I broke up with my boyfriend today.I knew things needed to change because we were moving way too fast.He told me I shouldn't feel guilty for fooling around with him and being with him in secrecy.I had so much fun with him but part of me always believed it wasn't right.I thought it was just about being physical, but he says that it wasn't for him. I don't know if I believe him.
He told me that I should call him when I change my mind because he's sure I will. There's so much I don't like about him. He's so cocky and it makes me sick. The drugs and the drinking don't happen around me,but I don't like it.I can't be around that.I can see myself falling into it.He swears he isn't seeing anyone else but he told some girl they were going to party that night right infront of me.I think I wanted to be with him because he made me feel good.I've never had a guy say the wonderful things he said to me.
I thought I needed to be alone to get over my own problems.I'm in therapy right now.
2007-05-15 15:29:44 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well first of all he's cocky and he was wrong to t hink you'd come crawling back to you. So just forget him. There'll be others thats are better I promise you there will be.
2007-05-15 15:33:25 · answer #1 · answered by Thai 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Way to go girlfriend! You 100% did the right thing! That guys sounds like a total jerk and you might be sad and confused now, but you will soon realize you made the best decision of your life. It is way better to get out of that kind of that relationship as soon as you can then to wait before something bad happens. He only said nice things to keep you from running away because he sensed a little doubt in you. Any guy that does drugs and drinks is not the guy you want to be with. Whether he does them around you are not, the point is he does them which mess with his brain and makes him say and do things he doesn't realize. Continue going to therapy and getting the moral support, but whatever you do, do not go back to him no matter what he tells you. A girl's instinct is always right, and if you felt it wasn't right, then it probably wasn't.
2007-05-15 15:36:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think your relationship was moving to fast then sure its probably the best thing for you to break it off, and hes does sound like the cocky type saying that he "knows" you'll come back to him...well now you have the ball in your court why dont you play with it for a while ...in other words show him your so much more than that and that you dont "need" to be with him and you can do stuff on your own, if hes in to drugs and heavy drinking whether it happens around you or not ..it just needs not to happen, what happens if you two have kids together some day and hes continuing on his drugs...it'll be a problem down the road..might as well take care of it now
2007-05-15 15:34:46 · answer #3 · answered by sudge6915 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you made the right decision. You are two different people who, while there is love, dont have alot in common. Especially moral-wise. It's really hard for some people to look beyond character flaws (him being cocky) and sometimes we can't, so it's only going to drive you insane the longer u have to deal with it.
You said you like the way he said wonderful things to you. But hunny, if the only reason your staying with him is for that comfort, its not worth it.
With the drugs and drinking, he's headed down a bad path, and you dont need to be carried down with him. You did the right thing, don't second guess yourself, and call him, even if you think its just to "talk".
You feel that it just isnt right and you are absolutely right. No worries. You will find a guy who is right for you, and still have that comfort.
2007-05-15 15:36:28 · answer #4 · answered by Pookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could you even question if you did the right thing. Here are your own words:
"fooling around with him and being with him in secrecy"
"He's so cocky and it makes me sick"
"drugs and the drinking"
"he told some girl they were going to party that night right infront of me"
"I'm in therapy right now"
He was bad news for you. Most women aren't as strong as you! Congrats, you are one of the proud, one of the few!
2007-05-15 15:34:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Im sure you did the right thing! Ive learned that you should always follow the little messages that your gut tells you. It's difficult, but important to follow your instincts. You may find that you become more instinctive, the more you pay attention to those gut feelings. Your EX boyfriend dosent sound very genuine to me, anyway.
My Mantra= Dont settle!
Good luck to you, I think it's great that youre in therapy.
2007-05-15 15:38:39 · answer #6 · answered by Logic Lost And Found 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for getting out when you did! and getting therapy is excellent! You wont go back to him because you are a smart woman who deserves much more and will get it! Work on yourself and enjoy life! Tell yourself those beautiful things and let yourself shine! The right guy will see in your soul how great you are and honor you like you should be honored! Good luck!
2007-05-15 15:34:19 · answer #7 · answered by bighelp 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you KNOW something is bad for you..why try to force it. People only change because they want to. People get worst when you see behavior like his and stay with or go back to him..Think about it..it makes him feel irresistable. Like he can act any way and you or anyone else will still want him. Then he lives how he wants when he wants.
2007-05-15 15:38:02 · answer #8 · answered by nunya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing by breakingup with him because I don't think you would want to be around with somebody who makes you feel sick and does drugs and maybe cheating on you right infron pf you . You never know;right this moment he might be cheating on you and telling you his not.
2007-05-15 15:38:15 · answer #9 · answered by Victoria A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound young but age doesn't change my answer. YES!!! You did the right thing. If you want a boyfriend, find a true friend first.
2007-05-15 15:39:02 · answer #10 · answered by spikesmom3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋