I found a teacher that I looked up 2 almost like a mother figure & I respected her. I wrote her 2 letters seeking advice for my teenage problems. She was my former writing teacher so I also gave her lots of my writing peices. I was asked to stop contacting her - but continued, & would try anything to be seen by her in the hall. I have pranked called her class phone, contacted her 21 year old daughter on MySpace, & think bout this teacher a lot & get her private info. I go out w/ my friends hoping to see her in public & make a scene infront of her. I recently lost my temper & yelled at her & accused her of something she didn't do, & got expelled cause she felt threatened by me. Now I have been out of school for 1 month & had 2 take a crazy test. A theripist that I have been required to see in order to get back into school said it seems that I seek to get info about her and to be close to her, and when I don't/can't I get angry/fustrated. What do you think?
(Im 14 & female)
2007-05-15 14:21:18 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
You are a stalker and sound like you need the help you are being offered. Take it or you will end up in jail.
2007-05-15 14:23:52 · answer #1 · answered by Alissandrya 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What do you think? Do you think you are a stalker? If not, why not? You are a stalker for sure in that your subject feels very uncomfortable and threaten by your actions and behavior.
Are you sexually attracted to her? Do you fantasize about being with her all the time? If so, is she always clothed or not?
If so,
How is your relationship with your own mother? Sometimes students feel their bonds to the teacher who's same sex as one of your parents who hurts or neglects you.
If there's something that you would like to improve between your relationship with your mom, try telling her how much it would mean to you if the relationship was mended.
There are kind of love that only your mom can give you. You can not get it from anyone else. Show your mom how much you love her and how much you would love to feel her love.
If not,
You might be a lesbian and have tendency to love more mature women. I can't help you with that scenario.
Either way, I hope you find happiness soon.
Good luck!!!
2007-05-15 14:42:28 · answer #2 · answered by Welcome to Vancouver 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are out there making scenes in public, you are at the very least, embarrassing. Do you have parents ? You are being a nuisance. It almost sounds like you're proud of yourself. I guess you're acting like a 2 yr. old. When you don't get your way, you start waah....waaaahhhh....You'd better leave peoples personal space alone. I'm curious as to why the teacher asked you to stop contacting her, and then you wouldn't quit ! You are lucky her daughter is 21. If I was your age, and that was my parent, I'd be having a discussion with you.....one time. It's obvious you need counseling, but moreso, you need Mr. D. West !
2007-05-15 14:38:58 · answer #3 · answered by Scorpius59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your level of involvment with this teacher is inappropriate. You shouldn't be seeking out personal information, nor trying to have contact with her outside of the school. You also crossed the line when you contacted her daughter, given the other efforts.
It sounds like you have some boundery issues, because if you had been told to stop contact, and persisted it sounds like you have a problem.
Maybe there is something in your person life where your not getting enough emotional support, or maybe theres some abuse going on, but you should work long term with a couseler on this.
2007-05-15 14:27:19 · answer #4 · answered by Kellie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are completely fixated on this individual. It is best to try and focus on things that are going to improve your situation, She doesn't like you and won't help you and could possible make your situation worse if you continue with this behavior. Find a new subject in school, take a new class even if it's at the community college, and make some new friends your own age. Give your loyality to people who derserve it, not someone who will not improve your life. Good luck and don't give up, roll models and mentors are available and if you find someone who you want to learn from and has a life you'd like as them to mentor you. Big Sister and Big Brother programs often provide that service.
2007-05-15 14:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by Katharine E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are a stalker. If you were asked to stop contacting her, someone must have felt your letters were threatening in some way(I understand you may not feel they were, but they were none the less). You really need to keep getting counseling even after you get back in school. The teacher is afraid of you and you need to try and look inside yourself and understand this fear, even if in your head it is unfounded, in her head(the one that counts) it is a founded fear. You are very young and can get passed this unfortunate time in your life. Get help now and go on with your life.
2007-05-15 14:32:00 · answer #6 · answered by Shy G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the things you're doing are wrong. You've frightened her. I'd be frightened by such activities.
Do you understand the concept "we don't always get what we want"? Just because you want something doesn't make it okay for you to act in the manner that you describe. Nothing would justify engaging in the activities you've described!
You have to understand that you aren't going to get what you want and be able to move on (throwing tantrums and acting out is best left to two and three year olds). Otherwise, you'll spend your life either institutionalized or in prison.
I'm sorry for you, and sincerely hope you work out your troubles.
2007-05-15 14:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by Zasu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are transferring your feelings of abandonment onto this teacher. You need to figure out who it is that you are really pissed at, who it is that you really seek attention from, and forgive that person. Your teacher doesn't deserve the hell that you are creating for her because you can't figure out what your own problem is. The key to healing if forgiveness. When you learn how to forgive, you will never lose your mind again.
2007-05-15 14:27:11 · answer #8 · answered by T Leeves 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was stalked by either an Iranian teenager and his accomplis or a mexican gang. You are the most vile human being on this planet if you were stalking that person.
I was stalked by two nuts who followed me, without my knowledge when I went for a walk to exercise.
I exercise on the same bike path almost every day.
So if someone was crazy enough to stalk me, they would be able to figure out my routine.
Those two bad guys attempted to murder me.
You are filth.
2016-04-04 13:53:33 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would suggest not contacting her. your intentions may be good but it will only create more problems. if anything write her a note explaining yourself and have someone else give it to her. other than that try to avoid anything that might be seen as trying to contact her because you might find yourself in jail if you dont. unfortunately i would have to say you fit the technical description of a stalker. i wish you the best and hope you can continue forward with your life. good luck.
2007-05-15 14:34:50 · answer #10 · answered by hunter1stshot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you should have stopped when you were asked to. A person has a right to choose who is in their life. You need to seek support in life elsewhere. I think your therapist is right and you should keep seeing the therapist. It sounds like you have some issues that you need to work through. Good luck sweetie, I'll pray for you.
2007-05-15 14:25:14 · answer #11 · answered by Mrs. Eric Cartman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋