but i feel like i'm sacrificing so much for him and he should just grow up and appreciate me in return
2007-05-15 16:07:43 · update #2
p.s. the pal is my brother..........how's that for a plot twist
2007-05-15 16:09:10 · update #3
Not going to the strip club is a simple thing to do. He isn't worth it. I'd say dump him and move on. If he is willing to betray and disrespect you, and then make excuses to cover himself up he isn't loyal and isn't worth your time. Also, if he has been divorced two times, couldn't this have been a reason he was? I'm sorry, but leaving him and finding a new boyfriend but be your only choice.
2007-05-15 15:47:02 · answer #1 · answered by Perrian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that he is betraying you as much as he is being selfish. When women have issue with "visual stimulation", you need to be clear and thorough on why you don't like your guy partaking in that activity and not just forbidding him to do something. If you tell him how it hurts you and he still continues, he either has an addiction that he needs help with or has no consideration for you in which case you made need another man.
2007-05-15 15:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by uk_alum99 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
did he leave the part out about buying a hooker? Its a guy thing, guys like looking at naked women. He didn't go sleep with anybody. Give him a naked picture of yourself when he's gone for the weekend that will give him something nice to look at while he's away from you.
2007-05-15 15:46:15 · answer #3 · answered by Rocky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is the deal be happy. Unless you are terribly insecure in the relationship relax. A strip club is one place you can send your guy and he won't get lucky. Think about it ? Now if he were out in a bar or club well ...............
2007-05-15 16:38:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't strong enough personally to say no to his pal, then what else will he say yes to. By telling you, I guess on one level you can say he's being truthful, but on another he may be testing you to see how far you will let your standards go for him.
2007-05-15 15:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by Zombie Birdhouse 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just missed the site of a naked body since u werent around
2007-05-15 15:44:35 · answer #6 · answered by corkydw89 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
5kids.....14 yrs older than you........been divored TWICE...........shouldn't that tell you something?
2007-05-15 15:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋