me and my bf been dating for some time now (about 7months). he been acting wierd for some time now. i asked him and he says that he is going thru some stuff and didn't mean to act like that towards me. he soon told me what was going on. it was nothing really, he just saw too much into it. but he is still acting wierd. gets me confused. so i end up asking him. what it is that he wants, he tells me that he loves me and want to be with me. but his actions and other things he do tells me otherwise. i don't know what to think anymore. i told him to prove it to me that it is what he wants. only way for me to know for sure. but he ask me how and that he doesn't know of any way but to tell me. i don't really know myself how he can. but he just doesn't try at all. i don't know what to do anymore.
2007-05-15 15:08:18 · 10 answers · asked by SS3_GrL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
but probably just not talk to him for some time, maybe it will give him time to think it over. and if he really loves and wants me like he says. he will come and let me know. if not than i guess he doesn't really love and want me as much as he says he does. yes, it would really hurt to find out this way if he doesn't really mean what he says. but i really want to find out. i don't want to be waiting around anymore, if he doesn't care. i love him, but he makes it so hard for me. i really want to work it out and he says that he does too. but he doesn't try. what do i do?
please let me know if you think this is a good idea. if not, give some input on any idea that you have that you think might work. or you have done and have work.
2007-05-15 15:12:21 · update #1
Give him a chance and some time to deal with what he is going through. You may be thinking he saw too much into whatever problem he is going through but he might have a completely different perspective on the situation. It's not good that he is letting it affect your relationship, but he may also not be realizing how much it is actually affecting it. Explain to him that you don't like how things have become between you two. Tell him that you NEED to know for sure that he still cares. But also be there for him while he is going through this, be supportive and help him. If you really love him and care about him then you won't let something come between you two and ruin you're relationship.
2007-05-15 15:15:05 · answer #1 · answered by Beautiful♥Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, give it some time. I mean to you his problem may not seem like a big deal but to HIM it is and thats what matters. Whatever is bothering him it is obviously a big deal for him or a decision that is pressing on his mind. Either find a way to help him with the problem or his decision or just let him resolve it on his own and don't read into his ignoring you. He already said he loves you so trust him that he does and give him some time to work out his problems.
2007-05-15 15:14:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever give your bf or gf an ultimatum of "prove it"!!! If you can't take his word for it, then you might as well figure out that you are over!
2007-05-15 15:14:32 · answer #3 · answered by chrihutch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys can sometimes be alot more complicated than girls...apparently ur bf is one of those guys............dont take it out him but probably the only way to let you know how he feels(besides talking) is cheering up but still feeling down...or that one thing people do when they're ready
2007-05-15 15:13:07 · answer #4 · answered by corkydw89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my suggesetion to u is to give each other a break till he clears his head. tell him u guys need to be apart from each other till he feels ready to trust u and tell u what s going on with him... give him a break... if he loevs u... he'll come back... if he doesnt.... try and move on
2007-05-15 15:12:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh that's way too long, I didn't read it. I suggest you read my other questions and answers and learn from them. Everything you need to know also anyway is in
Shel Silversteins The Little Piece and the Big O
No s***
2007-05-15 15:11:56 · answer #6 · answered by JessesGirl 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you feel that he's stiff and doesn't show affection, then he probably no longer likes you and is in denial about it.
2007-05-15 15:12:06 · answer #7 · answered by LaissezFaire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to be more open with you. If he still feels depressed, he isnt communicating enough.
2007-05-15 15:12:54 · answer #8 · answered by Blax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actions speak louder that words, honey. tell him that
2007-05-15 15:12:21 · answer #9 · answered by ~~xoxox*jazmin*xoxox♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you relation ship is coming to a end..sorry he is thinking of some other girl
2007-05-15 15:12:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋